My ex dressing the kids

[Pjmasksmum]

Each time my ex sends the kids home from a couple of nights at his, he dresses them in clothes too small. They go to his in decent outfits but when they come home they're in old small stuff that should have gone to charity and I've lost an outfit that I will never see again. He's been doing this for years now and I am sick to death of it. I thought he was doing it to get a reaction so I stopped mentioning it, he still does it. I send them back the following week in the same small clothes, he still does it.

Does anyone have any suggestions or do I should just ignore it? Bare in mind he's doing this with school uniform too and I'm so embarrassed for them going to school like that. My son's in age 7 and he's coming home in jumpers aged 5. If their shoes break he doesn't buy new ones, he glues them together to make them last until the kids come back to mine and I go straight out and buy new ones. It's absolutely humiliating for the kids. He knows full well what he's doing, it's like it's one of the last forms of control he has over me and my money and it's costing me a blessing fortune.

Holy fuck. This has reminded me of my mother doing this when I was tiny. I'd be sent to see her in lovely clothes bought by carers and then sent home in tatty shit .

It's not just men who behave like this. My partners exW used to be like this, he picked them up a day to be informed they had swimming lessons but she couldn't 'find' their stuff; had to buy 3 lots of costumes, googles, noseclips and run home for towels! He has bought numerous unnecessary duplicates, they get sent with nothing so now there's a stock of supplies for them. It's a very controlling type of behaviour and there's no need for it.

My ex did this for years. Then, just as my DCs got interested in clothes he started buying them branded items which have to be left at his. He finally allowed a pair of trainers to come after much begging by my son. It's definitely about the control.

I now have to put up with digs about my inability to buy branded items after years of me being solely responsible for EVERYTHING. if the boys need a haircut when I drop them off I get criticised. When they are there it's all about playing families rather than the tedium of going for haircuts and things like that.

Queenbeex the opportunity cannot afford to lose 2 outfits every single week.
Think how many sets of clothes that is. Her ex is keeping all the good, well fitting clothes and saving everything until it gets shabby or too small and sending them home in that.

Send them in cheap track suit bottoms and leggings. Decathalon do nice trainers for £5. Primark t shirts.