AIBU to ask what happened to you in your life that you never thought would?

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Good, bad, ugly etc.

This thread is so hard to read. It's making me face the reality of my life and I don't want to. I am starting therapy after Easter and I'm scared as well as a little bit hopeful. I can't accept something I need to do and I think it will destroy me in the end.

for all who are hurting.

Never thought I’d have a baby with a 1 in 35,000 congenital abnormality.

I’m still laughing and crying at The absurdity of the it now.

We’re lucky I the sense that IF the baby survives labour, birth and an operation to correct his lung, there are no last implications of it.

The IF is hanging over me like a dark cloud though. I never thought I’d have a pregnancy or a baby who I didn’t know would live, I don’t know if I’ll be delivering a live, or still born baby. I Dom just don’t know and it terrifies me.

On a positive, I never thought I’d fall in love with my weird, funny, silly best friend. Never thought that we’d get married, have two beautiful, healthy sons and build a life together. Yet here I am, waking up to his handsome face on a bank holiday morning whilst my two sons Beat the shit out of each other with pillows at the end of the bed.

Tunnocks34

Good: I've had a long, stable, happy marriage (25 years). I was a prickly, neurotic person in my twenties and always single. I thought I'd never find a man who'd put up with me.

Good: I live in a large (scruffy) detached house in a genteel village. I am definitely a city person by nature and would prefer to be in London but DH is happier here.

Bad: I have almost no contact with my parents. We always saw ourselves as a very close family for many decades. Which we were so long as every living soul danced to my father's cruel, manipulative, demands. When my sister and I stopped doing this, the family disintegrated quickly. It's a shame. But healthier this way.

Having 3 gorgeous boys,
Never thought my parents would divorce, my dad passed away in a tram accident.
I had a burst appendix with complications.

I never thought I would get married and have children - but that’s all worked out really well and I feel lucky that DH is hands on and supportive and my favourite person to spend time with. A job that pays well, that I really enjoy working with great people and lots of flexibility to spend time with DC.

Bad - DD having a disability and having to watch both my parents die slow painful deaths. I could never imagine it would be so horrific.

Tunnocks34

That happened to me too (and no I never thought it would happen either). My DS is fine, sending love and positive thoughts

Having 2 miscarriages.

Never expected to end up seperate ds from my husband facing a divorce. I married a sweet caring man and one day he told me he didn't love me anymore and was leaving. I'm now very newly into the separation and I'm terrified about the future.

Never thought I would lose both my parents by the age of 15.

Never thought I would end up with a job in the sector I do (which I don’t like).

Also never in a million years thought I'd be claiming benefits. My life is about to change immensely.

Never thought I would be the 1 in 1500 for my age to have a baby with a condition and loose baby half way through pregnancy. I was young and naive and thought pregnancy was easy and nothing bad would happen to me.

Think about baby everyday and glad I changed my mind and spent some time with them while I could x

@Tunnocks34 💖 sending you strength xx

Bad - Never ever thought I'd be divorced and having to claim benefits to survive.

Good - Never ever thought I'd go on 2 holidays of a lifetime (post divorce!!) thanks to my very generous Mum added bit about mum paying so not to incur the wrath of those accusing me of living it up on benefits

Never thought I'd be staring 50 in the face childless, homeless and seemingly unemployable

Watching

That I'd be infertile. Wanted to be a mum since I was 15 and everyone told me to wait and then aged 32 I was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve.

Losing one of my daughters suddenly when she was 26

This thread is amazing, you lovely resilient,amazing people just getting on with the shit life has thrown at you. I’m so not a crier but I’m in tears.

My turn:
Bad: never thought I’d lose my dad at 20, he was 49. The same age as me now.
Never thought I’d have such a strained relationship with my mum or have to spend a lifetime dealing with her mental health issues.
Never thought my lovely dh and DCs would all spend their lifes dealing with hidden disabilities.

Good: I found my soulmate in dh, together 27 years. He’s my rock. Two gorgeous teens with a lifetime of adventures and new experiences ahead of them. Amazingly proud and in awe of how they just get on with life despite their conditions.
Despite being a massive introvert, have managed to finally to be at peace with who I am and have stopped trying to be everything to everyone

Never thought I'd have miscarriages. Or terminations. Didn't expect that, or the PND after finally having my baby.

Didn't expect to be earning less than minimum wage at the latter end of my 30s given my level of academic qualification. Expected to be a homeowner/married/travelling.

As a lonely teen, never expected to have the amazing group of friends I have, scattered as they are around the world, who would and have travel to see me at the drop of a hat.

And I never anticipated how much joy my DD would bring me.

Oh @Tunnocks34, that brought a lump to my throat, both the good and the bad.

Growing up I never thought I would have a stroke as a teenager that has left me handicapped for life
Never thought I would be a single parent, jobless and with no real friends and be in an endless battle with my mind in my 30's .
Sorry mine is all depressing

I never thought I would have children and now I have a nearly 6 week old.

The bad: my husband dying suddenly when I was 43.

The good: he gave me 4 gorgeous children, who have turned into lovely adults.