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Couple at table beside me in restaurant obviously having an affair and they're now sitting across from me on train!

128 replies

GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 18:59

I'm on the train home from work right now and just had to post this. Just to clarify I know this is 2019 and I'm not nieve (sp!!) as to what goes on either. I had a half day from work today as met a friend for a long lunch to celebrate her birthday in a small restaurant. As it's a cosy restaurant we couldn't help but notice the people around us as the tables were close together. There was some background music but it was playing very low. Anyway after the starter and while waiting for our mains the couple beside us seemed to be talking louder, were merry on wine and flirty, we just assumed at first they were a romantic couple enjoying some time together (him late 30's or early 40's and her mid 20's) he had a married ring on, btw my friend is a people watcher as she says or maybe just plain nosey as I say! To cut a long story short, he received a phone call from obviously his wife with him saying how awful it is to be away at business conferences, but that's why they have such a good life because of the money he earns so a small sacrifice etc etc, ending with love you, miss you etc, this was so blatant that I think everyone in the restaurant could hear by now! The worst was he then spoke to his children on the phone while OW was sitting at the table and he was holding her hand and looking into her eyes at the same time, he then spoke to the wife again before ending the call with can't wait to see you on Fri! All the time the OW just sat there listening and swigging wine and looked like she really couldn't give a damn. We were so shocked about how candid they were and not seeming at all bothered about being overheard. Then they were all over each other as they left, we were glad to see the back of them, so I cannot believe that they have just got on at the next stop and are sitting opposite me, looking very dressed up (him in a tuxedo, her in a cocktail dress) so they must be going somewhere special and notably he has his married ring off this time. I've got sunglasses on so hope they don't notice me from earlier, though I very much doubt it! I'm wondering too how he managed to explain to his wife about packing a tuxedo for a conference in his case or maybe he has hired it? I would really love to tell him how disgusting his behaviour is but obviously won't. If I didn't know otherwise he sounded like a loving husband on the phone but instead he's a very good actor. Maybe he treats her well at home, who knows? What do you all think of this, would love to hear a mans opinion too if there are any men on here!!

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Stoplookandgo · 09/05/2019 19:40

MYOB

Schuyler · 09/05/2019 19:42

This isn’t anything to do with you. Did you embellish btw? Sounds massively OTT..

Sleepdeprivationistorture · 09/05/2019 19:42

As you go to get off at your stop put your hand out to shake his and say something like ‘by the way I’m Helen, a friend of your wife’s.’ And give him a look that says you know what he’s up to.

JuniFora · 09/05/2019 19:43

Don't be so creepy and intrusive as to take a picture to post online or send to his wife. You have no idea who these people are or what their situation is. You don't know the consequences of any interference from you.

It's none of your business. Focus on getting your own life so you don't feel the need to intrude on other people's.

HBStowe · 09/05/2019 19:44

I’m actually not getting over this.

A tuxedo? He wore a tuxedo to dinner in a restaurant? Genuinely?

A tuxedo?

Sagradafamiliar · 09/05/2019 19:44

There's nothing obvious about it because you don't know them. Don't make a twat of yourself OP

IABUQueen · 09/05/2019 19:46

As you go to get off at your stop put your hand out to shake his and say something like ‘by the way I’m Helen, a friend of your wife’s.’ And give him a look that says you know what he’s up to.

Oh genius!

NoCauseRebel · 09/05/2019 19:48

Good god what a load of self righteous people on this thread. Other people’s lives are literally none of anyone’s business and some random member of the public is not judge and jury.

In similar circs I might mention to my DP/dh/ a friend what I’d seen but more on a personal gossip level iyswim. E.g. I remember when my ds was little going to the park and a dad was there with his ds. The ds was about the same age as mine and they played on the slide/swings while the dad talked to me. He told me that his wife had just had a baby and that he and his ds were going away for a few days to give his wife some space as her mother was coming to visit. He then wandered off as his ds was on the slide, and I heard him on the phone confirming travel details for .... three people - two adults and one child. The assumption was of course that he was having an affair, and as luck would have it I encountered him a couple of years later at a birthday party. But never in a million years would I have taken it on myself to locate the wife and tel her what he was up to. None of my business even if I didn’t approve of what he was doing. I mentioned it to my then DH, and we sort of judged in the confines of the living room, but the rest is their life and not my business.

wonkylegs · 09/05/2019 19:50

My DH has taken a tux to several conferences but that's because they often have big posh dinners at the ones he goes to. I've been to some and seen photos (and stupid videos) from others. Depends on the industry

Allhailthesun · 09/05/2019 19:51

FFS Can’t people read. Op is on a train. He’s got on in a tux and the “ OW” is in a cocktail dress. Nothing to do with the lunch /restaurant apart from it being the same couple.

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GreenSalad5 · 09/05/2019 19:52

Actually I would care if it was my husband and I'm sure you lot would too! They've got off the train now but I did think about taking a sneaky pic but thought it would be far too obvious being as they were sitting directly opposite me! When I said tuxedo/dinner jacket I meant he was wearing it on the train not in the restaurant at lunchtime. I may have ravelled a bit in my original post as was typing quickly! Btw I'm not gossipy at all, they're table was about 2 feet from ours and frankly we would rather not have heard! But please don't tell me it wouldn't make you think about your own OH's when they're travelling on so called 'business' because it has certainly made me think!

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louisvootin · 09/05/2019 19:53

update us op

Polarbearflavour · 09/05/2019 19:53

Taking a photo and putting it on Twitter. Some people are obviously weeing in their pants in excitement at this.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 09/05/2019 19:54

This loosely follows the storyline of a radio 4 afternoon drama I listened to a while back...

Fiveredbricks · 09/05/2019 19:54

"married ring" 😂

Try harder OP.

SmileEachDay · 09/05/2019 19:55

No she doesn't. This is a married man with kids he deserves to be called out for this

Yeah, and she “called him out” by posting a “oooh what do you guys think” post on MN. That’s gossipy. And mean.

OP take a photo and put it on Twitter
Ah. Well that’s why you think the OP is all good. That is definitely prioritising how his wife would feel isn’t it? Jesus.

tinatsarina · 09/05/2019 19:55

I would have shouted loud enough for the wife on the phone to hear that he was with another women.

Fiveredbricks · 09/05/2019 19:57

How does anyone even know it was his wife he was on the phone to?! Get a grip, OP. They could even have an open relationship.

mydogisthebest · 09/05/2019 19:57

Well I think they are both disgusting. Him for treating his wife like shit and being unfaithful and her for having an affair with a married man.

I loathe infidelity. No excuses, it is totally wrong

SmileEachDay · 09/05/2019 19:58

Btw I'm not gossipy at all, they're table was about 2 feet from ours and frankly we would rather not have heard

So much so that you immediately posted a gossipy thread on MN.

NoCauseRebel · 09/05/2019 20:01

For all the people saying they would take pictures and put them on twitter, shout for the wife to hear etc, no you wouldn’t. I’d bet money you all have family and friends who are having affairs and you are either oblivious or are turning a blind eye to them.

Nobody is that right on that they would call a stranger out on their behaviour like that. Not a chance.

BoreOfWhabylon · 09/05/2019 20:03

MrsJBaptiste · 09/05/2019 20:04

Who cares if the OP is gossiping, do you lot never gossip with friends? 🙄

IABUQueen · 09/05/2019 20:05

Why r people so protective over this mans feelings ?? Isn’t his wife that deserves to know the truth .

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