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Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

341 replies

GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:27

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
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eightoclock · 02/05/2019 21:37

Looks like a standard wedding guest dress. Don't know what you are worrying about! Virtually all the other female guests will be wearing similar although the hemline is a bit unusual, it's not mad enough to stand out in the sea of other flowery dresses

Dishwashersaurous · 02/05/2019 21:37

Of course it’s not a train. Don’t be ridiculous

MatchSetPoint · 02/05/2019 21:37

I dislike the dress but each to their own, you would be fine wearing it to a wedding, definitely won’t upstage the bride.

chaoscategorised · 02/05/2019 21:38

I don't like it, but I don't think it looks remotely bridal/bridesmaidy. So you'll be fine!

Cailinnua · 02/05/2019 21:38

If you love the dress, wear it. It doesn’t look anything like a train and people will not think you are trying to upstage the bride. If it is a big wedding you probably won’t even be the only person wearing that style.

CalmdownJanet · 02/05/2019 21:39

Well that's not white or outrageous, it's fine, wear it. I work with weddings, about 50 a year and it's pretty bog standard attire (not meant in a bad way, but nobody is going to bat an eyelid!)

Jojo19834 · 02/05/2019 21:39

I like it, and don’t think it’s a problem, however it’s good advice that if you are already worrying it will probably be an issue for you on the day

Ghanagirl · 02/05/2019 21:39

It’s lovely if you’re slim definitely wear it, it’s not bridal looking at all.

jcq17 · 02/05/2019 21:40

It's not the best but it certainly wouldn't upstage the bride. If you want to wear it go for it.

HBStowe · 02/05/2019 21:40

Why would it upstage the bride? It’s just a normal dress! I think you will be fine OP!

LazyLemur · 02/05/2019 21:40

Whether someone else here loves it or hates it is irrelevant. You won't be upstaging the bride in that.

Would you mind if someone wore it to your wedding? I wouldn't mind if you wore it to mine.

Famalamaringwrong · 02/05/2019 21:40

@Ghanagirl what the fuck has size goto do with it?! Also that's a shitty thing to say since the link clearly says it's a "curve" dress.

ImogenTubbs · 02/05/2019 21:40

If you're worried, ask the bride!

Biancadelrioisback · 02/05/2019 21:42

You sound quite self absorbed if you think that anyone will be gossiping about you in that dress. It's very wedding guest typical. Sorry I'm not trying to be mean but honestly, I'm utterly baffled to see how you could ever think that? I've worked as a wedding manager for over 10 years and I've seen hundreds of wedding guest outfits, this is so middle of the pack.

JE87 · 02/05/2019 21:42

Looks like a normal dress people would wear to a wedding to me. Don't see why it would upstage the bride!

Tavannach · 02/05/2019 21:42

I don't like it, sorry. It's not really appropriate for a wedding unless it's a right old knees up.

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GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:43

Great, I'll be wearing this monstrosity then Grin

And to the pp who said wear it if I'm slim, I'm not and you know that because it's the curve range. However, it looks fucking fantastic on my figure.

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Bluntness100 · 02/05/2019 21:44

To be fair I understand what the op is saying, it's not that it will upstage the bride, more people will thinks she's trying to , because effectively it's got a train at the back.

And I think it's a bit over the top if I'm honest op, unless it's a hugely high end wedding.

Tavannach · 02/05/2019 21:45

Upstaging the bride isn't only about white, it's about dressing in such a way that the bride looks outstanding and gets all the attention.

Ofalltheginjoints · 02/05/2019 21:45

I wore the same style dress to a wedding a couple of weeks ago it was a more floaty material then that dress appears to be, can confirm that at no point did anyone think I was the bride or a member of the wedding party.

If you love it and feel good in it wear it OP

Bookworm4 · 02/05/2019 21:45

I think dropped hems are awful, would look nicer if it was the same knee length all round. Do not wear flats.

Overtheborder · 02/05/2019 21:46

@ghanagirl- it's lovely if you're slim.... wtf?

How has size anything to do with it?

mimibunz · 02/05/2019 21:47

It’s a mullet dress.

Bookworm4 · 02/05/2019 21:47

@overtheborder
Not every style suits every figure, it's a valid point. Some styles flatter different shapes, heights. It's not offensive.

Eustasiavye · 02/05/2019 21:48

That's fine to wear.
To be fair I never hear anyone say to a man don't wear that outfit, people might confuse you with the groom. Yet often you can't tell who the groom is.
Strange.

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