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Couple at table beside me in restaurant obviously having an affair and they're now sitting across from me on train!

128 replies

GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 18:59

I'm on the train home from work right now and just had to post this. Just to clarify I know this is 2019 and I'm not nieve (sp!!) as to what goes on either. I had a half day from work today as met a friend for a long lunch to celebrate her birthday in a small restaurant. As it's a cosy restaurant we couldn't help but notice the people around us as the tables were close together. There was some background music but it was playing very low. Anyway after the starter and while waiting for our mains the couple beside us seemed to be talking louder, were merry on wine and flirty, we just assumed at first they were a romantic couple enjoying some time together (him late 30's or early 40's and her mid 20's) he had a married ring on, btw my friend is a people watcher as she says or maybe just plain nosey as I say! To cut a long story short, he received a phone call from obviously his wife with him saying how awful it is to be away at business conferences, but that's why they have such a good life because of the money he earns so a small sacrifice etc etc, ending with love you, miss you etc, this was so blatant that I think everyone in the restaurant could hear by now! The worst was he then spoke to his children on the phone while OW was sitting at the table and he was holding her hand and looking into her eyes at the same time, he then spoke to the wife again before ending the call with can't wait to see you on Fri! All the time the OW just sat there listening and swigging wine and looked like she really couldn't give a damn. We were so shocked about how candid they were and not seeming at all bothered about being overheard. Then they were all over each other as they left, we were glad to see the back of them, so I cannot believe that they have just got on at the next stop and are sitting opposite me, looking very dressed up (him in a tuxedo, her in a cocktail dress) so they must be going somewhere special and notably he has his married ring off this time. I've got sunglasses on so hope they don't notice me from earlier, though I very much doubt it! I'm wondering too how he managed to explain to his wife about packing a tuxedo for a conference in his case or maybe he has hired it? I would really love to tell him how disgusting his behaviour is but obviously won't. If I didn't know otherwise he sounded like a loving husband on the phone but instead he's a very good actor. Maybe he treats her well at home, who knows? What do you all think of this, would love to hear a mans opinion too if there are any men on here!!

OP posts:
GabsAlot · 09/05/2019 20:05

i love he idea of saying hey how are u and the family like u know him

but i havent got the balls

Nonononon · 09/05/2019 20:06

Cocktail dress+tuxedo+train. 🤔
Could have at least booked an uber to add to all the adultery wooing.
tight sigh.

SilverySurfer · 09/05/2019 20:07

Btw I'm not gossipy at all, they're table was about 2 feet from ours and frankly we would rather not have heard

Much.

As much as I loathe cheaters this is absolutely none of your business.

LorelaiRoryEmily · 09/05/2019 20:09

Married ring?Confused It’s a wedding ring

BlueberriesAndCream · 09/05/2019 20:11

Are you by any chance going to the theatre tonight, OP?

Wouldn't it just be SUCH a coincidence if you ran into them there, too. Please do update us as to what happens next!

It would be funny if someone who knows him happened to be there too, and it escalated from there, and you saw the whole thing.

NoCauseRebel · 09/05/2019 20:15

Why r people so protective over this mans feelings ?? Isn’t his wife that deserves to know the truth . well, quite aside from the fact I don’t believe this happened in the way the OP claims it did, no, I don’t think the wife is anyone’s business really given no-one actually knows her and random strangers are not privy to the in’s and outs of someone else’s marriage they have only ever seen in a restaurant.

No-one does all right all of the time, and while some may not be committing infidelity everyone has something which someone else would be deemed to be worthy of judgement. But if you don’t know the individuals or their circumstances then you just don’t get involved.

I don’t have an issue with the gossip element of it tbh, given that they’re out in public and it seemed to be fairly obvious, but tweeting pictures of random strangers you’ve encountered in a restaurant is a step way too far and enters into the realms of creepy teratory. Where do we draw the line there?

mabelsgarden · 09/05/2019 20:17

Baffled as to why you think it's any of your business tbh. Confused

You need to get some hobbies @GreenSalad5 .

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Justaboy · 09/05/2019 20:18

You should have asked her to write;

"I'm that other woman you all love to dispise, ask me any questions you want"

On MN!..

MrsMaisel · 09/05/2019 20:23

Are you on the Orient Express? Is this a 1950's movie...oh wait, no telegrams.

Kiltartan · 09/05/2019 20:23

Of course people having affairs choose tiny, silent, crowded restaurants in which to complain loudly to their betrayed spouses on the phone about the pain of absence and how small a sacrifice it is really because his giant salary pays for them all to have a lovely life, and to profess undying love for their wife and children while the Other Woman plays footsie with them in her Scarlet Woman stilettos and suggestively fondles their wedding ring across the Merlot.

And then they inexplicably get on a commuter train dressed for a formal event, but without that pesky ‘married ring’, and happen to encounter the lynx-eared woman at the next table, this time hiding behind dark glasses.

Happens all the time.

slashlover · 09/05/2019 20:34

I would have shouted loud enough for the wife on the phone to hear that he was with another women.

Of course you would. Hmm

SmileEachDay · 09/05/2019 20:34

Kiltartan

Well if you’re saying is hasn’t happened to you I think you’re lying.

BIWI · 09/05/2019 20:35

Nasty, small-minded, voyeuristic and totally and unnecessarily ghoulish.

What's the point of this post, OP?

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GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 20:38

I'm home now! @Kiltartan I was wearing sunglasses because it was sunny and I was sitting beside the window, surely not hard for you to understand! Also if these people are along way from home then they could choose any restaurant they wanted couldn't they, why would it have to be secluded? Yes it should say 'wedding' ring not 'married', my phone must have predictively changed it somehow based on an e-mail I sent earlier. Also, for those talking about this being gossip, well I suppose it is but no names or places have been mentioned, please let me know what subjects we are allowed to talk about on MN, is it just baking and knitting then like the 1950's, or is there a reason why MN have a 'topic' selection. Some of you sound very stuck up!

OP posts:
Kiltartan · 09/05/2019 20:38

It’s how I spent my afternoon, Smile, only I flung off my spy glasses, wrestled the cocktail-dress clad Other Woman to the floor of the train carriage, took close-up photos and put them on FB with the caption IS THIS FLOOZY BOFFING YOUR HUBBY??? as they both sobbed in remorse and promised amendment.

I swear this all happened.

SmileEachDay · 09/05/2019 20:46

Yes it should say 'wedding' ring not 'married', my phone must have predictively changed it somehow based on an e-mail I sent earlier

Twice

Also, for those talking about this being gossip, well I suppose it is but no names or places have been mentioned, please let me know what subjects we are allowed to talk about on MN, is it just baking and knitting then like the 1950's, or is there a reason why MN have a 'topic' selection. Some of you sound very stuck up!*

Oh? I thought you weren’t gossipy? 🤷🏻‍♀️ You asked what people thought. I think you’re gossipy and nasty.

mabelsgarden · 09/05/2019 20:46

@GreenSalad

I am home now.

No-one cares. Wink

GreenSalad5

some of you sound very stuck up.

And you sound like a nosey interfering busybody who needs to get a life, and keep your beak out of other peoples lives. 🙄

That's if any of this actually happened.

specterlitt · 09/05/2019 20:47

Wow, do you not know how to mind your business. Please try that when you're out and about, most often than not people take 1 and 1 and create 9. You do not know anything for certain and are speculating and sound like that gossipy neighbour the whole street dreads.

Focus on your own life and spending time with your friends and family when out and about instead of judging others and then making ridiculous threads based on your speculation.

Sagradafamiliar · 09/05/2019 20:47

I'm cringing at you saying you hoped they didn't recognise you, you're a complete stranger to them, why would they give a flying frig?
Most married men don't speak lovingly on the phone to their wives in front of their mistresses either, they like to pretend they are 'so unhappy and living separate lives'.
It was probably an elder DD he was talking to, and is on a date with his wife. Or they're in an open relationship.

mabelsgarden · 09/05/2019 20:47

@GreenSalad5

I am home now.

No-one cares. Wink

GreenSalad5

some of you sound very stuck up.

And you sound like a nosey interfering busybody who needs to get a life, and keep your beak out of other peoples lives. 🙄

That's if any of this actually happened.

HBStowe · 09/05/2019 20:48

my phone must have predictively changed it somehow based on an e-mail I sent earlier.

Absolutely, this is definitely a believable thing that happens.

SmileEachDay · 09/05/2019 20:49

Damnit. Bold fail.

Kiltartan
I hope you also called the Daily Mail to inform them that you’d ~made up~ I mean observed all this?

specterlitt · 09/05/2019 20:49

You're calling people here stuck up yet you have literally written a post purely based on speculation about people you do not know ANYTHING about. Like many have said, including myself, learn to mind your business and step back from the gossipy antics, it's pathetic.

BIWI · 09/05/2019 21:00

please let me know what subjects we are allowed to talk about on MN

Oooh all kinds of things! But generally they're a bit more intelligent and pleasant than your posts have been.

If you genuinely think that we'd believe your phone corrects 'wedding' to 'married' you must really think we're all stupid Hmm

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