To have a 5th child

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I have 4 children ages 13, 9, 8 and 4 (5 in a few days), recently DP and I have been discussing have another child, he completely up for it but I'm still a little unsure. I have a few concerns like we currently live in a 4 bedroom house, oldest two share and youngest two have their own bedrooms. 8 year old is the only boy and if were to have another boy they would probably share but there would be a big age gap and DS wouldn't be impressed. That or we move to a bigger house which we might not be able to afford where we currently but would be able to if we move slightly further away. Another concern would be there'll be 5/6 between them and our current youngest so new baby might feel left out or the odd one out although not all our children are very close in age. I'm also unsure about going through pregnancy again, I've never really enjoyed it, baby, toddler stage and so I'll happily go through again but pregnancy I'm willing to go through not exactly happily though. On the other hand I'd love to have a fifth child and these concerns and problems can be worked through

Hi OP if you are still reading this.

If your main reason for not having a 5th child is due to your fears of causing the apocalypse with all your carbon use (I must have missed that in your post as one of your reasons against, don't worry. My twins have recently died at birth, so you can have their carbon, as a family we won't be needing it. That's one babies carbon footprint spare, so you could have a nice holiday too if you like.

Sorry if my comment sounds flippant but I am really shocked by a lot of the responses here and the guilt being laid at your door.

If you want a 5th and you will love them like you love the other children then go for it, you know your situation best. If you really don't think a 5th is for you, then be honest and talk to your husband.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

@englishdictionary Spot on comment. What void does the 5th child fill that the others haven't?

User147 I’m so sorry for your losses
I’m a fifth child and don’t imagine I filled any void as was probably an accident - very much loved by both parents. I do try to do what I can to make a positive difference to the world so hopefully can make up in some way for the extra resource consumption brought on by my existence.

I didn’t have any of my children to fill a void.