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Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

341 replies

GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:27

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
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Noodles12 · 03/05/2019 18:51

It’s lovely and if you like it go for it
There are dresses like that in a lot of shops around here so must be in style

CasanovaFrankenstein · 03/05/2019 18:52

No need to be so rude people. I think it is wedding appropriate. It’s not my personal cup of tea but can see that it would be fitting for a wedding.

MyFavouritePlace · 03/05/2019 19:04

Some really nasty and completely unnecessary comments on here. Did you mean to be so rude?

5catsnow · 03/05/2019 19:05

Ok so the model is an attractive woman, but I don’t think the dress is flattering in her, to be absoluteky honest. A dress like that is saying, “focus in my legs / knees, otherwise what is the point if the hemline shape?
Maybe you have great legs OP, in which case, if that’s your taste, you could go with it,

Coffeeandcrumpets · 03/05/2019 19:06

I must be in the minority. I like it. I'd wear it.

fashiondevotee · 03/05/2019 19:08

That is a super unflattering dress. Even the gorgeous model looks bad in it...

PrincessConsuelaBanana · 03/05/2019 19:13

I love the dress and think it’ll look fantastic on a curvy girl, go for it OP - my sister wore a similar style to a wedding recently and looked phenomenal! She got quite a lot of compliments. My 75 year old grandma made a few comments about the ‘strange’ hemline, but she is quite old fashioned.....! not sure what all these bitchy posters have got stuck up their arses tonight Hmm try and unclench guys yeah Wine

pigsDOfly · 03/05/2019 19:16

It isn't a very flattering dress and unless you have legs to die for it's going to make you look frumpy if you wear it with flats as it draws attention to the knees.

That style is pretty hard to carry off tbh, I think it would look far prettier without the whole thing at the back.

It most definitely wouldn't look as if a were trying to upstage the bride though, which is what you were asking. It's not in the least bit bridal.

EdWinchester · 03/05/2019 19:22

It totally draws attention to her legs and puffy knees.

As someone blessed with ‘peasant’ knees (as my mum calls them), I’d be wary of anything that effectively frames them. Plus sleeveless and plus sized is never good.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 03/05/2019 19:23

it’ll look fantastic on a curvy girl. Get outta here, it will not! God almighty Hmm

NotMeNoNo · 03/05/2019 19:34

I'm making a hi lo dress like that for a friend's prom. They are better with a structured fabric. Ours is longer at the front, I think the front length needs to be such that it would be flattering at one length.

PrincessConsuelaBanana · 03/05/2019 19:37

@thegrey1houndspeaks, as I said in my post, my curvy sister wore something very similar recently and looked amazing. But as the OP was asking if it is unreasonable to wear the dress to a wedding, and not ‘please offer insulting personal opinions about my style choice and size’ I think both our comments are superfluous.

threatmatrix · 03/05/2019 19:39

How do you think this dress would upstage the bride? It’s perfect for a guest to wear but not as special as your making out.

Bouncer4me · 03/05/2019 19:41

If your worried just send the bride a pic and ask her if she minds. A close friend wore a similar design dress at my wedding and I really didn’t care at all as long as she was comfortable.

PlatypusPie · 03/05/2019 19:41

I kind of like it - unlike other PPs I think it could look a bit frumpy with an even hem, but the dip makes it more interesting. Wear it with heels and a confident stride and it could be marvellous.

I don’t think all female guests have to wear toned down, ultra dull to avoid upstaging the bride - it’s wearing all white, or white and long or white lacy that looks that way, which I do think is ill considered.

My DD got married last year and she was thrilled by the adventurous and distinctly unconventional outfits worn by some of her friends - she felt they were entering into the spirit of dressing up for the occasion ( and the venue).

NotMeNoNo · 03/05/2019 19:42

Longer at the front than the OP I mean. Longer at the front than the back would be weird!

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
VenusClapTrap · 03/05/2019 19:42

I like it, op. And I think it’s fine for a wedding.

FLO1984Mumtobe · 03/05/2019 19:45

Don’t listen to the negative comments about the dress, if you like it wear it. It’s very much a dress for a wedding guest and that’s what you were asking, have a nice time!

Mary54 · 03/05/2019 19:48

No danger of you upstaging anyone. Every danger that you will turn heads but for all the wrong reasons.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 03/05/2019 19:49

Yes, fair comment, Princess

Lovely13 · 03/05/2019 19:59

It’s quite Carrie in Sex and the City, circa 1999. Other than that, go for it!

PerspicaciaTick · 03/05/2019 20:10

I have seen a lot of this style dress at weddings over the last few months, most of them a little shorter than the OPs. I've also been to a couple of less formal weddings where the bride has worn something similar. So it depends, are the bride and bridesmaids going to be in floor length gowns? Or are they likely to be wearing midi dresses?

BenjiB · 03/05/2019 20:22

It’s lovely and I’d wear it.

stainesmassif · 03/05/2019 20:23

lovely dress, perfect for a wedding.

god forbid a women over a size 14 should show her knees! pass the smelling salts Hmm

sue51 · 03/05/2019 20:25

Looks like a good choice for a wedding guest. I'd go with heels rather than flats.