Was in the wrong? DH thinks so

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My hearing is going and has been slowly getting worse past few years. I just tried to run a bath and something is wrong with the boiler. DH was trying to fix it and then suddenly started shouting. I shouted back to repeat what he’d said as I couldn’t hear him. He shouted again and so I shouted back that I couldn’t hear him. He then shouted “shut up! I’m not talking to you!”

So turns out he was shouting at the dog but I didn’t know that!! Now I’m mad at him for telling me to shut up, he’s mad at me for calling him a bossy purple and he says I was making the dog misbehave by shouting!!! I was in the bathroom, nowhere near the dog.

AIBU to think he didn’t need to get mad over a mishearing?

Btw typing in phone and dyslexic so ignore typos

I was referred by my GP, to Specsavers for hearing aids, made an appointment online, for a couple of days ahead, walked out with hearing aids the same day
I can hear the dawn chorus, sky larks when I am out walking, and when I go to the cinema, I turn on the audio link, and can only hear the film, not sweet papers/crisp packets rattling, you don't realise how much you miss when you can't hear!
And dh could no longer call me a deaf old codger!

My mother recently got a new hearing aid. Changed her life. And my DFs. Reduction in shouting and tension all round.

I have sensory issues, I’m worried the loud noises will be too much?

I'm stealing Bossy Purple (and I have seen the ocean)

Gah! What does the ocean comment mean, I really need to know!

And yes Specsavers do heairing tests but use the NHS it's much cheaper especially if you need aids.

What does it mean if you live near the ocean and see it everyday?

Taking the piss out of disability, nice.

So to get hearing test for free I go to GP?

Who is taking the piss out of disability?

You should get a referral if you visit your GP and if there is a clinical need, aids are provided on the NHS, albeit not perhaps like the ££££ you can buy.

But really, what does the ocean thing mean? I've just seen you use it on another TIO and couldn't understand it there either.

And your username is gopping, btw. It may influence how people reply/interact with you, as others clearly find it gopping too, and just a bit distasteful really. And I'm saying that as someone who says cunt regularly

I started with a private hearing test and aid, as I said before it didn’t help that much but that must be my type of hearing loss as others have reported great improvement on here.

Luckily I had a free month trial with the private one as it was £1,000, this was about 5 years ago. I now have one free on the NHS and this helps with my tinnitus.

Someone said posters are not hearing me. I might be autistic but I’m not stupid

Gopping?

Well rather than say you're not hearing people which is a poor turn of phrase, I would say you're not answering people. What does the fucking ocean thing mean

Gopping? Gross, a bit disgusting etc. Eg I need to clean my fridge, it's gopping.

(I actually do need to clean my fridge )

're haven't all seen the ocean.....means not everyone has such a good life / the ability or means to travel to see the ocean.....think poor mid westerners in the USA or eiple in Alice springs in Oz. I remember an episode of Dallas when seeing the ocean in real life was the main aim of one of the characters.

Is he qualified to look at the boiler, if not i'd be terrified of him trying to fix it.
To be quite honest i wouldn't be asking my DP if i can get someone in to fix something i just do it.

Already used the expression 'bossy purple' in real life

Seems odd to be super offended by something as mild as "shut up" when your user name is "StickyBlisteredAnus".

Thank you KOKO! I thought it must be along those lines but it was in a completely different context on the other thread so I doubted myself.

Can you believe BossyPurple was already taken 😮

On a serious not OP, I have issues with my hearing, a lot of the time it's sounds muffled like I have fingers in my ear and I can hear a constant gushing pulsing noise which makes sound seem as if it's breaking up.

My stepfather acts like your husband and gets mad at me if I've misunderstood or if he's in the same room and mumbling and I assume he's talking to me. My dh will joke about it and has a funny "wasn't talking to you, dipshit" face or he'll say "bugger off, was talking about you not to you" and is lighthearted and doesn't make me feel shit. Step dad however gets quite angry to the point I don't welcome in my Mams house sometimes, he's a mumbler and a lot of people without hearing issues ask him to repeat himself.

Wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't a mumbler and spoke clearly himself, people with full hearing often can't understand him but he doesn't get angry and shouty at them.

Bossy purple is a well known expression. Hence why it’s probably taken

@StickyBlisteredAnus have you posted before about issues with how your DH speaks to you? Something about sharing out a cake with DSS?

Hearing loss is awful. My mum slowly went deaf and it was very challenging. I'm hoping the rise of the internet gives people more access to communities for support now. Back then she was totally isolated.

Your hubby was off and frustrated but no underlying malice. Forgive and move forward.