Would you call out someone learing at your dd

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I felt the need to and did today but as I have never seen anyone publically do it before , I did feel like I'd lost my shit somewhat. It was the heat of the moment thing, instinctive and in split second I'd turned and shouted what the hell do you think you're doing.

A man in his late 30s / early 40s walking past making faces and gestures as if he found DD very attractive. She is 12! Tall but does not look over 16.

He apologized probably realising I was her mother, but I was so angry, I told him to fuck of out of here . Not typical language for me. I'd got the feeling it was not unusual for him to do this to young girls.

Basically w.w.y.d?

Good for you I've done the same and don't regret it .I've had men in their 60's pass comments on my daughter and her friends since they've been about 12. I've called them out in a nice loud clear voice 'shes only 12' or 'they are underage' never fails to send them scurrying . Now that the girls are 18 their preferred method is to loudly say 'ew dirty old pervert ' which is pretty effective ,you almost see their manhoods shriveling in front of you . Disgusting what young girls and women have to deal with. I'm in my 30's and very fat so I've become all but invisible to these creeps and it's a welcome relief if I'm honest

DH walked up to the van and leaned into the open window, asking if they were ‘partially sighted or paedophiles?’ And offered to take them ‘to an optician or a police station?’

This deserves applause. I'm banking that one for next time I see men acting inappropriately.

It's worrying how many men clearly love leering at young girls; I haven't had to deal with this since I was a teen but it used to happen all the time. As a PP said, is it because they know a young girl is too shy to call them out? It's so gross.

I just think that men are sexually attracted to young flesh, the younger the better. Not all men, but a lot of them. The same men just see females as meat, not people. Apart from their mothers of course.

I would of & have done the same thing many times over & would do it again in a heart beat. Though my phrase of choice is "back off you dirty little paedo,

We've had it from 50+ yo too, it's grim 🤬

Well done for saying something. A man in his 60s/70s sat in a row away but opposite to my 4 year old dd on the train at the weekend and the way he stared at her made my blood run cold. I moved to the seat next to her (I was opposite her at the time) and glared at him. He quickly looked away. Im still angry now. I'll definitely be calling anyone out that does this again. Awful.

I would and I have. More than once.

As in "Oi.. leave her alone, that's my child you're talking to, you pervert"

I don't say anything as that would really upset her. I just firmly and very obviously move to stand in front of her with my arms crossed. My daughter is an adult (with MH issues that make her very shy and childlike) though, so slightly different from an underage child (though she looks about 17!)

Just to add good for you op.

I remember putting with disgusting comments as a child and feeling very uncomfortable. I hope I’m teaching my girls that it’s absolutely ok to make a fuss and scene.

Good for you op, but I would have added the word ‘paedophile’ into what you shouted loudly.

petrifiedprawn - I don't know how you contained yourself. Thing is I'd be afraid of making a mistake and maybe that's why we don't call people out, and I guess if we're in a public place, don't want to make a massive scene. I did make a scene , it hit my stomach so fast, I'd flipped.

It happens every time I take my friend's 15yr old out shopping. She's not into makeup etc (which I think can add a few years at that age) & is pretty, but obviously a young 15. It's worrying the number of times a guy has made comments then followed us for a good way, asking where she lives & what she's doing tonight: so I've had to up the death stare & say she's 15, back off. They're usually late 20's. I'm in London tho & interestingly I noticed it didn't happen when we visited my Midlands home town, which made a really nice change.

Good for you OP. This happens often to my DD who's 14 and I've pointedly said her age to them. However usually they have no shame. One man once actually said to me that she shouldn't wear 'those shorts' then! Fuming doesn't describe how I felt.

When my daughters were young I had to shout at many many men for leering and making disgusting comments when they were walking with me down the street. I remember being about 13 and on the tube with my mum and dad when a man leant towards me and said I had beautiful breasts I told my mum and dad what he had said and my dad went mad I think the hiding he gave him made me feel worse than the comment.

My mother did, when I was 10. I was and am eternally grateful to her. She showed me that I don’t have to put up with that shit, the very first time (as far as I knew) it happened.

I'm glad you voiced your objection to this man.

I don’t have kids but I’ve called people out on learing / making inappropriate comments to other young people a number of times. We should all look out for each other in my book

This was a very very depressing thread. I have experienced it myself when a young girl and now I have a daughter I am thinking what she will experience.

So I have noticed I am invisible to men now I am over 40. I look like a film star too but no-one even glances at me

Is it true that men are really attracted to girls not women?

Oh dear - this is grim.

I really feel for your DD.
Thank you for telling him to f* off. Glad you didn't just ignore.

Absolutely disgusting. I have noticed that I get far less male attention now, late 20s than I did in my early & mid teens. Men would be so vulgar, I found it horrible but sort of funny at the time. I remember shouting after one man who groped my friend "piss off, we're 13 you freak" and getting told off by a passer by for using bad language.

It's a sick world. Many, many more men than we'd like to admit are perverted.

Good for you OP, this used to happen to me all the time in my teens. I had pretty large breasts for my age which attracted lots of unwanted attention. My mum once called someone out when she was with me, and the man said I should f'ing cover them up if I didn't want people looking. I was 13 and wearing a vest top on a hot day.
No way did I pass for an adult (not that it would be acceptable behaviour even if I did).

I would have absolutely lost my shit!

Abso-fucking-lutely. Well done op. These arseholes need called out.
Although I have to say, if it was myself they had been leering at I would have probably just left it, but my dd I would have lost my shit.

I would absolutely have done what you did. Disgusting pervert! Good on you.

You were my mum today lol. She had to do this numerous times with men staring at my sister. Not as young as 12 though more like when she was 13/14. Always was worse when we were on holiday. She was very pretty, tanned and blonde. We witnessed a man crash his motorbike into a car at traffic lights as he was staring at her. Haha u perv, he got what he deserved.

Good for you OP. It makes me furious, I’d so the same.

You’ve also shown your DD that it’s not acceptable and it is ok to speak out. She doesn’t have to take this shit - none of them do.

My DD is same age, tall and slim and looks older .God help any man that leers at her i do not hold back when it comes to my DC's they would get a verbal bashing. I have also told her it is unacceptable if it ever happens and she would be fully in her right to call it out and she would too she has a very strong sense of right and wrong .