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AIBU to ask who is still awake

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 00:40

Hello

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 02:10

@Horses4 Flowers Sounds pretty bad.

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RightYesButNo · 28/04/2019 02:10

Ok, sounds brilliant for what I need.

harper30 · 28/04/2019 02:10

Hello all, solidarity with those up with kids, I'm sorry to hear about PPs in hospital, excited for pregnant PPs.

I'm wide awake while incompetent DP tries to settle DD. Somehow it's my job to tell him how to do that. I just went downstairs to see what was going on and he didn't know how to put a fucking bottle together. Like literally didn't know how to put the teat into the lid. Serves me bastard right for breastfeeding for 10 months and only just introducing some formula feeds. Fucking dickhead doesn't know he's born not having to do any night feeds. She's been having the odd bottle of formula for weeks, how the fuck does he not know how it works?

RightYesButNo · 28/04/2019 02:12

@flyingfish2019 That’s an hilarious way of putting it: “not acted well enough to make you cry.” I love it. Thank you - I’ll take a look!

RightYesButNo · 28/04/2019 02:15

@AmProperlyIn What a rotten situation. So sorry you’re facing this. I hope things go as well as they possibly can. Flowers Brew

KatyaZamolodchikova · 28/04/2019 02:16

I am awake as DP has just lumbered home from his stag. His Dad apparently sent him home and he loves me. 🙄 he is the most hammered I think I have ever seen him in 9 years together. He has just vommed into the washing up bowl beside the bed and is now snoring away. I have 0 chance of sleep for a while a. He will snore so loud I won’t be able to sleep and b. He is a vommy drunk and I irrationally worry about him throwing up in his sleep.

RightYesButNo · 28/04/2019 02:17

@Horses4 Hospitals are so exhausting already, and I’m sure even more so when your child is sick and in pain. I hope they can help her quickly and you can both get some sleep. Good luck!

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 02:18

@Rightyesbutno: I actually have to admit I sometimes actually cry over cheesy movies... hello? Flyingfish? That’s just a movie. Not even a good one.
So if I watched than and did not cry it is safe to watch...

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RainbowMum11 · 28/04/2019 02:18

I know @flyingfish - part of the problem (I hope) is the transition between meds.
Almost 6 weeks now though so would have hoped to have been turning a corner by now.

wendy37622 · 28/04/2019 02:22

The language on here is pretty appalling. Get a grip. My partner died really suddenly and left me with three children. Just get your priorities right. Stop moaning about the small stuff!!

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 02:23

@Rainbowmum Have you the fact you still have insomnia with your doctor?

I may be wrong. I am not a professional, but I think that it needs a few weeks for the antidepressant effect to kick in but the anti insomnia effect kicks in the first time you take a medication. This is actually what happened to people I know. But it may depend on the medication. Not sure.

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 02:26

@Wendy: Who are you talking to? I am sorry for your loss but I think you are not being fair here. Do you think because your partner is dead nobody has the right to complain about anything bad in their life’s when their partner is alive.
I think you are overreacting here because you are feeling sad.

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Alicewond · 28/04/2019 02:31

@Flyingfish2019 I’m so sorry for your loss :( When you lose someone everything else seems petty and worthless, I know I felt this when I lost my mum. I know you are angry but we are here to support you if you ask?

KatyaZamolodchikova · 28/04/2019 02:32

Wow, well this thread moved on a bit while I was posting.

@Rainbowmum11 I was given Amytriptaline when I was having trouble sleeping and otc stuff wasn’t working. It wasn’t getting to sleep I had a problem with, it was staying asleep all night. I know it can be used as an anti-depressiant too, so fingers crossed you’re back into sleeping soon. It started work for me sleep wise almost straight away.

Alicewond · 28/04/2019 02:32

Sorry that should have been @wendy37622

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 02:33

@AliceWond: I think you confuse me with Wendy.

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elliollie · 28/04/2019 02:36

I've just come to bed after a night out with friends for a charity do for the kids' football team. Lovely night except dh got pissed and obnoxious. Luckily, all our friends know that he is 99% of the time a lovely guy and helped me to diffuse his drunken cantankerousness. We are now in bed with him clinging to me like a limpet and me mumsnetting...

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Flyingfish2019 · 28/04/2019 02:36

@Katya: I have actually trouble staying asleep at night because I nearly always fall asleep when I take the kids to bed and always wake up at night... such as waste of Time.
Actually wondered if medication could help in this case but I guess not. sigh

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MitziK · 28/04/2019 02:36

Yes, and my brother died on Tuesday after an accident, @wendy.

Its fucking shit, isn't it? Even before other people tell you off for swearing about useless cunting sleeping tablets given to you to try and get through the first few days not even giving you a single fucking hour's relief. I suppose maybe I could be counting my blessings more, but it's about as much use as counting fucking sheep at the moment.

I am, however, very sorry to hear of your loss.

not going to stop fucking swearing though

RainbowMum11 · 28/04/2019 02:40

@katya and @flyingfish
I was on the max dose of the the ADs I was on since my DD died, they gave me mirtazapine on top who I was absolutely horrific so now have weaned off both to a new type - I know it takes time.
I can go to bed early but will still wake at 1am for several hours so no better off.

KatyaZamolodchikova · 28/04/2019 02:43

@Flyingfish2019 actually it turned out part of the problem was my sleep routine too. I felt so tired I was going to bed early, like 9pm if not before. So I slept for a bit but then DP would come to bed and I’d wake up an be unable to get back to sleep. I usually woke up around 3am most nights and get up and go to bed in the spare room but still only doze. It was a nightmare. I got the prescription when I cried at my GP that I just wanted one whole night of sleep. Since the tablets I’ve started going to bed at 10.30 every night. I’m not just tired but actually sleepy by then. It also helps that DP has lost weight so the snoring is much less (except for right now!!). I get a full nights sleep most nights now. I just needed a little help getting into a better routine.

wendy37622 · 28/04/2019 02:45

Sorry if I sound like a grumpy old cow. You all have as much right to moan as the next person.!! Guess just caught up in my own stuff.

MitziK · 28/04/2019 02:46

With good reason, @wendy.

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Alicewond · 28/04/2019 02:48

@wendy37622 are you ok?

KatyaZamolodchikova · 28/04/2019 02:48

@wendy37622 I am a grumpy person when I’m tired at the best of times. I think you have every reason and right to feel the way you do right now Flowers