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AIBU?

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Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

341 replies

GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:27

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
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Bluesheep8 · 04/05/2019 08:00

Sorry I misunderstood and misread. You didn't want opinions on the dress. My answer is, therefore, No you won't upstage the bride. Wear it if you like it and think it suits you.

Disfordarkchocolate · 04/05/2019 08:01

Have a fabulous time @GetSetNo, I think you'll look wonderful.

CylindraceousNicholas · 04/05/2019 08:07

the model in the picture - who is advertising a dress that looks awful on her, and draws attention to her legs
2. Themselves and their own legs - didn't slag myself off. I have fabulous legs, but bad knees in the middle of them
3. All overweight women who apparently should keep their arms covered. - I have a few overweight friends. They are all very self-conscious about their upper arms and would feel very uncomfortable about having them on show

I couldn't disagree more with your opinion on the model. It's subjective. Her knees don't look awful and neither do her arms. She looks good in the dress. Can't please everyone.

CylindraceousNicholas · 04/05/2019 08:08

Style and Beauty instead of AIBU

I doubt S&B would have been much better tbh Hmm

Cinnamon12345 · 04/05/2019 08:08

It's not very stylish.

Hopeygoflightly · 04/05/2019 08:13

Quite literally no one will be looking at you. You could turn up in a sack cloth and it wouldn’t matter. They’ll be looking at, talking about and with, and paying attention the the bride and groom and wedding party. You’re safe.

Aprillygirl · 04/05/2019 08:23

I think the dress is wedding guest appropriate and very nice too-though I do think you'd need to be quite tall to carry off that long back hemline. I'm not quite sure why people are being so rude about it, but fuck 'em and enjoy the wedding OP.

ShirleyPhallus · 04/05/2019 08:45

I’ve got absolutely no idea how this could upstage the bride Confused

hatemyhairhun · 04/05/2019 08:51

I don’t like the dress at all. The model doesn’t even look nice in it! Surely there are 100s of other dresses out there, avoiding the whole ‘upstaging the bride’ conundrum

Motherontheedge1 · 04/05/2019 08:56

My first reaction was that would be a nice dress if the hem was the same length all the way round. Second thought it draws attention to her legs which aren’t all that slim. I think you need to be tall and slim to wear it. I think it would look better mid calf with a pair of high heels. Might get talked about but not in a good way.

ilovechocolate07 · 04/05/2019 09:12

I'm very confused at the fact that lots of people seem to think this isn't appropriate. Wear what you feel good in and dress up as much as you want, it is definitely not a wedding dress and unless the bride has told you what colour the bridesmaids are wearing and it's the same colour then I think it's fine. Feel like much of what I read on here lately fuels the whole me, me, me, bridezilla movement. Yes, it's a big thing but I doubt any of my friends remember what I wore to their big day. I usually ask what colour bridesmaids are wearing and choose something different.

EauDeReality · 04/05/2019 09:17

yeh, the worst anybody is going to think is ''that dress is a bit different''

BigBrightStarz · 04/05/2019 09:38

That dress is perfectly fine to wear to a wedding. If you're comfortable in the dress and it makes you feel confident/good then you go for it girl! I think some people obviously have their nose struck very high up and can't see past the "I wouldn't be seen to wear that" attitude! I hope you have a fab time at the wedding!

Thehop · 04/05/2019 09:48

How on earth can someone worry they’ll upstage a bride? ?!!

Feefsie · 04/05/2019 10:14

It looks lovely and I think you should wear it. If it was cream, white or a pale pastel colour then maybe not.

honeyharris · 04/05/2019 10:18

I think it's perfectly reasonable to wear it, it's not white or overly revealing. In my opinion you don't have to have slim limbs to look nice with them on show, I've seen plenty of curvier women with bare arms and calves looking really good

ballsdeep · 04/05/2019 10:24

You would never upstage the bride in that. I'm not being rude, it's an OK dress but not bridezilla worthy

NameChangeNugget · 04/05/2019 10:27

The reality is, no one will give a shiny shit what you’re wearing, in the grander scheme of things.

Dress for yourself, if you want to wear it, go for it Smile

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 04/05/2019 10:41

I don’t think anyone suggested the dress wasn’t appropriate, Ilovechocolate? Just that, in their opinion, it was a bit shit...

Still18atheart · 04/05/2019 10:43

Wedding suitable yes. However, I hate that style of dress it looks like you can’t decide if you wanted a long or short dress. Love the the pattern though

TigerTooth · 04/05/2019 10:55

I think that it’s an ok dress - not my taste but the train might be an issue for some people so I wouldn’t risk it - actually it would be a cute dress, quite 50’s without the (IMO) horrid train.
I think it’s a no because of the train.

findingmyfeet12 · 04/05/2019 10:57

The dress is fine - the train style could be seen as dramatic but in this case I don't think it is.

I really wouldn't wear it with flats though.

NameUserChange · 04/05/2019 12:14

Good grief there are some mean spirited cows on this thread! The OP wasn't asking if it was a nice dress, just if it was appropriate!

OP I COMPLETELY get what your concern is. If it is a formal wedding then the dress is appropriate, even with the fussy back. However I've been to some weddings recently that were a little more relaxed and I would have felt over dressed in a dress like that so it depends on the style of the wedding.

As for the nasty comments about the size you need to be, completely ignore. It is cut to flatter a curvier figure, obvious from the model Hmm

Do you feel fabulous in it? Yes? Then wear it with pride and don't give two hoots about whether random people online would wear it. My only piece of unsolicited advice would be to choose the flats you wear carefully as I think heels would suit it better. Have a great time!

Kisskiss · 04/05/2019 13:39

I don’t really get why quite a few posts are flaming the OP for asking the question..
anyway I think the dress is quite nice! Would flatter curves because of the bodice and nipped in waist. And the bold floral prints is definitely wedding appropriate! Tbh though, I think it would Be nicer without the hi-lo hem

dreichuplands · 04/05/2019 19:21

OP this is is the sun online according to my Apple news