To say mums of girls are smug

[TheMidiMitch]

Just been at a party where my son along with the other boys have been repeatedly told off for fighting (quite rightly so and largely by me). Whilst the girls are busy braiding hair and pretending to make cupcakes, the boys are looking like Lord of the Flies. Not meant to be a goady post but please let me know there's light at the end of this tunnel...anyone...

Oh yes. Im waiting for karma with one mum of 3 girls who told me that DS was invited to her DDs birthday party because he's a boy and we dont like boys...said in a jokey way.

Opps wasnt invited*

@HateIsNoGood (at 23.08...) I completely agree with you and I can't believe how uptight and ridiculously serious people are being.

Fact is, most girls (from BIRTH) are 'girly' and like girly stuff! And most boys (from birth) are boyish, and like boys stuff, no matter how people may try and make out otherwise.

All this 'stereotyping children is so wrong and bad' stuff is ridiculous. No-one is stereotyping anyone. It's the way things are. Yes, some girls will like footie and mechano, and some lads will like ponies and fairies! But for the most part, males and females will fall into the traditional 'gender stereotypes,' (including boys being boisterous and energetic, and teen girls being a bit bitchy to each other,) like it or not. It's not rude or offensive to state that, and the teacher way back in the thread, @LadyRannaldini at the top of page 3, really said nothing wrong...

People need to lighten up! Most boys are laddish and boyish and will like lad's things, (cars and sport and lego and shit) and most girls will like girly stuff like unicorns, pink stuff, fairies, and ponies.

Most stereotypes are there for a reason!!!!!

@Andanotherthingg

My DD took a shit in the garden yesterday!

Ewww disgusting. She could have at least done it at in the shed!

I have 1 of each. Ds can be boisterous but he has a good heart, as does my dd but she is far more complex and is and always has been harder

I don’t have either (although currently expecting a boy) and I don’t really know about gender stereotypes but I think I nearly put my parents in an early grave between the ages of 13 and 17. I was an actual arsehole. No way of knowing if I’d have been less of an arsehole if I’d been male though!

I’m also sorry to say something so morbid but given some of the experiences I had and some of my friends had with men as teenage/pre-teenage girls, I don’t know if I’d sleep well at night if I had a daughter. Things like - being flashed at whilst on the swings in the park aged 10, having a lorry driver masturbate in a car park whilst looking at me aged 13, etc. I’m sure boys bring their own worry with them but I would find that side of it really difficult.

People need to lighten up! Most boys are laddish and boyish and will like lad's things, (cars and sport and lego and shit) and most girls will like girly stuff like unicorns, pink stuff, fairies, and ponies

Good grief.

We are truly fucked if this ignorant shit is the norm

I rest my case ^

Seriously. Chill out FGS.

My 8yo ds was at the high end of the energy scale, an incessant fiddler, and impetuous when he was smaller. As an 8yo it's all come right - he's honest, sensitive, affectionate, confident but not arrogant, sociable, funny and kind. He's slowed down a bit, takes things in more, processes stuff better. I honestly think it's an age thing - put in the ground work and it pays off in the long run. That said, he's never really been what I'd call 'hard work', not really.

2yo dd, on the other hand, is like a tiny dictator. Frighteningly independent compared with ds at the same age, strong willed, single minded - and an absolute force of nature. And of course utterly fascinating to me as I contemplate how she might develop over the coming years. She may mellow like her brother did. I hope she keeps that fire and defiance though. She's not what I thought having a girl would be like. And ds isn't what I thought having a boy would be like. They're both very strong characters but in very different ways. I currently have much more to be smug about with ds though.

No I won't chill out, because this kind of thick bollocks is why boys end up being stifled emotionally and girls end up being victims.

If you don't think this thread is depressing you are part of the problem. FFS!

Wtf?! Why am I smug?! Because I’ve got a daughter?

I'm jealous of mums with girls! I'd be happy if I was one of them.

Only thing I don't get is when mums act like they are smart for having a girl, and I'm dumb for choosing to have a boy. That isn't how it works!

butter when exactly do mothers of girls do that?

I've got one of each. Boy can't really talk yet, little girl mainly communicates in verse about poo, wee, bogies, and has just added willies to her repertoire. Boy has started asking, "whyyyy?" at 18 months old. I'd say they're pretty even in exhaustion stakes so far. Maybe the girls you've seen have been heavily bribed to be dull?

God this thread is depressing. I’m a woman who used to be a girl and no I was never a horrid teenager or diva. We are all individuals. Don’t know why people are bending over backwards to make OP feel better by saying all girls are horrid when they get older.

because this kind of thick bollocks is why boys end up being stifled emotionally and girls end up being victims.

no, it's that attitude that girls are not allowed to be "girls" because it means victims that is the problem.

My eldest daughter is a girly girl, always has been, flatly refusing the hand-me down from her brother. She wanted dresses, and pink and still kind of does. She is also an advanced martial artist, wants to study engineering but have perfect hair.

Girls are allowed to be girls, and boys can enjoy being boisterous without being shamed or mocked.

I am female, I was a girl in high school. Girls ARE horrid. We all survived

Girls are allowed to be girls, and boys can enjoy being boisterous without being shamed or mocked

And yet you are quick to point out that your own dd doesn't fit stereotypes.

Yes, some girls will like footie and mechano, and some lads will like ponies and fairies!
In the USA, footie is considered a girlie sport. In several cultures, for example Irish traveller culture, ponies and horses are a very male thing...young boys are encouraged into handling them, girls are not.

Genetic differences do you think?

YANBU
My DS is best friends with girls in his class but isn’t invited to any birthday parties because they are doing their smug girls only pamper parry type crap and I’m just sat here thinking oh you just wait until they hit 13 👍

Girls are allowed to be girls, and boys can enjoy being boisterous without being shamed or mocked.

What do you mean exactly by "to be girls"?

If a girl wanted to be boisterous, is that not "being a girl"?

I think that societies dislike of women in general leeches through in a really nasty way in these threads.

Girls are shit. Gotcha.

I spent my childhood teens twenties and still now battling not to be put in a Sparkly people pleasing box, seems girls these days are no better off.

The dislike from some posters is really obvious.

I never see threads on MN the other way around. People always say they exist but I've not seen one. It's always girls getting a kicking. Boys are awesome. Fun, affectionate, straightforward and lovely. Girls, total fuckers. Who would have one? Amirite?

India +China have the right idea then. How many million missing girls? So much better for the parents.

MenuPlant yup. Agree.