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The Ten White Horsemen Of The Apocalypse Wedding Part 2

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jessicawessica · 23/04/2019 13:27

I've never had to start a second thread so no idea if I've done this right.
I couldn't resist the title.

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Weezol · 24/04/2019 04:56

Send them a gift with a card attached stating it reflects the true value of your relationship - a large, beautifully wrapped empty box.

Happynow001 · 24/04/2019 07:10
  • Yes, it seems my EX husband and his DP (The Gin Queen) have been invited to the wedding. How privileged are they?* My goodness what a mess this young man is making. And most he'll have to show for it afterwards is hurt feelings in his immediate family, some dubious photos and a lot of entitlement on his side.

I wonder what's going on in the head of his bride to be - though maybe she's happy at her mother's and letting him get on with it as his father is paying.

BlackCatSleeping · 24/04/2019 07:49

Wait a minute!!!

Your own brother’s child did not invite you to the entire wedding, but your Ex and his partner is invited to the whole thing????

🤯

AngelinaNeurosurgeon · 24/04/2019 07:52

OP - has the bride any familyto invite because I do wonder if she's said he can only have a few family members because she's got none?
And why is the wedding 60 miles from home?

Motoko · 24/04/2019 07:59

@BlackCatSleeping

No, only the evening, same as OP.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 24/04/2019 08:00

So what's the plan going forward re: weekly meet ups from now on? Are you switching venue to your DB2's permanently, then inviting your mum but not DB1 and twatty DN? That will certainly drill home the point and avoid endless wedding talk. After DN's reaction to your mum's explanation why you weren't there at the weekend he and your other bro need to understand the full fallout from this.

Lizzie48 · 24/04/2019 08:20

Angelina yes that would be a much more understandable reason. In which case, they should have simply explained this in one of the very many Sunday afternoon wedding discussions.

MRex · 24/04/2019 08:26

I've reported your thread title to get it changed to groomsmen.

Inviting your ex, wow. So "D"N will be having a good laugh at the golf club with your ex that he's upset you. It comes across that he somehow feels he's scored a point, which is very unpleasant but surely there must be something behind what's turning out to be actual dislike for you, DB2 and your families? Could it be because you each mentioned about a DS not wanting to go to the apocalyptic wedding and that offended groomzilla?

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jessicawessica · 24/04/2019 08:45

TBH I wasn't really that surprised about EX's invitation because they do know each other. Admittedly that's through me marrying him, so bringing him into the family. But the golf thing was just a happy accident. They are members at the same club, so I suppose it's not unusual that they would see each other there.
We are "civil" to each other, so it's not as though we'd have ended up brawling on the dancefloor.
However, I can't stand his DP and there's no way I would have wanted to be there with her.

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harriethoyle · 24/04/2019 08:52

Are you switching venue to your DB2's permanently, then inviting your mum but not DB1 and twatty DN?

You should definitely do this...

hellsbellsmelons · 24/04/2019 08:52

So glad I found the 2nd thread.
Just caught up on the 1st one.
Your DN is an arse!

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jessicawessica · 24/04/2019 08:56

Well DB2 's invitation still stands and we could walk there so saves me driving to my mums. So yes it looks like that's the plan...so far.

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Nanny0gg · 24/04/2019 09:03

Does DN's mother know about any of this? How close is she to her son?

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jessicawessica · 24/04/2019 09:07

DN and fiancee and DD live with DN's mum, so I should hope they are pretty close otherwise it would be hell.
I can't imagine me having to live with my DS and his girlfriend and DC unless we were very close.

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TheSerenDipitY · 24/04/2019 09:16

omg so your ex husband got to bring a guest and you didnt have a plus one even :O it just gets worse doesnt it

beanaseireann · 24/04/2019 09:22

Graphista's post was brilliant.

JessieMcJessie · 24/04/2019 09:28

I think it was the longest post I have ever seen on Mumsnet!

Nanny0gg · 24/04/2019 09:31

So his mum (who you are friends with) is also going along with the way you've all been treated?

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jessicawessica · 24/04/2019 09:32

Yes it was long....but brilliant.
EX made me laugh. When I told him I wasn't going he offered to take the DCs with him to the evening do.
I told him to go home and read his invitation again.

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JessieMcJessie · 24/04/2019 09:33

Yes, “long” was admiring her dedication, not criticising!

StealthPolarBear · 24/04/2019 09:45

Getting on this thread

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jessicawessica · 24/04/2019 09:50

DN.'s mum probably shares DB1s opinion that it's not their place to interfere. I don't know.

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MrsKoala · 24/04/2019 09:53

So are your children (his cousins) definitely not invited to any part of the wedding at all?

I just can't get my head around talking endlessly to excited 11 year old girls about a wedding every single Sunday for years and then being cruel enough not to invite them. They must be phenomenally thick to not see how unkind this is. Or did they think just the reflected pleasure of hearing them talk about it was honour enough for you all?

Threefaries · 24/04/2019 10:08

Your wedding gift could be print outs of these threads. Boxed up and tied with a bow.

JessieMcJessie · 24/04/2019 10:14

Are you concerned at all that DN fiancée, DN Mum or someone else who would recognise the family might be Mumsnetters?

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