Active discussions

Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

341 replies

GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:27

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
OP posts:
Thread gallery
5
Ghanagirl · 03/05/2019 22:00

@FelicisNox
I know it’s a pretty dress and not white...

Ghanagirl · 03/05/2019 22:03

@5catsnow
What’s wrong with showing off nice legs?

Ilfie · 03/05/2019 22:04

Think you have a problem with needing attention

Thunderspuds · 03/05/2019 22:07

*EdWinchester Fri 03-May-19 19:22:17
It totally draws attention to her legs and puffy knees.

As someone blessed with ‘peasant’ knees (as my mum calls them), I’d be wary of anything that effectively frames them. Plus sleeveless and plus sized is never good.

In one short post this poster manages to slag off:

  1. the model in the picture
  2. Themselves and their own legs
  3. All overweight women who apparently should keep their arms covered.

I wish (some) women would stop doing this to each other and to ourselves. There was another AIBU thread recently relating to hairstyles on older women, where some posters were warning women not to have their grey hair too long for fear of looking "witchy" and not to have it too long in general as you get older as "you get a nasty surprise when the woman turns round and isn't in her 20s".

It's just constant and it's horrible.

I think the dress is fine for a wedding OP and won't upstage the bride, etc. at all. There's a really funny episode of Derry Girls recently if you want to see someone do a full on upstage.

hewontstopshitting · 03/05/2019 22:07

I think it’s fine for a wedding

Ghanagirl · 03/05/2019 22:15

@Ilfie
What now?

CylindraceousNicholas · 03/05/2019 22:20

I really like it then, but then I've had a few skirts with long hems at the back and short fronts before, I love those.

Original poster
GetSetNo · 03/05/2019 22:26

Thanks for all of the replies about this hideous, mullet dress. I'm going to be wearing this dress in all of my plus size, big bummed, chubby kneed glory.

It's so lovely to know that Mumsnet is a place of support and parents really uplifting each other. IMO, AIBU is not an excuse for plain nastiness. As a PP noted, my question was not if you liked the dress, whether I was too fat or whether my choices are trashy but whether it is wedding appropriate.

OP posts:
Catsinthecupboard · 03/05/2019 22:30

I wore a backless dress (mid/short) to a wedding but wore a very nice jacket until the dancing started.

Maybe a nice wrap also?

DeftandGlory · 03/05/2019 22:42

I think it’s a bit try hard for a wedding. That back is too long and makes it look overdressed. It’s not the same dress code as a day out at the horses.

As for bitchy comments, that’s bollocks. No one has a clue who the Op is or what she looks like, so nothing said is personal. Some people dislike the dress or think it inappropriate. So it’s a good assumption that other people at the wedding will too.
Unless you think everyone is lying about the dress, just to give the Op a kicking.

Purplegecko · 03/05/2019 22:42

I'm a chubby girl going to a wedding at the end of summer. I've gone for this. If you look good in it and feel comfortable wear it, I know it's hard for me to find something nice to wear!

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
Purplegecko · 03/05/2019 22:43

*this sort of dress I meant to say

JellyNo15 · 03/05/2019 22:44

I thi k it is a nice dress for a wedding guest, I personally would prefer if it was a standard style hem.

EdWinchester · 03/05/2019 22:44

Purplegecko now, that is a nice dress Grin

DeftandGlory · 03/05/2019 22:47

Actually just clocked the lilac dress in this mag...
www.bridesmagazine.co.uk/gallery/wedding-dress-code-explained

Maybe if you can make it look formal rather than “dressed up” you can get away with it.

EdWinchester · 03/05/2019 22:52

In one short post this poster manages to slag off:

  1. the model in the picture - who is advertising a dress that looks awful on her, and draws attention to her legs
  2. Themselves and their own legs - didn't slag myself off. I have fabulous legs, but bad knees in the middle of them
  3. All overweight women who apparently should keep their arms covered. - I have a few overweight friends. They are all very self-conscious about their upper arms and would feel very uncomfortable about having them on show

I would far rather live in the real world where people have actual opinions and aren't falling over themselves in their hurry to embrace the fucking sisterhood. Newsflash - some people will hate your choice in clothes and may even give constructive criticism. Hmm

Thunderspuds · 03/05/2019 23:25

In one short post this poster manages to slag off:

  1. the model in the picture - who is advertising a dress that looks awful on her, and draws attention to her legs
  2. Themselves and their own legs - didn't slag myself off. I have fabulous legs, but bad knees in the middle of them
  3. All overweight women who apparently should keep their arms covered. - I have a few overweight friends. They are all very self-conscious about their upper arms and would feel very uncomfortable about having them on show
----

Nope, you said:

"sleeveless and plus sized is never good."

I would far rather live in the real world where people have actual opinions and aren't falling over themselves in their hurry to embrace the fucking sisterhood. Newsflash - some people will hate your choice in clothes and may even give constructive criticism.

But I'm also just expressing opinions on your cunty posts, so that should be fine too then in this "real world" you are describing. It sounds thoroughly unpleasant. You seem quite ragey about the "fucking sisterhood" by the way. I'd get that seen to.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 04/05/2019 00:38

Thanks for all of the replies about this hideous, mullet dress. I'm going to be wearing this dress in all of my plus size, big bummed, chubby kneed glory.

Then why ask?

Original poster
GetSetNo · 04/05/2019 02:04

@StillCoughingandLaughing Well, because I'm deranged? Hmm Thanks for your wonderfully helpful comment first time round.

I've had enough responses from posters saying they hate the dress (and that in itself is fine for people not to like it but what isn't is unnecessarily rude comments), however, that wasn't the bloody question. From what I did read, the majority of people who did respond to my actual question said it was fine to wear as a wedding guest.

OP posts:
floribunda18 · 04/05/2019 03:24

A lesson to next time, post on Style and Beauty instead of AIBU.

Dillydallyer · 04/05/2019 06:39

Jesus, what a nasty bunch of arseholes. The OP didn’t ask whether you liked the dress, she asked if it’s wedding appropriate. Who knew one image of one dress could bring out the MN bitches in force?!
OP wear the dress! It’s lovely. Definitely suited to a wedding. I’m going to buy it for our cruise later in the year. I think. You will look fabulous!!

FraggleRocking · 04/05/2019 06:56

Again, I don’t agree with the nasty comments but I think some of the feedback came from the original wording of the OP.
She didn’t ask if her dress was ‘wedding appropriate’. She asked if she would ‘steal the limelight’ from the bride. That is very different.

jackstini · 04/05/2019 07:39

I love ChiChi dresses and there have definitely been a few at recent weddings I've been too. I would wear this dress

Very suitable as long as it's not a registry office I would say

Wear it and have a wonderful day celebrating with your friend

missbatmeg · 04/05/2019 07:54

My SIL's cousin wore a similar dress to her wedding last year, she didn't mind one bit and we even had a chat about how nice cousins dress was!!

Bluesheep8 · 04/05/2019 07:57

I think it's hideous. In all manner of ways. The fabric, pattern and shape are all awful imo. Sorry!