yea I tend to blether on been criticised for that before one particular poster hates it.
I just felt so angry on op's behalf and what I wrote about how my family would have reacted in similar circumstances was true. But not just my family, I've several close friends with similarly close families and their matriarchs (and patriarchs) wouldn't allow such behaviour either, I'm struggling to think of any I know that would.
I've never supported the "your wedding your way Hun" crap, it's not how I was raised to view weddings at all.
The couple (well actually traditionally the brides parents) are HOSTING the event, which good hosts know means considering your guests needs and comfort. Not to ridiculous levels of course but you certainly cover the basics.
An event which - again traditionally - actually ISN'T just about the couple at all but the joining of 2 FAMILIES. I've also never liked the idea of child free weddings I've never been invited to any, even before I had a child myself, all the weddings I've been invited to and attended have included close relatives and children that to me is normal. This has included weddings of various different religions and cultures and non religious ones too.
I actually used to work in the industry too and not one of the couples I worked with had child free weddings either. It really isn't the norm at all.
Personally I think it's gone way too far in terms of couples focusing on what THEY want. It's ONE day, it's only really of huge importance to them, the guests celebrating with them are doing so for them, they don't gain anything by being guests.
It's partly down to the wedding industry desperately trying to justify costs in an era when it's no longer a stigma not to be married. Add in SM nonsense and it's getting utterly rificulous! With obscene amounts of money spent and waste created.
10 groomsmen is laughably crass and classless, even royals and wealthy Americans don't do that nonsense!
And to waste money like this on ONE day to the detriment of gaining an education or a home just shows to me - and clearly others judging by responses - how completely immature and irresponsible this couple are, particularly considering they're parents - because while we're getting the tale from the grooms side of things I have no doubt the brides agreed to all of this. As I said before quiet doesn't mean reasonable or sensible.
Sorry another long one
And yes those who dislike the thread for whatever reason nobody is forcing you to either read or post, op has done nothing wrong, levity helps in a situation like this.