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The Ten White Horsemen Of The Apocalypse Wedding Part 2

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jessicawessica · 23/04/2019 13:27

I've never had to start a second thread so no idea if I've done this right.
I couldn't resist the title.

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CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 10/05/2019 09:40

I wonder if your DB1 has made any effort at all to get them to see how hurtful they’ve been, of if he’s still just spinelessly handing over the cheque book.

BrienneofTarthILoveYou · 10/05/2019 13:05

How did they take the news of not being invited to DB2s house on a Sunday?

I agree that it would be very hard for them to make amends but it would be nice for future family harmony if they at least tried.

Mayalready · 10/05/2019 13:15

Is it just me that has marked August 4th in their diary??

StormTreader · 10/05/2019 14:00

I've just read both these threads with my jaw dropped! Their entitlement is truly mind-blowing.

Ginkypig · 17/05/2019 12:00

Just caught up again after forgetting about it for a couple of weeks Blush

My feeling is that things will be generally quiet now apart from the odd comment which might flare the situation occasionally. Unless your brother decides to fall out with you over his son.

Then the wedding will happen and things may or may not kick off again.

WinnieTheW0rm · 19/05/2019 08:36

I wonder if all this will lead to SIL (MrsDB1) beginning to put her foot down about conduct in her home?

Because she really should not be driven out of it.

I was wondering if the need for Sundays elsewhere was because they have been told to remove themselves, so there is regular time when they are not there (does SIL attend the Sunday lunches?)

I can see that SIL does not want to jeopardise her relationship with her DGC. But I am wondering if this is such a scales dropping moment that the more general expectation (leading to subtle pressure leading to overt pressure) that as a marrried family it is time they established themselves under their own roof will ramp up.

beanaseireann · 19/05/2019 09:37

EdtheBear
"....if he has any brains...."
Sadly it appears he doesn't.

Boxingmum · 23/05/2019 19:08

How’s things now?

Littlemissdaredevil · 01/06/2019 17:26

@jessicawessica just wondering if their was any update?

BumandChips · 01/06/2019 17:42

Oh I wondered why this had reppeared!

ArgyMargy · 01/06/2019 20:51

The wedding's not until August 😁

1moremum · 02/06/2019 21:14

OK. I missed the first thread, but I am up to speed now.

WTF?

the way I see it, the ceremony is where your family is prioritized and the party after is for all those friends you want to party with, or that you feel you owe some sort of invitation but you don't really want to. inviting your aunt and underaged cousins to the party doesn't even make sense. I mean, I'm sure OP and her children would enjoy themselves, but as an aunt my self, I'd be much more interested in seeing the actual wedding and much less interested in doing the Macarena with their friends from school and work.

orangesnapples · 03/06/2019 13:22

Bless you, your mum and brother. I can't imagine they don't know how hurtful this all
Is. So they must just not care. I wish you a fantastic holiday and hope you your mum and brother do something fantastic on the actual wedding day together xx

mummmy2017 · 19/06/2019 17:12

Sound like them no longer CF ing on a Sunday frees you all up as well.
Also DN is going to realise how cut off he is becoming from his family...

MummyToEthan · 20/06/2019 08:32
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ArgyMargy · 08/07/2019 16:25

Any news, OP?

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jessicawessica · 09/07/2019 23:52

Update.
DN is now ringing round family members as he has booked a certain number of seats for a sit down meal and a lot of those he expected to come aren't available.
He has invited his cousin, her DP and their DS (remember no children allowed) to the ceremony and meal. She originally didn't even get an invitation to the evening do, so has suddenly been pushed up the pecking order.
Apparently the honoured mates and their girlfriends he originally "assumed" would sit at the top table instead of his actual family, can't attend because the happy couple have picked the most busy holiday weekend to host their wedding.
Suddenly they find themselves with lots of prebooked meals and no one to eat them.
Me and DB2 did get hasty revised invites but both declined (again) which did not go down very well at all.
Shame.

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Forensicpsych · 09/07/2019 23:57

Serves them right!

EdtheBear · 09/07/2019 23:58

What a tosser!

How's GM is she still not going?
I take it the rifts aren't going to disappear that easily.

Crazycrazylady · 10/07/2019 00:03

There's karma right there !

FrancisCrawford · 10/07/2019 00:05

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AtrociousCircumstance · 10/07/2019 00:09

Awesome Grin

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jessicawessica · 10/07/2019 00:10

My Mum says she HAS to go if only to take as many photos of the car crash we are all expecting.

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coconutpie · 10/07/2019 00:11

Oh I'm loving the latest update!!!

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 10/07/2019 00:12

They are getting no less than they deserve. Good for you and DB to have declined.