Was in the wrong? DH thinks so

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My hearing is going and has been slowly getting worse past few years. I just tried to run a bath and something is wrong with the boiler. DH was trying to fix it and then suddenly started shouting. I shouted back to repeat what he’d said as I couldn’t hear him. He shouted again and so I shouted back that I couldn’t hear him. He then shouted “shut up! I’m not talking to you!”

So turns out he was shouting at the dog but I didn’t know that!! Now I’m mad at him for telling me to shut up, he’s mad at me for calling him a bossy purple and he says I was making the dog misbehave by shouting!!! I was in the bathroom, nowhere near the dog.

AIBU to think he didn’t need to get mad over a mishearing?

Firstly, sorry about your hearing loss.
But secondly, I just love the insult "bossy purple"😂 Never ever heard it before, has anyone else come across it?

Stop playing the victim and go and get your hearing checked. I've lived with someone with significant hearing loss and it can be bloody annoying.

I also had problems with my hearing. So I made a GO appointment and got it sorted.

Bossy purple is a well known expression. Hence why it’s probably taken

Well known by whom? And why is purple bossy and other colors aren't? I bet blue isn't bossy, it's just "assertive."

We haven’t all seen the ocean
Yet you know what the ocean is and seen pictures......
You can use a phone, post on this forum.....you don't need a particularly large IQ to look up repair men and book them.

Maybe you just like being co-dependent and refusing to help yourself is your way of getting that neediness fulfilled?

OP has he cleaned up the garlic sauce yet?

I remember the garlic sauce one. Couldn't understand it but I remember it.

I'm still confused here.

Did you call your DH a bossy purple?
Or did you call him a bossy person and then misspell it?

Yeah I could call the boiler bloke and then suffer days of silence by DH for wasting money.
I have appointment at Utah GP Tomorrow for tachycardia so I’ll ask about hearing then

DH has just eaten mouldy (fluff and everything) salsa despite me telling him not to. That’s how much he listens to me.

There was no cake and no DSS

I don't know anyone that uses the phrase bossy purple! It can't be that common an expression.

It’s very common, just maybe not on here by the looks of it

I have significant hearing loss and wear hearing aids, it doesn’t help much with my hearing at all but helps with the incessant tinnitus.
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People on here have said a couple of time how difficult it is to live with someone with hearing loss, yeah how terrible for them. I also find that people seem to find my hearing loss mildly amusing, it certainly doesn’t seem to get the same sympathy or allowance that other problems seem to.*

How I totally sympathise DCDA, being in a very similar situation. As a hidden disability you're treated as if you're daft not deaf. 💐

sorry can't find any reference on google to bossy purple meaning anything, let alone what op says, i was just curious.

I've never heard of bossy purple. But I love it... Although I'm quite bossy so I think I might be one ...

Thanks Japonica. I know this isn’t a thread about hearing loss but I have spent the last 5 years being amazed at people’s reaction to the fact I cannot hear them clearly. I am in my 30s so I know it’s not expected.

I am open about it but people make no attempt to make allowances (I don’t need to be shouted at) just look me when you speak and speak clearly.

Are you in the UK, OP ?

Bossy purple is a well known expression

I've never heard of Bossy Purple which is fine, but usually after 5 pages, there will be MNer popping up saying 'Oh yes, it's regional, we use it here in {insert one area or another}', which hasn't happened, that's all.

Oh, and yes, Spec Savers do hearing tests - have done for years.

I too would be worried about anyone not Corgi registered messing with a boiler. I'd have called them out to repair it months ago, but put up with lukewarm baths.

OP said recently she's in Utah.

It's so wearing being around someone who won't sort their hearing issue out. You repeat every single thing, they get annoyed that you're fed up of repeating endlessly, even one word answers... I'm with your partner on that one. Addressing your hearing issue is really a good idea.

This isn't real right? Surely this isn't real? Surely nobody actually says "Bossy purple" in anger ? 😂

OP said recently she's in Utah.

Pretty sure that “Utah GP” was just an autocorrect for “the GP”

I feel for you OP, hearing loss is horrendous and debilitating. My mum got hearing aids a few years ago after being worried about loud noises being overwhelming and not liking to have things in her ears, but it's all gone very well for her! I hope you find it similarly pleasant.

As for living with deaf people. Yes, it's frustrating to have to repeat yourself (although you wouldn't have to if you'd modulated to the correct volume to begin with) but it's far more frustrating to not be able to hear properly.

Bossy purple - love it!

I've got a friend who works in NHS audiology... Specsavers are not good. They're neither well qualified not very conscientious. So by all means go where your GP sends you but don't be afraid to push for referral to proper audiology department of that doesn't help.