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I went to my DS aged5 school friends party yesterday. Not one parent initiated any conversation with me (though I did talk to some parents that I initiated brief chats with and also the host parents).
When I arrived, I sat next to the 3 women of who I feel are most my type of people but I've noticed they now go for coffee mornings and gym visits together and have never invited me so obviously the people I thought were 'my people' don't really want to have a further friendship with me. I sat next to one of the Mums and she was turned away from me when I sat down, and then stayed that way, which is fine I guess but didn't feel good.
DS moved to this school in September from being at nursery at a school in the next town but if made a huge effort to make friends with the new school parents by hosting a birthday party for him and inviting the whole class, talking to parents while waiting to collect and smiling at them all when we'd pass in the playground.
And then this yesterday, sat alone. Stood alone when children gathered to eat and observing all the relaxed parents feeling comfortable in their friendship groups whilst I felt very uncomfortable.
I came home last night and sobbed my heart out, I felt so rejected. At DS old school I had a wonderful friendship group and could have sat with nearly any one of the parents in a party situation or an event and it not be awkward.
I'm clean, tidy, make an effort aand try to have open body language with a relaxed none RBF face. Im a professional and I feel I have to walk a line between sometimes feeling I may come across common and other times worry I seem stuck up! I'm overweight, there are bigger women than me at the school though they also gravitated towards one another but it's enough to make me think this is why I can't get in with the slim Mums I thought I would become friends with.
Feeling really shit as I felt like this when my older DD was in primary school and loved how things were different when my DS was in nursery and I felt I belonged. But I'm back to this again and I can't face another 7 years of kids parties feeling like a reject 
AIBU?
To feel so rejected re: childrens party
HostOffice · 28/04/2019 14:17
Based on some of the replies on this thread, you are definitely not alone OP.
My DD has a disability which means she is often excluded from parties despite the fact that she is absolutely adored by her peers. I can remember one memorable occasion when I bumped into one of DD's friends out shopping with her mum, and with the total innocence of youth she said " I wanted to invite Thunderwing Jr to my birthday but my mummy said no" 
The mum at least had the decency to look 
...
On the odd occasion DD is invited, I am left to sit like a lemon and have even been talked across by other parents. Dads tend to be more likely to speak to me at parties tbh.
I have lived in this area for almost 20 years now, but still have no circle of friends, despite my trying to be open and inviting. It sucks and I totally get it OP, so 
and 
from me to you.
This proud of being anti-social attitude boggles me.
@YemenRoadYemen It's a badge of honour on mumsnet to be anti-social. The competitive unsociability on here is astounding. I do think that mumsnet attracts a disproportionate percentage of introverts and anti-social people though 
In real life everyone I know talks to people, answers their front door and answers their phone.
I don't have a maximum quota of friends or people to talk to. I'm happy to talk to anyone who will talk to me.
I’ve noticed dads on the school run don’t seem to get caught up in this ‘clique’ drama.
I do think it’s a little sad that grown women are reduced to tears because other women - who are complete strangers to them and who they see for 5 minutes at each end of the school day - don’t smile and talk to them In what other walk of life would you expect people who you don’t know and probably have little in common with to just strike up a friendship with you?
The thing is though, OP is no better than “these women”.
She has looked at others appearance and found them wanting!
And tbh all the hang ups about weight are weird.
A poster earlier seems to have decided apropos of nothing that people didn’t talk to her because “her crime” was being fat.
I just don’t believe people think that way...
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