What is the point of trying to make friends if no one is interested?

[krustykittens]

Sort of a thread about a thread. A poster was saying they ignored at a children's birthday party and a lot of people replied saying it was probably nothing personal, that by adult hood most people have all the friends they need and are not interested in widening their social circle. Do most of you find that is the case? If so, what is the point then of volunteering and getting involved with your community when you move some where new? I find myself in this position and after reading that thread the other day, I honestly think I should just give up and resign myself to becoming a hermit!

I know it will maybe sound daft if you're not even slightly religious (like me!) but we're going to church a lot in the run up to our wedding next August and it's pretty easy to find people to befriend there. They might be older than you etc but once you see the same people most weeks and go to events together, especially if you live quite nearby, it would be easy I'd have thought to have some over for a coffee or a glass of wine or whatever. Our vicar is a babe and I'm sure if I told her I was feeling lonely and had no friends she'd go out of her way to help me

Also I don't know

Sorry! Posted by accident.
I don't know if it applies if you're quite rural but I've just joined a small local gym, not a big faceless national one, and I've already started making friends with other women who go there? Just from being in the same classes and seeing each other there a few times a week