To get a welcome package for neighbour moving in tomorrow?

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We have a new neighbour moving in tomorrow, I’ve never met them but I used to live in the house until it was sold about 8 months ago.

I moved next door as it came up for rent when our landlord gave us notice.

I have a small hamper basket and was going to write the bin collection times, useful info like posties name, some tea, coffee, biscuits etc. Just some bits for moving in day.

Is there anything else that would be good? Or helpful?

The day we moved in, the only thing a neighbour gave us was a bill for road repairs. Which was nice!

It's a private road and apparently the previous owners refused to pay their share the previous year because they knew they planned to move. Bloke dropping it round just handed an envelope to DH and scuttled off, we only found out the story when we got to know the couple next door.

As long as it's a quick hello, drop and go then I think it's a lovely idea.

I'd rather have a neighbour like you than my unwelcoming neighbours who I don't even tall to in the street.

I wouldn't go round on moving day either, its so stressful and the last thing you want is to have to think of someone else sorry. I think it's quite inconsiderate. I'd think good heavens how can we live up to her standards! I'd pop round after a few days with a bottle of bubbly, maybe something homemade. The alternative is to leave it on the door on the day - bottle of wine for moving day, welcome card, menu for local takeaway. It is THEIR special day.

No tender hooks here. Just getting ready for the day and trying to stop dc killing each other.

I promise I’ll update truthfully good or bad.

*I’m hoping we get an update from the OP on her new neighbours and their reaction to the hamper! grini

I’m hoping to get an update from the neighbour... In 6 months time.

I don’t think I’ll ever tell you why I thought the posties name is relevant. It can be a mumsnet mystery.

It’s not much of a mystery! we know it’s not relevant.

You know they’ll say “thank you” and make small talk, regardless of how they really feel.
I’d do that - shut the door and go what the fuck, creepy over involved woman, I’ll be given her a body swerve.

I promise I’ll update truthfully good or bad

Whether they appreciate your welcome pack or not, in all likelihood you won’t know. They’ll say “oh that’s lovely, thank you very much” and smile. Like most polite people.

When we moved into our home the previous owner left a need to know card (gardener, window cleaner details) and a bottle of wine. It was lonely. The next door neighbours saw we were moving on moving day and offered us a cup of tea as we were unpacking and that was more than enough. They've since become good friends. These things take time and their space meant we could chat when we're ready.

Thats lovey ❤️

A bottle of wine or flowers or a helpful note is lovely. A hamper is way OTT. It sounds like this is more about you feeling good about yourself rather than actually helping your new neighbours.

Sorry lovely not lonely!

Xpost who!

ilovemaxbondi 😁

This is so weird

I bet OP is busting to tell the new NDNs that she used to live in their house

Only on MN would someone pipe up that a simple act of kindness could be seen as creepy

OP, it;’s a lovely idea. A great footing to start off as well. Good neighbourly relationships are worth their weight in gold. Two of our neighbours brought us flowers, pastries and fruit and made the effort to introduce themselves which meant a lot to us. We live rurally and have to share / jointly maintain septic tanks and the like so it’s all the more important that we get on.

I’m collecting my keys to my new flat today, no moving company, just a weedy mate to help out/flounce about taking selfies, in the nicest way, the last thing I would want is to be pretend to be polite and interested by a stranger when I just want to get all my crap moved.

I would have loved that when I moved in.
All we got was the landlord from next door telling us we needed to fix the fence pronto. On moving in day. (It was his students who broke it so our lovely landlord told him to get stuffed)

To be fair the character assassination I’m getting on here says more about some of you than me.

I’ve been on here for a long time and know people get a roasting on AIBU but some of you really are mean.

Anyways I’m off out so won’t be inflicting my horrible self on anyone today .

Just saying.

Ignore the miserable, socially inept posters, OP, continue being your friendly self.

Here’s some from me to you. How creepy and weird of me

To be fair the character assassination I’m getting on here says more about some of you than me

I agree op, it’s typical oneupmanship as to who can be the biggest anti social misery.

I know my postman’s name, just because some of you treat others like non entities, it doesn’t mean it’s not true or weird.

there’s nothing socially inept about not wanting a stranger to arrive with things you don’t eat, drink, want or need while you’re busy trying to move your entire life into a new house. Really.

FFS... how many people whinging about how they don't want to be friends, and being invasive, and being weird...

It's a lovely idea, loo roll and all. You could even just leave it in the porch with a note saying 'From number X - welcome to the row!' and maybe an invite for coffee if they feel like it.

The whole thing is a simple message that the neighbours are approachable, that they should feel safe, and if they want to socialise then there's a contact nearby. Go for it.

I promise I’ll update truthfully good or bad.

But you promised !

Can you live next door to me? You sound fab.