AIBU to want revenge?

[BitterSweet678]

I know the best form of revenge is to hold you head up high, smile, and show them what they lost.

However, I’m hurt, angry, upset, confused and frustrated. Right now I’m channelling all that into revenge, which is the only thing keeping my head above water.

EXp cheated on me, formed a whole secret life behind my back for years. In that time I have supported his business, DC, and generally took on the responsibility for all his life. Stupid I know. I’ve been hurt in the past, never took revenge, but this time it’s different. He led me down a path of being happy, promises, a future, used me, betrayed me.

Firstly I can report his company for tax evasion? Which would also push him over the VAT threshold of being self employed. He takes so much cash, and also gets funds transferred into other accounts, to avoid tax and vat. He said this was to help his build out future, his business, more like fund his other life?

Tell his ex that he is only paying a 1/3rd of the CSA amount that she is due. This is a huge argument, and the DC suffer because of it. As she can’t afford clothes, food etc... I do think her lifestyle plays a part in this. But the exP always said it would help when he went for full custody, as she looks unfit!

Dump all his belongings in a charity bin? They are all paid for by me.

Shread all his personal documents.

Cancel all his car and van insurance which is all paid for my me, registered to my home, and I am also named on the insurances.

I know some of these seem extreme, and yes I am bitter. I have tried talking to him, but since the revelation of his affair he has gone NC. I just can’t shake this anger, is this something I will regret?

Do it all. Good luck!

I’d do it all without a second thought.
But i am a vindictive bastard.

Drop the kid's stuff at their mum's house if nearby.
Return all mail as not at this address
Cancel insurance and receive whatever refund on premiums you can get based on time lapsed.
If he has not collected his stuff, you could always sell it and go halves with ex wife!

I would not be paying anymore joint policies, car etc. As for reporting him for tax evasion, that would mean your affairs being looked, despite being innocent you would be dragged into it, do you need that right now.

It all sounds vindictive, childish and pointless.

And some of it will come back and bite you on the bum when you least expect it, OP.

Move on with your head held high.

If I was out of pocket I'd do it, no shits given. Karma is a bitch.

Haven't rtft. OP you knew he was a chancer, you played along, letting him hide money on his other family.
But the exP always said it would help when he went for full custody, as she looks unfit!
Karma is a c*nt when it visits, his turn will come next, you can help it by reporting, why not.
His new partner must be deluded to get involved with him.