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Couple at table beside me in restaurant obviously having an affair and they're now sitting across from me on train!

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GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 18:59

I'm on the train home from work right now and just had to post this. Just to clarify I know this is 2019 and I'm not nieve (sp!!) as to what goes on either. I had a half day from work today as met a friend for a long lunch to celebrate her birthday in a small restaurant. As it's a cosy restaurant we couldn't help but notice the people around us as the tables were close together. There was some background music but it was playing very low. Anyway after the starter and while waiting for our mains the couple beside us seemed to be talking louder, were merry on wine and flirty, we just assumed at first they were a romantic couple enjoying some time together (him late 30's or early 40's and her mid 20's) he had a married ring on, btw my friend is a people watcher as she says or maybe just plain nosey as I say! To cut a long story short, he received a phone call from obviously his wife with him saying how awful it is to be away at business conferences, but that's why they have such a good life because of the money he earns so a small sacrifice etc etc, ending with love you, miss you etc, this was so blatant that I think everyone in the restaurant could hear by now! The worst was he then spoke to his children on the phone while OW was sitting at the table and he was holding her hand and looking into her eyes at the same time, he then spoke to the wife again before ending the call with can't wait to see you on Fri! All the time the OW just sat there listening and swigging wine and looked like she really couldn't give a damn. We were so shocked about how candid they were and not seeming at all bothered about being overheard. Then they were all over each other as they left, we were glad to see the back of them, so I cannot believe that they have just got on at the next stop and are sitting opposite me, looking very dressed up (him in a tuxedo, her in a cocktail dress) so they must be going somewhere special and notably he has his married ring off this time. I've got sunglasses on so hope they don't notice me from earlier, though I very much doubt it! I'm wondering too how he managed to explain to his wife about packing a tuxedo for a conference in his case or maybe he has hired it? I would really love to tell him how disgusting his behaviour is but obviously won't. If I didn't know otherwise he sounded like a loving husband on the phone but instead he's a very good actor. Maybe he treats her well at home, who knows? What do you all think of this, would love to hear a mans opinion too if there are any men on here!!

OP posts:
ForalltheSaints · 09/05/2019 21:04

I am a man. I am not married.

OP I don't think there is anything you can do, much as I feel sorry for the wife who is being deceived. Mind you, had I ever been in the situation described (assuming the OP has got 4 from 2+2), I would have left the table and gone somewhere else to continue the call (some dubious pretext such as going somewhere so as not to disturb others).

GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 21:09

As previously said I didn't interfere or say anything to them at all and I wouldn't have either. If I was his wife I would want to know. Maybe as a pp said they have an open relationship. There's no more to say on this now.

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ShitAtScarbble · 09/05/2019 21:10

If you really really do think we're going to fall for that autocorrect thing then you are without doubt the person behind Theresa May's assertion that the reason so many people voted for Remain parties at the local elections is because they want Brexit!

Positively Trumpian Grin

UnaCorda · 09/05/2019 21:10

I would have shouted loud enough for the wife on the phone to hear that he was with another women.

In the middle of a restaurant, surrounded by strangers? Hmm No you wouldn't.

Bluntness100 · 09/05/2019 21:15

I'd bet you'd care if it was your husband she's shagging

Or maybe you could blame the married man in this scenario and say you'd care if it was your husband shagging someone else.

Very odd how some women always blame the woman, never the man. Eh?

tararabumdeay · 09/05/2019 21:18

These things happen. I used to work in a posh pub/restaurant/hotel where people would meet up for o.l.d. The biggest giveaway was if there was one room booked but they arrived in two cars.

I've seen and heard people walking in the car park on their phones obviously checking in with home. Half a conversation - 'give "Bubby" a kiss from me. Love you!'

No matter if the OP's post is sensational; It happens. If you want to know the details ask the staff.

clandestinenetwork · 09/05/2019 21:20

Lol.

LuckyLou7 · 09/05/2019 21:21

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ChiaraRimini · 09/05/2019 21:23

I'm just here to ask why he had his "married ring" on at lunchtime but had taken it off later. Surely this must be an important plot device OP?

justforthis6473 · 09/05/2019 21:24

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AgentPeggyCarter · 09/05/2019 21:24

Nasty mealy mouthed gossipy cow.

With a vivid imagination.

wichitalinemanswoman · 09/05/2019 21:26

I'd mind my own business and suggest you do the same.

Nonononon · 09/05/2019 21:26

I wonder if they're enjoying the ball now.

Nonononon · 09/05/2019 21:27

On a thursday night.

LemonTT · 09/05/2019 21:33

There was a sunny evening somewhere today? Its cold and damp here.

In your defence I am not sure why anyone would make this up

Shaggydog99 · 09/05/2019 21:35

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user1495832265 · 09/05/2019 21:37

Grin shaggy

Laiste · 09/05/2019 21:42

''As previously said I didn't interfere or say anything to them at all and I wouldn't have either. If I was his wife I would want to know. Maybe as a pp said they have an open relationship. There's no more to say on this now.''

Confused So you would never have said anything to them you don't know who they were and you'll never see them again.

And apparently now there's 'no more' to say about it.

Not sure what the point of this was.

sonjadog · 09/05/2019 21:46

I would love someone to try shouting loud enough to be heard on a mobile phone so that a complete stranger´s wife would hear them saying that he was with another woman. Especially in a public place with lots of people around.

ReanimatedSGB · 09/05/2019 21:47

Oh fucking hell, out come the self-appointed monogamy police, all those whose lives are so pointless they are incapable of minding their own business.

Yesicancancan · 09/05/2019 21:53

Come on admit it op, you are the ow, you are annoyed he had the cheek to speak so convincingly and loving to his wife.

BadLad · 09/05/2019 23:43

would love to hear a mans opinion too if there are any men on here!!

Please use paragraphs.

Kiltartan · 10/05/2019 07:47

BadLad Grin

Vulpine · 10/05/2019 07:52

Not sure going on mn really counts as gossip as no-one knows anyone involved Hmm. But they sound like an odious couple.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2019 07:55

I would dump this one after the 1st page