To drink almost a bottle of wine everynight

[Mum21beauty]

I am not reliant on it . I just enjoy it every night though ...

Functional alcoholic .

You’ve an 18 month old - if you’ve downed a bottle of wine how can you be sure they’re safe and you’ll respond appropriately in an emergency? Are you sure you’re not over the drink, driving limit? What would happen at work if an issue arose?
I’m not judging, I love a drink as much as the next person but you’ve got to be honest.

@donajimena snap! Jason Vale book changed my life
I was you OP, then it became two bottles, you know deep down, that's why you posted. Some other posters are also in denial like you, I know what that's like, I was too. Please read Jason Vale's book with an open mind OP, it could stop your self destruction

@callmeadoctor

Mmmmmmm, love to have a drink or two of wine in a n evening though.................................. (pours a glass)

Mature

‘I never drink when my toddler is awake’ no but you drink in excess every night when your toddler is seemingly in the same house?

Completely irresponsible, why do your responsibilities for your toddler vanish once said toddler is asleep? That’s not how it works when they’re in your care.

Prepare to hear about units and guidelines.
Ignore them. Life's too short.

Yeah, and you make it shorter by drinking like that.

OP why are you posting?

If it works for you and you are happy then why does it matter what others think here?

You have the internet, you can find all the information you need in seconds.
You don't really need us to tell you anything.

A bottle of wine a night would have a huge detrimental effect on most people's lives, but if it works for you then it's none of our business.

I am quite shocked how you can function consuming that much alcohol every night whilst working full time and having a young child. Do you drive to work in the mornings?

your gony get roaasted for saying not reliant...its cool-it'll make a wee change from baked. (funny in my head).If you think you might be drink a bit uch you probli are. you gotta push your intrest in another direction.weeds not as bad as they said i hear

@Bluntness100 TBF I can drink more than a bottle of wine and not be drunk - maybe a bit tipsy. It wouldn't be unusual for me on a night out to do 2 bottles of wine, 6 cocktails plus a load of shots and g&t. That's maybe once a year
But I'm tall and broad and always been not sensitive to alcohol, which is maybe why I don't drink really! I think I had a g&t with a meal about 4 weeks ago, probably won't drink for 4/5/6 months now

It is a problem. I think you already know that.

@Vanillamanilla1

That sounds like alcohol poisoning which creeps up on a seasoned drinker. WELL done on your sobriety but it’s hard to do without outside help. If you feel the urge to drink I'd think about accessing a service.

You’ve got this x

I was regularly drinking that much until the end of last year. I did (most of) dry January and realised I didn’t need to. I still have a drink but am better at stopping after a glass or two and have many more alcohol free nights now. Oh and I’ve lost near a stone.

Totally understand the need for a crutch workimg full time with an 18 month old. But that’s way too much and it does sound like you are reliant on it taking the edge off. This might sound like utter shite but have you tried exercise instead? Running, or a you tube work out? It is the last thing you will want to do after work but it’s literally the only thing that sorts out my stress and anxiety. Took me 40 years to discover it. The feeling afterwards is like nothing else I’ve ever experienced and Im a lazy mother fucker.

I’m just grateful I never really liked the taste of booze as I’m sure I’d have become addicted too. Try cutting back. Try Replacing it with other de-stressers, whatever they are. Do you need to make some changes to make life easier on you? It’s a tough stage, but as with all stages, it will pass. Be kind to yourself. Cut down on the wine and find an alternative.

I used to drink that each evening and feel fine. By fine I mean not drunk. The next morning I would feel a bit groggy, but not hungover. I did this after separating from EH. Mostly through boredom and feeling a bit sorry for myself. Anyway, fast forward a couple of years and stopped the wine when TTC. The difference in the way I felt was staggering. I felt fresh in the mornings. I lost that wine-smell you don’t realise you have. The skin on my face started to feel soft. My hair thickened. My nails were strong. My belly was less bloated. All after 3 to 4 months of stopping.
I now have 2 DC and while I’ll have the occasional blow out when out with friends, that’s maybe 3 times a year. Other then that I don’t drink. Can honestly say I have no regrets about cutting it out. You probably don’t realise the side effects of drinking that much because they are now normal to you.

I used to drink that much. I’ve cut back massively now, from over seven bottles a week to one and a half max, mainly because I have to drive early most mornings, but also because I thought I’d lose weight and feel better. The second two haven’t happened.

It’s probably best for your health if you cut back OP, but ignore the temperance society on here. Anyone who drinks more than a small sherry at Christmas is an alcoholic round these parts..

How old are you? Because you may get away with it for a while, but undoubtedly you are damaging your health. A lot of the damage will be reversible if you stop or drastically cut back but but you may find yourself unable to do that. And then you will be in serious trouble. I also think it’s a worrying sign if you’ve lost weight without meaning to.

Imagine it’s not you doing this, but someone you love. Could you laugh it off then? Try to treat yourself with more compassion.

Functional alcoholics are usually slim. I worked with one, he barely ate, but got most of his calories from alcohol.
Women's liver suffers more from alcohol abuse than men's.

Adrian Chiles documentary on problem/not proble drinking was also eye opening.

Are you driving every day too? With your child in the car?

You are an alcoholic, you are dependent, drinking far too much for the wrong reasons.

Please for your own and your families sake get help ASAP.

It is a lot to have every night, you might not be reliant but it's probably damaging your body. I worked with a lot of people with alcohol related dementia and they weren't alcoholics: they were men who would go to pub at night after work for a few pints.

Is it a whole bottle 7 nights a week ? Do u wish to cut down ? No judgement here xx

The other thing to note is denial,is usually the main cause of full blown alcoholism, people deny its a problem at the early stages when it clearly is and don't seek help till it's too hard and too late.

You know this isn't healthy, so knock it on the head now. Because no matter how hard it is now, it's about to get a shit ton harder.

I'd also comment that drinking wine is habit forming. I've done It myself, although not for any prolonged period ie more than three or Four days. Drinking one day makes you wish to drink the next. You need to break the cycle.

A bottle a night, assuming it's 13.5% wine, is about 10 units in one sitting - so by Tuesday you're already over-drinking according to NHS guidance. www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-support/calculating-alcohol-units/

What you're doing definitely sounds like harmful or hazardous drinking and if you drive you're probably drunk driving most mornings.

Yeah I'd think about cutting back.

OP following is from the drink aware website here

Is it possible this applies to you? (I don’t know you I can’t tell. You need to be really honest with yourself.

Hangover symptom 2: Excess stress
Unknowingly, you may find yourself caught in a vicious circle where the alcohol you drink to unwind at home after a bad day in the office could actually be contributing to your stress levels at work.
“If you’re drinking within the guidelines, an occasional drink may help you relax,” says Martin Hagger PhD, Reader in Social and Health Psychology at the University of Nottingham.
“But if you’re regularly drinking over the guidelines there’s evidence that you’ll be less able to deal with stress. This is especially true if your body is still dealing with last night’s alcohol when you’re at work.”
Hagger says that alcohol can interfere with routine cognitive tasks, like remembering that birthday card or sorting out your presentation.
“This is because alcohol affects the way signals are received by the brain, making it hard to concentrate on routine tasks,” he says.
And since alcohol is a depressant, you might find your motivation gets sapped along with your work abilities.

Also I want to add that I'm not judging you. My mum loves wine and some nights she would have one class but other nights it was one bottle. She cut down to two classes a night.