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Couple at table beside me in restaurant obviously having an affair and they're now sitting across from me on train!

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GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 18:59

I'm on the train home from work right now and just had to post this. Just to clarify I know this is 2019 and I'm not nieve (sp!!) as to what goes on either. I had a half day from work today as met a friend for a long lunch to celebrate her birthday in a small restaurant. As it's a cosy restaurant we couldn't help but notice the people around us as the tables were close together. There was some background music but it was playing very low. Anyway after the starter and while waiting for our mains the couple beside us seemed to be talking louder, were merry on wine and flirty, we just assumed at first they were a romantic couple enjoying some time together (him late 30's or early 40's and her mid 20's) he had a married ring on, btw my friend is a people watcher as she says or maybe just plain nosey as I say! To cut a long story short, he received a phone call from obviously his wife with him saying how awful it is to be away at business conferences, but that's why they have such a good life because of the money he earns so a small sacrifice etc etc, ending with love you, miss you etc, this was so blatant that I think everyone in the restaurant could hear by now! The worst was he then spoke to his children on the phone while OW was sitting at the table and he was holding her hand and looking into her eyes at the same time, he then spoke to the wife again before ending the call with can't wait to see you on Fri! All the time the OW just sat there listening and swigging wine and looked like she really couldn't give a damn. We were so shocked about how candid they were and not seeming at all bothered about being overheard. Then they were all over each other as they left, we were glad to see the back of them, so I cannot believe that they have just got on at the next stop and are sitting opposite me, looking very dressed up (him in a tuxedo, her in a cocktail dress) so they must be going somewhere special and notably he has his married ring off this time. I've got sunglasses on so hope they don't notice me from earlier, though I very much doubt it! I'm wondering too how he managed to explain to his wife about packing a tuxedo for a conference in his case or maybe he has hired it? I would really love to tell him how disgusting his behaviour is but obviously won't. If I didn't know otherwise he sounded like a loving husband on the phone but instead he's a very good actor. Maybe he treats her well at home, who knows? What do you all think of this, would love to hear a mans opinion too if there are any men on here!!

OP posts:
Justanyrh1 · 10/05/2019 07:58

Goodness this is the sort of thing you only normally read in fictional stories.

Skittlesss · 10/05/2019 07:59

He had a married ring on...

He spoke to a woman and kids...

Do you think maybe he’s wedding?

Lifeover · 10/05/2019 08:06

Mind your own business. His wife could be a serial adulterer, be emotionally abusive, financially abusive, threatening to stop him see the kids, take him to the cleaners if he leaves. Refusing any intimacy from him. They could have an open marriage in a don’t ask don’t tell way.

These are complete strangers, you have no business judging them as you know nothing about them

stucknoue · 10/05/2019 08:07

Well the smart clothes could be for a business event. As for the "affair" perhaps they are, but perhaps wife knows and chooses to live a better lifestyle than she would have as a single parent, or maybe they are separated but civil, or all kinds of other arrangements which happen behind closed doors. We'll never know

jameswong · 10/05/2019 08:10

What do you all think of this, would love to hear a mans opinion too if there are any men on here!!

A man's opinion on what? Yeah, they're having an affair. Not really sure what you expect a man to say. "Wayhey go on lad. WHOARYA WHOARYA". Will that do?

Also "marriage ring"? Are you serious? wtf?

dogsdinnerlady · 10/05/2019 08:21

I am more outraged by the fact that OP doesn't understand the need for paragraphs. Anyway, not your business.

Lifeover · 10/05/2019 08:38

I’m also intrigued at what sort or relationship the married ring has, wonder if it was a ringlet free wedding?

Nonononon · 10/05/2019 17:06

Maaaaybe, he has a really weird close relationship with his mum and it was her on the phone, she was babysitting their DC and "OW" was his wife?? 🤔

Monthlystatement · 05/08/2019 15:07

Re: ‘married ring’, could it be that OP is foreign?!

Oooh all kinds of things! But generally they're a bit more intelligent and pleasant than your posts have been. Really??!! We must be watching two very different MN!

To the ‘mind your business’ squad, I hope that wasn’t your husband and I hope you won’t be one of these ladies that you see in the Relationships section that are devastated and shocked by their husband’s long term affairs whilst they were completely unaware for months of even years.

Way too many people (men and women) get away with affairs, met a lot of them in offices I used to work in. No one likes a cheater on MN, or so it seems, but when someone suspects a cheater and makes a post about it, the barking crowd is telling them to mind their own business. Make up your mind.

HariboLectar · 05/08/2019 15:11

Anyone else expecting an update from the OP to say she'd seen them somewhere else?

Couple at table beside me in restaurant obviously having an affair and they're now sitting across from me on train!
SunshineCake · 05/08/2019 15:44

No.

ACPC · 05/08/2019 15:47

Sunglasses, tuxedos, cocktail dress, train. Oh my.

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 05/08/2019 15:47

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Purplerain16 · 05/08/2019 15:54

Maybe him and his wife are poly? Open relationships DO happen, with the consent of both parties believe it or not. They also happen when the couple in question has children... Shocker I know Shock (sarcasm)

You literally know nothing of their situation. Don't be so judgmental!!

Mrsmadevans · 05/08/2019 16:14

How on earth can you be bothered with such trivial nonsense Hmm

Boysey45 · 05/08/2019 16:54

Nearly everyone I know has fucked about when either married or living with someone.Not your circus not your monkeys OP.

What next are you going to post that someone is breathing or having a drink of pop in public?

toffeeapple123 · 05/08/2019 16:59

NoCauseRebel Twatty troll

toffeeapple123 · 05/08/2019 16:59

Boysey45 What an awful group of people you are surrounded by in life.

matahairyy · 05/08/2019 17:01

How odd fo redirect this

midsomermurderess · 05/08/2019 17:01

It's a wedding ring not a married ring.

Nanamilly · 05/08/2019 17:07

This was originally posted a year or so back.

Whosorrynow · 05/08/2019 17:17

he had a married ring on
say what?
who or what was his ring married to?
since when did rings (or other inanimate objects) have the right to get married?

katewhinesalot · 05/08/2019 17:24

They work together and are attending a work do this evening. Whilst away they are indulging their long term affair. Age old pattern. Very sad but unfortunately very common.

I'd have been listening all agog too

VivaLeBeaver · 05/08/2019 17:26

I can't get over someone wearing a tux on a train.

Aridane · 05/08/2019 17:44

Did Tuxedo Man have phone on speaker enabling you/ whole restaurant to hear conversation with wife?

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