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Original poster

To ask for a few changes to MN?

244 replies

NameChangerAmI · 27/04/2019 16:42

I bet this has been done to death & I've just missed the party but it not...

AIBU to ask that mn gives us an equivalent of a thumbs up / like button along with a variety of short cuts to convey other emotions?

Let me explain...I've just read a post that I agree with. Instead of just being able to click on a like button, I've had to concentrate of finding out the name of the poster, type it out correctly, do all the faffy asterix things to highlight it, do the arrow thing (^) and say "this".

WTAF! I'm busy, and spend far too much time on mn as it is! Grin.

Can't they just do buttons under the posts that we can actually click on, rather than all of the above, and actually having to type out the word "grin" within bloody square brackets!

You must get shed loads of revenue from surveys, advertisers, promotions etc, please invest some of that in making mn more efficient!

square bracket smiley face square bracket,

Asterix thanks very much, asterix - you get my point!

Grin
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amandacarnet · 28/04/2019 13:33

I kind of agree grey. Lots congratulate themselves on how this site is full of intelligent posters. Yes it is above a basic level of intelligence, but that's all. And some forums on reddit have much more intelligent actual debate. What makes this site unique is it is nearly all women. And that is rarer.

amandacarnet · 28/04/2019 13:34

Just, I don't scroll past thirty posters saying the same thing,I just abandon the thread. Surely you must see how that discourages actual debate?

PCohle · 28/04/2019 14:29

it is a very judgemental and stuck up forum, compared to other internet ones

I think that's unfair and a massive generalisation about MN and, by implication, the people who post here.

Given you like neither like the features of MN nor the people who post here, it seems odd to me that you consider polite suggestions that you might find another forum better suited to your preferences bullying rather than useful advice.

GreytExpectations · 28/04/2019 14:48

@PCohle how could you possible know my preferences based on my one suggestion of like/upvote buttons? The bullying comments was in response to someone who said buttons means bullying, i was merely pointing out that ive noticed more bullying on MN then other forums. You are over analysing what im posting

AnguaResurgam · 28/04/2019 14:49

It doesn't really matter if other people find MN stuck up - no-one is forced to use it, and it's not as if there is a shortage of sites with outher habits, standards (and tech gizmos). So it's really easy for people to use the ones they actually like.

Rather than seeking to change ones which already have thousands of haooy users.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/04/2019 14:53

I quite like the idea of a thumbs up,not interested in thumbs down.

No chance of it happening though even if the majority wanted it as tech can't even seem to stop all the Apache Tomcat nonsense that goes on every night and all the other glitches.

SecretWitch · 28/04/2019 15:00

MN is the only forum I am on that does not have an edit function. I have fat fingers and TBI it would be nice to fix my mistakes without resorting to making another post.

PCohle · 28/04/2019 15:07

Wish it was more like Reddit with upvotes and such.

it is a very judgemental and stuck up forum, compared to other internet ones

Honestly, i think Mumsnet can be quite abusive. What a bunch of nasty people you can get one here.

I'm hardly having to "overanalyse" to posts to wonder what exactly is forcing you to use mumsnet given how much you seem to dislike it.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/04/2019 15:15

All hell would break loose if there was an edit function!

GreytExpectations · 28/04/2019 15:20

I'm hardly having to "overanalyse" to posts to wonder what exactly is forcing you to use mumsnet given how much you seem to dislike it

Because i want to? I dont need to defend my choices against a random internet stranger. If you dont like what i have to say then just ignore me, thats the beauty of the internet.

Sparklingbrook · 28/04/2019 15:21

There do seem to be a lot of posters on here who don't seem to like it very much. They have an issue with the site not being like every other site, no edit/quote/like buttons. They have an issue with the sort of posters on here.

And yet they are still here, posting away so it can't be that bad. Grin

Whats NetMums like these days?

PCohle · 28/04/2019 15:21

If you don't like mumsnet then just ignore it rather than complaining about how awful it and everyone who uses it is.

GreytExpectations · 28/04/2019 15:22

@PCohle i cant believe you actually took the time to go through the thread and find my previous posts im order to quote them, just to bang on about your issue with me using the forum 😂 its the weekend, go and enjoy it instead of worrying why a stranger chooses to use a specific website.

GreytExpectations · 28/04/2019 15:24

If you don't like mumsnet then just ignore it rather than complaining about how awful it and everyone who uses it is.

Well it was all part of the subject on this thread... and also MN has its positives not that i need to qualify this to you but no, I wont leave- im good to stay but thanks!

PCohle · 28/04/2019 15:27

I'm on bedrest after surgery, I would actually quite like to be out enjoying the weekend with my kids but sadly that's not possible for me at the moment.

Is there any reason you're not following your own advice? Spending your weekend slagging off a forum and the people who use it on that forum seems a little odd to me.

SilverySurfer · 28/04/2019 15:28

amandacarnet
Nothing will change though. I have seen lots of threads like this and nothing changes

That makes me happy. If MN ever became like reddit I would leave. I've tried reddit on several occasions but its a horrible mess which MN definitely shouldn't attempt to emulate.

I guess we all like different things and it's fortunate that there is a choice. There's no reason to try to change something which I'm guessing the majority don't want changed and seemingly, neither does MNHQ. If you don't like what MN has to offer, there are alternatives.

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NameChangerAmI · 28/04/2019 15:31

It's not that I want it to be like other sites, because this is the only site I use. Doesn't mean there couldn't be improvements, though.

Mn does seem stuck in a rut though, hasn't really changed much in 10 years or so, not that I can see, anyway.

That said, I'm sticking with it cause it'll do! Grin

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Sparklingbrook · 28/04/2019 15:34

I am not on any other sites either. But reading about some of them on here makes me quite glad. Grin

goldenchicken · 28/04/2019 15:45

goldenchicken

Because when you are having a bit of an argument/debate with someone, and they get 15 'likes' and you get only 3, it smacks of 'ganging up' and almost bullying.

@MrsTerryPratchett

And you know that most of them would be for established posters.

The other issue is that I have some fairly unpopular (but well thought out and evidenced) views. Here, if people want to disagree with them, they have to engage with me about them. And that either has me learning, or them learning. Rather than 'MrsTP got 500 dislikes for her weird views'.

I do wonder whether likes are one of the reasons social media are (is?) so bad for mental health.

Hmmm, I agree with much of this. I think some people get very stressed if they 'only' get one 'like' on FB. I don't care too much, but many do.

And we said, it's horrible when you are having a debate/argument on a forum, (with an established member of the forum/someone in a clique,) and you get 1 or 2 'likes' (for your post,) and they get 30!

Makes it look like waaaay more people like and support them, and no-one gives a shit about you, and that you are 'wrong' and the other poster is right.

I swear sometimes also, that when you see someone with 25-30 'likes' or thumbs-ups or whatever, that half of them are sock accounts and there are probably only 6 or 7 actual individual people!

goldenchicken · 28/04/2019 15:45

What would be the point of leaving a post open to editing, even for a minute?

@GreytExpectations

It gives people a chance to correct bad typos or add to their post. Considering you get proper grammar nazis on here, it'd be a good thing!

I agree with this. ^ I find it odd that anyone would poo-poo the idea of an edit button, (just for 2-3 minutes,) so you can go back and fix your typos, or add something you forgot, or delete something you didn't mean to put. One time, I posted a pic of me with my DH (accidentally!) on here, instead of a pic of something else related to what the thread was about, and I was horrified! I could not do anything about it.

I messaged MN though, and they removed it within 2-3 minutes. It was 3pm. Imagine if it had been 10pm-midnight; it could have stayed on all night!!! So yeah, an edit button - if only for a few minutes (like digital spy,) would be very useful.

Don't think there should be a 'quote' function though, as it can be annoying and tedious when you get a quote within a quote within a quote within a quote........ Digital spy is awful for this, and so is money saving expert. I find reddit hard to read too, with it's '6 more replies,' '15 more replies' drop down thingy...

I have no complaints overall though (about mumsnet!) and most posters are fab, funny, kind, and helpful,and the site is very entertaining and good fun, and has really helpful and useful advice on it...........

But an edit button would be fab!!! 👍👍👍

GreytExpectations · 28/04/2019 15:46

Is there any reason you're not following your own advice? Spending your weekend slagging off a forum and the people who use it on that forum seems a little odd to me.

Ive actually had a great weekend, spent half the day today on a country walk and am relaxing this afternoon which is why i have time to be on mumsnet, i was also out shopping most of yesterday after spending the morning hosting guests. It was in the evening during down time that i was on MN. Thank you for asking 😀

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/04/2019 15:56

There's a preview option for people that want to edit.

I used to be on a site that had an edit option,it was open to a lot of abuse- sometimes funny, sometimes most definitely not. It would be the latter on MN I can almost guarantee it!

Sparklingbrook · 28/04/2019 16:09

People might want the Edit function because of all the grammar and spelling police on here. I think as long as it makes sense I don't care much about SPAG on MN.

PCohle · 28/04/2019 16:37

Grey Why is it ok for you to be relaxing on MN but for me it's somehow a waste of time and I should be out enjoying the weekend? (Despite, y'know, that being medically impossible for me right now). It's a weirdly personal attack from someone who claims to hate mean girls so much.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/04/2019 16:40

People might want the Edit function because of all the grammar and spelling police on here. I think as long as it makes sense I don't care much about SPAG on MN I don't either but there is the preview option and they can edit yo their heart's content.

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