To be angry at FB "friend" over cat post and be desperate to post something scathing

[Witchofzog]

Post reads " Now baby is here and about to come out of hospital, we need to rehome our cat due to the hair issue. She is short haired, 1 year old and really friendly. She has been flead and wormed but isn't vaccinated or spayed"

I feel like asking whether they realised a cat could live to around 16 before they got her if they knew babies could be a possibility, and why she isn't bloody vaccinated etc. And why can't they try the cat and baby living together at least before they think of revoking. It's such an arsehole thing to do in my book

I'm also thinking that perhaps there are major health issues with the baby, feeding tube, oxygen etc that needs very good hygiene and maybe having had a poorly baby they want to eliminate as many risks as possible. Without the full story I am not going to judge.

Ask on fb what the hair issue is ......not the same as calling her a cunt but still it'll get a dig in

I have had four cats for the past 10 years. And 2 children aged 7 and 1. We have all survived.

Your friend sounds like an irresponsible, selfish twat and the cat will probably be well off out of it.

when you get a cat you commit to looking after it for its lifetime.

I disagree with that.
That attitude will mean fewer cats in homes & more languishing in cages shelters.
If you expect that only perfect is good enough then the wise response is to never even bother trying.
Reasonable to commit to do your best by the animal. But it's not like marriage or having a child. People are allowed to try & be honest if something doesn't work for them.

Y'all can unfriend me on FBk now (!)

I would of replied "cat was there first so why aren't you rehoming the baby instead?"
Baffles me how people can have animals then just rehome them.
It's like they don't see them as family and just a possession.

There are very genuine reasons why people need to re-home their pets at times.

Not having the foresight to consider whether you’re happy to have child/pet together isn’t one of them.

What's the hair issue? 🤷🏼‍♀️
www.newscientist.com/article/2188610-the-more-pets-you-meet-as-a-baby-the-lower-your-risk-of-allergies/

I completely agree with you OP. I'd probably have to delete the F*cebook app until I'd calmed down. Poor kitty.

We were so pleased and proud to bring DS1 home from the hospital and introduce him to OrdinaryCat. Then again 2.5 years later OrdinaryCat was mildly unnerved when we came home with twins, but took it is his stride and used to sleep between their Cocoonababy crib thingies on our bed.

All three boys have no allergies and love their furry big brother. The relationship between them is such a source of joy to me. I am aghast your friend is not even bothering to try the cat and baby co-existing. YANB at all U.

Typical throw away nature of society these days - no longer convenient so get rid of it! They don't deserve to have the cat and should give it to someone who will love it no matter what comes along in life

I'd send her the information that it costs a tenner to neuter a cat using cats protection vouchers. They also have a good photo asking how do you save 100 cats? = answer is to neuter one.

Totally irresponsible not to neuter. I hope the cat ends up in a decent home.

I would be annoyed as well but can see how as new parents they would worry. When i brought my youngest home my cat sat and stared for hours in his Moses Basket as she literally baffled what was making the noise coming out of it! My DS is now 7 and my cat and son adore each other, however she is such a placid cat, some cats are not as friendly!

That is one gorgeous cat Queen.

And all I can think is that you smell of mice and catnip, because neither of mine ever gaze at me adoringly like that!

And people like this are the reason why it's so hard to adopt a pet when you have a baby- we got a kitten when DS was 6 months old and loads of places wouldn't even consider it.

I'm also thinking that perhaps there are major health issues with the baby, feeding tube, oxygen etc that needs very good hygiene and maybe having had a poorly baby they want to eliminate as many risks as possible.

I'm sure this would have been mentioned in the ad.

Most FB users don't seem to be reticent about their private business and there'd have been a million photos of baby in an incubator etc. And it would have been specified "for baby health reasons" not "for hair issue".

If they want to rehome fine but no vaccinations - cats prob better rehomed

@lljkk
What a twisted view, keeping a pet for its lifetime is why pets are in shelters. Seriously wtaf?
Where do you think the unwanted ones end up?
What give up your pet after a few years and go adopt another?
You are clearly stupid.

I'm desperately sad that I have to rehome my beloved cat now. We've just had a baby and my husband is allergic and she has a bacteria that can be bad for premature babies. I'm absolutely gutted and it makes me cry when I think about her leaving. I never in a million years thought I would be the person having to rehome my cat because of a baby. Safe to say I won't be having any more pets ever.

How bizarre. Not having the cat speyed is beyond irresponsible.

This is how I ended up with Sparklingcat though. Family had a baby and then decided they no longer wanted her. Left her at a vets with a false telephone number or something.

If she hears a baby crying on the TV now she always stops what she is doing and looks round.

Well tbh anyone who doesn't vaccinate or neuter a cat is a bit of an irresponsible dick anyway who doesn't give a toss about their animal. So I'm not surprised it's easy to get rid.

She’d no longer be my friend. That’s not the same thing as being on my FB ‘friends’ list, though - there are people on FB who I keep on an ‘aquaintances’ list because I quite like to see what they’re posting.

I wouldn’t bother to post something scathing unless you’re up for a barney or intending to block her straight afterwards. If so, then go for it!

What is the hair issue? Normally cats and babies are fine.

I wouldn’t have a dog around small children though.

you need to make it as easy as possible for them to re-home as it is in the best interests of the animal

Yes. The more stigma there is about rehoming, the more likelihood there is that people will avoid doing it properly, and the car will somehow 'disappear'.

Cat shelter staff have to be non judgmental in order for pets to have the chance of a loving 'forever' home.

Car= cat, obv.

There was a post today on twitter-someone had a lovely young JR Terrier, they had just finished doing up their house and wanted to rehome him before their new sofas arrived. Cunt was one of the milder words used to describe him.

How long has baby been in hospital? From the wording of her post it sounds like baby may have possibly been in longer than others. She could just be being an arsehole but having had postnatal OCD I can understand why a Mum might suddenly want an animal out of the house, especially if her baby has already had a stay in a neonatal unit. It just seems odd that she want's rid now and not when she was pregnant.
Maybe PM her and see if she is OK and if her mental health is suffering can anyone help foster the cat until she is feeling better.