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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To start another unpopular opinions thread...

427 replies

Mammylamb · 23/04/2019 22:14

... as the last one is full

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JacquesHammer · 25/04/2019 20:28

Nobody needs a car bigger than a Ford Focus (especially if they don't have more than 2 children)

My “big” car has lower emissions than a Ford Focus....

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 25/04/2019 20:51

We really should have grown out of simple superstitions in this day and age when science can explain most things.

My faith is not a 'simple superstition'. I have a lot of time for science too. Faith and science are not mutually exclusive to me.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 25/04/2019 20:55

Nobody needs a car bigger than a Ford Focus (especially if they don't have more than 2 children)

I imagine that many of us don't 'need' much of the 'stuff' that we possess. However, there should be some element of enjoyment to life. If we all live a miserable existence, with only life's true essentials at our disposal, and produce offspring to suffer the same fate .... what is the purpose of any of it?

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 25/04/2019 20:58

Slimming world relies on people putting weight back on . Rant over

I'd have to disagree. With over half of the adult population overweight, SW has a huge target market.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 25/04/2019 21:01

I date men based on looks, discovering personalities takes months. I was to fancy him enough to shag him

So do I. Unfortunately the men usually work on the same basis which leaves me doing without a lot of the time Grin

SecretWitch · 25/04/2019 21:09

@NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace*, I really like you. I hope that is not an unpopular opinion.

Drogosnextwife · 25/04/2019 21:14

People who are up on their high horse with the whole "breast is best" are boring. No one gives a shit what milk you feed your baby.

Tattoos are brilliant, as are piercings.

Range rovers and Audis are common as muck (actually lovely cars but they have been ruined by everyone and their granny buying them).

Red lipstick and sunglasses don't make every woman look instantly glamorous, infact red lipstick looks shit on a lot of woman.

Helicopter parents are fucking annoying, you are not doing your children any favours. Children need to learn how to play and interact with others without adult involvement. They do not need to be entertained during every waking hour.

All social media is shot and will be the death of society (it's already causing so many problems)

Recycling is a load of bullshit and most of the things we recycle are dumped in landfills anyway so it makes no difference. I am a stickler for recycling though, but mostly because they don't empty our bond enough.

ExpletiveDelighted · 25/04/2019 21:22

Bloody hell, imagine working full time but having your baby in reusable nappies! Nurseries would stop taking babies and all the extra electric washing those bloody nappies wouldn’t be too clever for the environment either.

I did this, in fact for several months with two in cloth nappies, it was fine and nursery were happy with it.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 25/04/2019 21:26

@SecretWitch

Do you? Blush That's a really lovely thing to say. Things are not going too smoothly at the minute and I feel a little bit sad and unloved — nothing that won't pass with time — but you have really lifted my spirits. Big thanks Smile

Smotheroffive · 25/04/2019 21:27

Aren't there some utterly delightful ignorances on here Grin

Smotheroffive · 25/04/2019 21:28

Flowers nicelegs

Since2016 · 25/04/2019 21:53

Ok I’ll bite...

  • That most people can breastfeed but choose not to (which is obviously fine but own your decision)
  • That most people have no idea how to drive round roundabouts
  • That staying working / having an income stream gives you the chance to maintain your independence and financial freedoms in a marriage / relationship
  • That London is a brilliant place to raise kids
Mammylamb · 25/04/2019 21:59

I bottle fed. I don’t regret it for a moment. I was in agony breastfeeding and my baby was screaming in hunger. It turned out for the best as I had to be given morphine a few days after moving to bottle feeding. I possibly could have persevered. But I didn’t. I genuinely believe breast is best. But bottle feeding in a country with clean water is a damn good alternative

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Mammylamb · 25/04/2019 22:00

I don’t fancy Kit Harrington or Jason Mamoa.

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Madein1995 · 25/04/2019 22:03

The new McDonald's straws are crap. I'm not against them going no plastic, just the fact that the seemingly paper thin straws wither the second you do anything more than a gentle suck on it. Plenty of nightclubs in local city do a better job and they're also non plastic. Sort it out, please

People shouting at people who dare to suggest the straws are a nuisance, and should just put it in a glass instead, and being quite nasty (have seen comments) should be quiet.

I don't believe that every person who commits a crime should be ostracised. I also think one of the best ways to support victims is to ensure offenders get proper support and housing, training etc, so as to reduce reoffending and therefore reduce the amount of victims

I think that once a man has been abusive to his partner (or indeed the other way around) they should only have extremely supervised contact with children. I don't care your excuses. Any person who can lose control of themselves in that manner cannot be trusted. After all children can be infuriating sometimes and who's to say they won't hit a tantrumming toddler? Courts are way too lenient and have taken 'fathers rights' too bloody far. Through volunteering I've heard cases where a partner routinely showed a child images of animals being abused, and is still allowed court ordered unsupervised contact with said child. They were still showing the images and mum was forced to send them. Alsk heard cases where mum's have been made to take children into prisons to visit dads. Disgusting I think.

On that note - prison is no place for a child.

Dumping tour child at the checkout or leaving them wandering the store while you try on boots or buy milk is irresponsible and bloody upsetting for your child.

People who make a fuss over breast vs formula are idiots. What business is it of yours how someone else feeds her baby? Mind your own boobs.

I wish the media would stop running stories like 'my DWP work coach persecuted me' and the like. First off you never hear the full story and secondly I wonder where the 'us and them' attitude comes from?

Childcare is necessary and certainly does no harm to small children, however nursery for its own sake has no actual benefit to the child until around 18mlnths. If you need to work, or just want one day a week off to eat chocolate buttons and watch Jeremy Kyle, good for you! But don't smugly tell other mums that you're doing it so that little Arabella, who is 7mnths, can develop her social skills.

The ministers who make the idiotic rules and rates on benefits should first be made to live for 6months on that amount of money, while dealing with the unpredictably of the benefit.

I don't think it's entirely unreasonable that the DWP expects parents to look for work once the child turns 3.

I also think that SAH is a valid choice and sometimes a financially better one, however it is not ok to expect the benefit system to allow you to be a SAH parent

Care workers should get paid much more than they currently do.

Out here in the real word moat people would be overjoyed to earn 30k per year and could live more than comfortably on it.

Wales is not just a small forgotten about country and should receive much more funding. There's huge pockets of deprivation and socio economic issues such as unemployment, substance misuse, crime, low attainment and these areas need funding. The people who live there are not bad or stupid , they just need a bit of a chance

Teenagers should be encouraged at 18 to take a few years and work before deciding to go to uni. I went straight from school as was the done thing and wish I'd chosen a different subject

Fat shaming is not going to encourage people to lose weight.

It actually is worse, health wise at least, to be too underweight rather than overweight. Fat might kill you 20yrs on with diabetes and heart failure. Being significantly underweight reduces your blood circulation, causes you pain just to lie down in bed, puts pressure on your internal organs and creates vitamin deficiencies.

It is not ok to normalise weight at either end of the spectrum. Extreme skinnyness as seen on models is not a healthy ideal for young girls. Nor is extreme overweight something to be celebrated. Both are seriously harmful.

Discussing calories and weight with your child is never a good idea. Make the food healthier and encourage exercise by all means but telling your child they're overweight will just lead to confidence issues.

Bullying is the fault of the bully and not the victim. So no you shouldn't encourage your child to lose weight to stop bullying. You should go up the school, speak to the head, and stop the bullying

SecretWitch · 25/04/2019 22:05

@NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace, so sorry you are feeling a bit shit :(
You sound centered and lovely. I had a laugh at your name as for me it is the other way round😂

Sending hugs from a stumpy but cheerful internet stranger.

Madein1995 · 25/04/2019 22:35

I also think that if anyone overpays you - be it the bank, SLC or government- it's right you pay it back. The fact that it's not your mistake doesn't negate the fact that you had money you shouldn't have. It's only right to pay it back. Sticking heads in the sand and blaming it on the other party will do nothing except perhaps make the amount you're paying each month, more. Your best option is to ring the company and negotiate a repayment rate that you can afford. By all means ask for evidence that you were actually overpaid, but don't just refuse to pay

AlaskanOilBaron · 25/04/2019 22:58

Organic food is an unnecessary and expensive affectation

I used to think this, but I had a conversion some years ago and what I learned is, organic is really not about humans, (although it's certainly not bad for humans). It's about the earth: avoiding pesticides that destroy the habitat and poison the water table so on.

It's a silly kind of neologism because any food that can be 'organic' in this context is organic in the original sense so I wonder why no one has come up with a better turn of phrase, but in any case it is fairly good shorthand for ethically reared food.

KissingInTheRain · 26/04/2019 00:03

Tattoos are useful. They act as a leper’s bell to warn the rest of us about the terminally stupid people who have them.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 26/04/2019 00:21

To not think that people who have committed criminal offences should be lined up and shot or locked up with keys thrown away.

amandacarnet · 26/04/2019 01:16

Kissing, seriously that is a stupid thing to say andi don't like tattoos. Tattoos are associated with oppression. Poorer people, gay people and prostituted women are more likely to get them. Being oppressed is very different from being stupid.

amandacarnet · 26/04/2019 01:17

I think just because everyone does something, does not mean I should. I don't care if you speed, steal stuff or cheat on your taxes, I am not going to. My unpopular opinion is that I think morals matter, even when no one knows you have been immoral.

TheFastandCurious · 26/04/2019 04:50

@smotheroffive

That’s a weird response to my post. Ive made sure nothing I put on here is ‘goady’ Confused My post was in response to the PP who said anyone that needed to help with tax credits to work part time should also be using reusable nappies all the time.

I thought about all the struggling parents who would be forced to go back full time as soon as their babies were born and how all the nurseries would suddenly cope with having to be large laundries and sluice rooms.

Calling people ‘disgusting’ really doesn’t make you any better or less goady.

malificent7 · 26/04/2019 06:22

It's fine to rehome animals if it isn't working out ( you are not turning them out on the street.)
Not all transgender people are in it because they want to lurk in the ladies looking up skirts.
Just because you arr married and have been for ages does not mean that your relationship is any more valid and special than a couple who are deeply in love yet dont live together and arent married. You are not a better person for being married.

( im engaged so not bitter.)

balloonyellow · 26/04/2019 06:23

There’s having opinions, and then there’s straight up benefit bashing and sexismHmm What about SAHDs on benefits? If the benefits system wasn’t viable then they wouldn’t do it. Let’s all go back to trading goats then we wouldn’t have this issueGrin Money is man made and government controlled. Why not take what you’re entitled to? Many people have paid a lot in taxes before claiming benefits, most still have jobs. Please take the wool from over your eyes. Hope you never end up in that position!

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