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Cake-gate

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8Wina4 · 23/04/2019 23:59

I work in an office environment, in a team of around 20. Before the Easter weekend, I was chatting in the staff room on a break about how I've recently really got into baking, and one of my colleagues jokingly said that she wouldn't mind if I bought some cake to work for her to try. I promised I'd bring some home made cakes in after Easter.

Fast forward to today. I take in four different homemade cakes. I also took in some little vegan cake bites from Tesco, as we have 2 vegans in the office and I wanted them to be able to eat something nice too (everything I baked had flour/eggs in)

One of the vegans approached me at lunch, and told me that she was really disappointed that I hadn't made the effort to home bake anything vegan, and that I had promised homemade cakes, so I should have provided that for everyone. She said she didn't like the vegan cakes I'd bought from Tesco, and that she was fed up with being left out of team lunches/treats.

I was a bit taken aback, so apologised. But the more I think about it, the more I think she was actually the unreasonable one...

Thoughts?

OP posts:
Orangeballon · 24/04/2019 23:40

She was a total self entitled bitch. That was very good of you to go to all that trouble. Vegans have to accept that they will not get special treatment.

piefacedClique · 24/04/2019 23:48

What.... the vegan apologised? The vegan who fad a tantrum that her vegan cake wasn’t a home add vegan cake? What have I missed!

QueenOfTheTofuTree · 24/04/2019 23:50

I would hardly say she had a tantrum.

staceyflack · 24/04/2019 23:50

You were very thoughtful and she's the kind of person that gives vegans a bad name! Tell her to f**k off. Smile

Livingoncake · 25/04/2019 00:06

OP, you’re a better person than I am. I would never bring cakes into the office again, and if anyone asked why, I’d tell them. Seriously, you gave your colleagues a gift, and this brat has the nerve to complain that her gift wasn’t good enough? Way to suck the joy out of the situation. Fuck that.

AlexaAmbidextra · 25/04/2019 00:08

but I do live bang In the middle of oilseed rape country!

Bertrand. East Anglia? It’s rampant here at the moment.

NaturalBornWoman · 25/04/2019 08:01

You actually can cook with EV oil, only deep frying is unsuitable due to the low burning temperature.

I use it to gently fry onion, spices, and so on, on low heat, it doesn't smoke, so I thought that was fine?

Yeah I googled and apparently latest thinking is its fine, even the most stable. I stand corrected.

PreseaCombatir · 25/04/2019 08:11

AIBU- the place to discuss all CF’ery.
Unless they’re vegans, then you’re not allowed, because queen says so. Lol

woollyheart · 25/04/2019 08:57

Why don't you tell your colleague that it is her turn now - and you look forward to a nice buttery cream cake - seeing as she advocates baking for all tastes.

Perfect!

woollyheart · 25/04/2019 08:58

Sorry - should have put quote in bold.🤭

Lweji · 25/04/2019 10:50

Yeah I googled and apparently latest thinking is its fine, even the most stable. I stand corrected.

My grandmother used olive oil for everything, including deep frying.

Lweji · 25/04/2019 10:55

I'd say 90% of people agreed with me, whereas some felt that I could have gone to the effort of googling a suitable recipe. I've taken that on board, and will try and make one in the future.

Just go with the majority. We live in a democracy, after all. 😉

Don't let the line voices spoil it for you. Colleague or GF on the thread.

Ghanagirl · 25/04/2019 11:26

@Veterinari
Are you the ungrateful vegan?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 25/04/2019 14:48

I wouldn't use EVO oil in a cake though, it does have a fairly distinctive flavour. Light olive oil would be ok, but I prefer to use rice bran oil, or grapeseed oil. No noticeable flavour in either.

BertrandRussell · 25/04/2019 14:52

I made a cake that specified olive oil once- not a vegan one. I really didn’t like the flavour. I think it was Ottogenghi.

Veterinari · 25/04/2019 15:04

@Ghanagirl if I was do you think i’d Have described my own behaviour as ‘super rude’ Or do you think that’s some kind of cunning double bluff Confused

QueenOfTheTofuTree · 25/04/2019 15:08

Apparently you can add a can of Coke or lemonade to a cake mix and it will turn out the same as it would have done if you used egg and milk.

A lot of instant cake mixes you can buy are accidentally vegan so the can of coke method could be one to consider if you want to 'make' a vegan cake.

QueenOfTheTofuTree · 25/04/2019 15:10
RockinHippy · 25/04/2019 15:15

Give the princess a rice cake & tell her to STFU

YADNBU

Veterinari · 25/04/2019 15:20

@Ghanagirl
I just saw this thread and thought of you Grin

MulticolourMophead · 25/04/2019 15:24

She was rude in approaching you, but there are easy vegan cake recipes, that don't use exotic ingredients, are tasty, and are made from stuff easily bought or that you will most likely have already.

I'm not vegan, but my DD made some vegan brownies as a gift to a dairy intolerant friend. Absolutely wonderful they were. Came out fab first time, and we made them several times before I lost the recipe. Must search again, they were that good.

Hopoindown31 · 25/04/2019 15:51

It probably would have been bettet not to bother with providing anything for the vegans at all. I had a similar thing with some savoury baked goods at a former workplace. I even made a vegan option and still got some people asking why they weren't all vegan.

Streamside · 25/04/2019 16:16

Maybe encourage her to bring in some vegan cakes, I'm sure she won't but kick it back to her.I'm vegan and would never be expect anything like this.

user1480880826 · 25/04/2019 16:48

Well done for not calling the person an ungrateful sod.

I definitely would not have thought to buy vegan treats so that the vegan people didn’t feel left out. Where do you draw the line?! If there had been someone with gluten intolerance and someone with a baking powder phobia should you have made separate cakes for them too?

Vegans have chosen to have an alternative diet so they shouldn’t be surprised to find themselves in situations where there isn’t anyone for them to eat

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