To think I’m being taken for granted

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I’ve spent all day at my boyfriend’s house decorating. He came home from work at 3 and looked round. He said ‘yeah it’s all right’ and then asked what some tiny imperfections were. Basically, I’d cut one or two bits of wallpaper with tiny nicks in them.

I had brought lunch with me for us and when I showed him what I’d brought, he said ‘isn’t that a bit fancy for lunch?’ It was tomato pasta and a slice of garlic bread.

He then proceeded to stand over me and when it came to cutting the wallpaper, he took it off me and then made a huge mess of it.

He can’t see why I’m upset. Tell me I’m not being unreasonable! 😭

Seconding what Aquamarine said. Run fast. In the opposite direction.

Ouch. He sounds really horrible

No, we aren’t moving in together. He asked me but I said no because I think he only asked me because he was struggling for a mortgage.

I feel really upset at how he has treated me. He will be expecting me back tomorrow!

I wouldn't be helping tomorrow!

You need to go back tomorrow and do this.

iklboo - I totally should. I had to resist the urge to completely mess up the last two bits of wallpaper that I put on!

When I pointed out that he hadn’t said one nice word about my work, he told me that he thought we would discuss it when I was finished. Didn’t stop him from pointing out the faults though did it?

Or if it's patterned wallpaper hang just one piece upside down. With superglue.

OP it's one thing behaving that way, as a one-off, when you're stressed and upset. But he upset you so much that you went home, and instead of apologising, he doubles down on his behaviour? Not ok.

I'd let him do his own decorating in future and prepare his own lunch.

Wow that is incredibly rude.

DON'T do any more work over there, will you? The only way MN will allow you to go back is to put a piece of wallpaper on upside down, as a pp has suggested. Then go home!

I certainly wouldn't be going back tomorrow. He clearly doesn't think your work is good enough, so let him do it himself.

He isn’t normally such an arsehole. However, he is trying to sell his house and I think it is stressing him out.

Do you always make excuses for him?

He has never been as awful to me as he was today.
But still been pretty awful, right?

You’re not even living together and it’s this hard?

It shouldn’t be.

He's pissed off you won't subsidise the lifestyle he wants by getting a mortgage together and doing all his cleaning and laundry. Now you've ruined his grand plans he's trying to get as much out of you before he breaks it off.

Please don’t go back tomorrow! Don’t be a mug.

No fucking way would i go back tomorrow.

Draw a massive willy and write his name underneath and then deny that you can see it when he points it out.

Please please PLEASE do this, OP ^

He’s an asshole, an ungrateful asshole.

Don’t do anything else for him and tbh I’d leave him. He’s overly critical right down to your food.

Imagine how much pressure he would put on future kids you had?

Sindragosan has it, exactly what I was thinking.

He asked me but I said no because I think he only asked me because he was struggling for a mortgage
Is this the same twat you posted about not along ago?

Stop being a mug - leave him to sort out cleaning and decorating HIS house.

Sounds like you're going to go back tomorrow for more of the same treatment and you're just blowing off steam here.

Being a martyr is not cute, tell him to do it himself.

I have already told him that I’m not coming over tomorrow. It felt good.

So happy to hear you told him you are not going back.

Good!!!

Urgh what an idiot!! No more decorating for you, I'd stay away completely until he's able to admit how badly he treated you. Even then..... not sure.
Please don't let this guy walk all together over you.

So he’s going to tell you about the minor imperfections but not tell you how downright ecstatic and enormously grateful for you giving up your precious time? Wanker. I certainly wouldn’t be doing another scrap for him.

Even better, say “Are you looking at another imperfection?” PMSL @GoFiguire 🤣