AIBU to ask what happened to you in your life that you never thought would?

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Good, bad, ugly etc.

Getting held up in an armed robbery.

Having children with learning difficulties.

When I was younger, I never imagined that I would become religious in my late 30s.

I never thought I’d earn a six-figure salary. I didn’t think I was ambitious enough or confident enough to do the sort of role I do. Evidently I was wrong.

I did expect to be married though. DP and I have been together for 17 years, but aren’t married. It probably isn’t in my interest nowadays (I earn significantly more than he does, and have a lot of assets in my name), and I’m not as bothered about it as I expected to be.

My brilliant, talented, strong mum died of cancer, aged 60.

Bad: being raped at 14 and having a baby which I concealed and then gave up for adoption.

Good: finding my husband and having two gorgeous children even though said rape damaged me not only mentally but physically .

I never thought I’d be happy and have my little family given how damaged I felt but now I do and life is amazing.

Widowed at 29-Dh died of leukaemia, thought my life was over

Never thought I'd marry again or have my 3 darling children

Did not think I would end up having kids in a deeply unequal relationship with a misogynist arse. I really tried not to as well and thought he was lovely at first.

Never thought I would be lucky enough to have the career I have in a very competitive field. Not that highly paid but my (and many people's) dream job and I actually pulled it off.

Being the only one in my family to stay in our hometown. My parents, siblings, cousins etc have all moved away to big cities. I was the one everyone said would move away and I'm the only one whose stayed in our lovely little town

I never thought I'd have just one child. Struggling to concieve and husband being on anti depressants just ruled out adoption. I'm from a big family and always saw myself with a big family. I am devestated for my DS who will be forced to be an only child.

Flippant compared to most of these posts, but I never, ever thought I would have a cat. I was always a dog person (and still am) until I met DP. I love her so much I can’t imagine her not being here. (The cat, I mean - DP is a bloke, and I love him very much too!)

Having a child with a disability. Never dreamed it would happen to us.

Finding my way to motherhood through step parenting and adoption. I always assumed I’d make a big family myself. And loving them totally.

Never imagined I would struggle for money. I was in 'good at' school in the sense that you can be skilled in something. I understood how to learn and enjoyed it. Downhill from there. I work full time but have struggled nearly all my adult life to earn enough to have a decent standard of living. Owning a house is very unlikely to happen.

When I was younger I wondered if I would have the marriage and children I was so desperate for horrible abusive childhood

Never thought dh would break my heart but he has.

Worried I wouldn't be able to mother a daughter. Turns out I'm a fucking awesome mum (compared to my shitty mother).

Getting Hodgkin's lymphoma at 34.

Being widowed at 39. It's truly shit.

Never ever thought that my bright, vibrant, fun and vivacious mum would die at the age of 57. She was so full of life I honestly thought she would be here forever.

Converted to Christianity and got baptised in my 30s never looked back!

Bad: alcoholism

Good: finding recovery - 5 years now

Arrested, charged and prosecuted after being a victim of DV. After reporting ex 7 times to the police & them doing nothing.

I also thought there would never be light at the end of the tunnel. I never thought I would get over it. But I have & now help other women in similar situations fight for their rights and get the justice & protection they deserve.

Never thought I'd be the one who got redundancy and esp compared to all my school peers the one who strived and seemed to work the hardest at the expense of my social life. #majorlifelessonmuchneeded. Never thought I'd first of all meet someone who wanted more than a score when all my friends had constant boyfriends and I was permanently single, so much so I'm sure my friends were expecting an out of the closet announcement (not that that's a bad thing for others!) . Secondly never thought I'd get married. Also and own a beautiful home and hold down a respected career. Never expected to live so far from where I grew up and where all my friends and family are either.

Didn’t think I would become disabled at 32.

I ended up in an entirely different career than I’d planned, and fortunately it’s working out extremely well.

Never expected to be the main bread winner. Was brought up by my misogynistic family to think a man would look after me. Married a wealthy “provider” who subsequently mismanaged all our money, went bankrupt, we lost our house, had to take the DC out of their private schools.
I got a job, worked like a dog, bought our house back and put the kids back in school

Tame compared to most of these. I never thought I would end up with a career in the subject I was worst at when I was at school. And I never thought I would end up repeating my mother's relationship mistakes.

Minted. Always thought I'd marry a teacher/ plumber and have camping holidays rather than fly business. Married since we were mid 30's. Not complaining.