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Mrs Hinch....perfect prep :-(

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caroline161 · 05/05/2019 16:09

I feel so angry with Tommee Tippee that they've "gifted" her a perfect prep machine. Completely undermines her wish if she wants to breast feed. Plus she's such an influencer how much will this reduce our national breast feeding rates? Pregnant women will go and buy one just because she has one and not give themselves a chance to breastfeed Angry

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gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 15:43

No gluteus, you said it made you feel sad that ff should be celebrated as it emancipates women

The lady in question, said the pill was celebrated as autonomy over a woman's body. Formula should be celebrated as liberation from their babies.

I do find that sad. I'm not criticising formula in the process?

I think formula should be celebrated as a creation, as a way to feed a baby that would otherwise die, as a brilliant alternative to BF (for whatever reason). But I don't think it's a celebration of freedom from your own child. It was the way she described it. And the way she went to to say that BF was inferior. She was a feminist. But I'm a feminist too, and I didn't get it.

Me feeling sad has nowt to do with other mother's choices on feeding. I don't feel sorry for mum's or babies, I do feel sorry for those who wanted to and couldn't though.

TinyGhostWriter · 06/05/2019 15:44

For goodness sake, this is Mrs Hinch’s job! She is a social media influencer, and very good at it.

Personally, I wouldn’t view an add for a perfect prep machine and sterilising equipment irresponsible.

The target demographic is people who already bottle feed/ will consider bottle feeding.

Turning on a kettle and measuring water wouldn’t put many people off bottle feeding, but the machine makes it easier.

isobel93 · 06/05/2019 15:49

Ahhh the booby pushers are out!
First off, it's her choice and she can't be held responsible if anyone decides not to BF because of her because that's just bloody stupid.
Second of all- she won't be BF as she has a medical condition meaning she'll be still on meds when baby gets here, she explained it last night on her story.
When will people cop on to the fact that influencers are not in control of our lives? Being slightly influenced to buy a foundation is one thing but lifestyle choices are another altogether. They are not messiahs, and it's because of people who feed into their 'influencing' crap that it has grown into such a phenomenon.
There needs to be more real life ones. I follow quite a few on Instagram that promote nothing because they simply don't want that role or responsibility. Or the dollar!!

Sagradafamiliar · 06/05/2019 15:49

Gluteus I don't see how your sadness isn't to do with women's choices on feeding because it clearly is.
I'm a feminist too and can easily see how breastfeeding could be described as a feminist issue. I loved that formula feeding enabled me to be back to myself again, I feel the same way as the woman who made you feel sad. I just word it differently. Not every woman wants to be lactating for months on end/cluster feeding/being the sole feeder. It's totally fine. Each to their own.

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 15:51

Not every woman wants to be lactating for months on end/cluster feeding/being the sole feeder.

Neither did I. But my choice was BF, so that's the deal.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 06/05/2019 15:53

Why all the angst?

The kids are still going to end up in McDonalds and KFC as teenagers regardless of how they were fed WinkGrinGrin

hsegfiugseskufh · 06/05/2019 15:55

Eh? So you didnt want to be lactating for months on end but did it any way?

Sagradafamiliar · 06/05/2019 15:56

Gluteus and I didn't so I didn't. Good for you doing what you wanted to do even though you didn't want to....I guess.

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 15:56

The kids are still going to end up in McDonalds and KFC as teenagers regardless of how they were fed

GrinGrin

Sagradafamiliar · 06/05/2019 15:58

Leigh Grin 😂

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 16:01

Good for you doing what you wanted to do even though you didn't want to....I guess.

I just don't think it's a magical experience. At all. It was stupidly difficult and not fun (not the cluster feeding anyway) the pain, the infections, yeah, it was crap. But my choice was to BF so I just cracked on. Does anyone actually find BF easy? Grin

hsegfiugseskufh · 06/05/2019 16:03

So why put yourself through that? Cant have been any good for your mental health.

Sagradafamiliar · 06/05/2019 16:04

See I find that sad. It sounds like my experience with DS1 which is why I stopped and didn't consider again. No need.

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 16:07

It's just the way I wanted to feed. Sometimes the things I want to do are going to be hard. The pregnancy and labour weren't a picnic either to be fair. HG and SPD, so maybe the BF was 'easier' in comparison Grin

Sagradafamiliar · 06/05/2019 16:10

True. It's your body.

livinglavidavillanelle · 06/05/2019 16:11

I'm inclined to agree with you OP. She gave some vague reason about not being able to breastfeed due to her medication postnatally. Fair enough. But I think influencers are drawing a fine line when it comes to things like breastfeeding. Plus the perfect prep is bloody awful, particularly for newborns. I'm disappointed she's been seen promoting it to be honest

hsegfiugseskufh · 06/05/2019 16:11

I had SPD and an awful labour too. When i discovered i didnt like BF i thought why punish myself more? And ff instead. I suppose its about the importance you place on your own wellbeing.

hsegfiugseskufh · 06/05/2019 16:12

Plus the perfect prep is bloody awful, particularly for newborns why is that?

Sagradafamiliar · 06/05/2019 16:15

That's like me Plant. Pain and being unwell throughout pregnancies and childbirth- just another reason to not put myself through any more when it wasn't necessary. It was amazing to be able to sleep again for one thing.

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 16:20

I suppose its about the importance you place on your own wellbeing

That's not really fair.

Finding something hard, and carrying on, doesn't mean you don't care about your mental health.

hsegfiugseskufh · 06/05/2019 16:22

I didnt say you didnt care Hmm

Mrsjayy · 06/05/2019 16:22

I had a very stern midwife when i had my first baby she was pulling at my nipples like i was a cow or something saying things like come on now you can manage this dc had jaundice so was a little bit sleepy and slightly prem i just found the whole experience a bit traumatic and I did give up back then you had to stay in till the baby was over 5lLbs i just selfishly wanted home so gave her formula I don't have any guilt though I just hope women are more supported these days

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 16:28

Ok, it's doesn't mean I don't put importance on my wellbeing, because I found something hard and carried on.

hsegfiugseskufh · 06/05/2019 16:32

Well you continued to do something you didnt enjoy which you found hard so you clearly found more importance in the way you fed your baby than the effect it had on you.

It's not a criticism it was just your choice which is fine. For me how i felt was more important than my baby being bf. Doesnt mean i dont care about my baby.

gluteustothemaximus · 06/05/2019 16:32

i just found the whole experience a bit traumatic

I do agree. I was handled like that too, and told to do this and that by two women that had never breastfed. Luckily he was my third baby, but had that been my first, I would have been even more upset.

Mind you, my first HV with DS1 told me to BF my newborn every 4 hours, otherwise I was making a rod for my own back Hmm

God, the whole treatment of women, either method is shit.