To think I’m being taken for granted

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I’ve spent all day at my boyfriend’s house decorating. He came home from work at 3 and looked round. He said ‘yeah it’s all right’ and then asked what some tiny imperfections were. Basically, I’d cut one or two bits of wallpaper with tiny nicks in them.

I had brought lunch with me for us and when I showed him what I’d brought, he said ‘isn’t that a bit fancy for lunch?’ It was tomato pasta and a slice of garlic bread.

He then proceeded to stand over me and when it came to cutting the wallpaper, he took it off me and then made a huge mess of it.

He can’t see why I’m upset. Tell me I’m not being unreasonable! 😭

You're not being unreasonable, he's ungrateful.

Is he usually such an arse?

Why are you doing all this? It's his job, surely? Of course you're not being unreasonable!

I'm assuming he's asked you to do the decorating work. He sounds a knob

Go home? I sodding well would.

Unless his paying you to decorate as you are a decorator by trade, his nit picking for nothing.

Also I’m a bit anyone thinks of pasta and garlic bread as fancy.

He is taking you for granted alright. Reconsider the relationship. People like that are hard work.

You have decorated his house for free and even brought lunch along. He complained about all of the above and you’re having to ask whether you have a right to be angry?

Seriously OP, you can do better.

I have just come home. He says that I’m being too sensitive and that he has to tell me about the imperfections that he sees, as they ‘hit him straight in the eyes’ due to his eye for detail and not to say anything would make him fee ‘dishonest’.

He isn’t normally such an arsehole. However, he is trying to sell his house and I think it is stressing him out.

He’s has me in tears today because he has been so horrible and dismissive.

I’m not a professional decorator and I have done my absolute best today. I expected a bit more than ‘it’s all right’ when he walked through the door.

Yes, he has asked me to decorate! 😂

I hope you tell the fucker to fuck off, getting stressed out, what a bloody cop out.

Tell him to fuck off and hire professionals. His house, his problem.

Being under stress isn’t an excuse for behaving like that.

Why isn’t he decorating himself?

Has he done similar things to help you?

And has he behaved like this towards you before?

Why on earth are you decorating his house. Stop. He does not appear to appreciate it

He clearly must be an amazing painter and decorator. Why isn’t he doing? Loving the moaning / ridiculous comments about your lunch?!

He has never been as awful to me as he was today. He just seemed completely unable to understand my point of view.

What an arse. Woodchip it when he’s not looking then go home and put your feet up.

Draw a massive willy and write his name underneath and then deny that you can see it when he points it out.

Even better, say “Are you looking at another imperfection?”

You've just met who he really is. Run for your life.

Fuck that. Tell him to hire someone. You’re not getting paid for that shit. What a wanker

What an ungrateful twat. Please tell me you are not going to do any more for him?

Text him now and tell him that you have to tell him about the imperfections in him that you see such as him being an ungrateful dick,
and that not to say anything would make you feel dishonest.

Is he selling to move in with you? Might this be the “mask slipping”?

Or just a (bad) one off.

He sounds horrible and completely incapable himself, so I don't know how he can criticise you.

Please don't tell us he's moving in with you.