To get a welcome package for neighbour moving in tomorrow?

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We have a new neighbour moving in tomorrow, I’ve never met them but I used to live in the house until it was sold about 8 months ago.

I moved next door as it came up for rent when our landlord gave us notice.

I have a small hamper basket and was going to write the bin collection times, useful info like posties name, some tea, coffee, biscuits etc. Just some bits for moving in day.

Is there anything else that would be good? Or helpful?

OP my friend was telling me yesterday there was an old man at a funeral she attended. He sat alone in the wake after. They invited him to join them. He did and sat in silence. After the wake, he thanked her and told her just sitting with company had made his day.

Keep doing what you do. Some might find it ‘creepy’ and ‘over friendly’ to others it means a lot

OP people are wankers in this world, you seem to be genuinely trying to make someone's day a little nicer and make new neighbours feel welcome.

As long as you don't turn into the clingy neighbour from hell who pops round several times a day then I see no harm.

How you diddly doing neighbourito? Everything okely dokely? 😂

I think it says more about people who can't accept/hear/understand that not everyone is the same and has different boundaries.

I can fully appreciate and understand that some people would be delighted with a hamper. I personally would not be delighted, but can still understand that some would. Why do so many 'super friendly' types who are supposedly salt of the earth, desperately lack the ability to grasp that not everyone thinks and feels the exact same way they do, and just because we don't, we are miseries 😂 Why is so hard to grasp?

All most people are trying to suggest is a middle ground/altering the plan maybe. On threads like this people don't remain under 'attack' if they actually listen and take on opinions, especially when they have been asked for. Many posters now have explained that they are not a mean or miserly person, help out neighbours and have great relationships with neighbours but wouldn't appreciate the intrusion/massive gesture on fecking moving in day.

Post about something that could easily have just been done quietly -pop around with a bottle of wine and a cheery hello.

Then when people tell you the above would be fine , accuse people of being miserable and assassinating your character
What are you after with this thread OP?
Its all a bit attention seeking !
No one is suggesting you glare at them and give them the finger, just a simple gesture would be fine !

That sounds like a lovely gesture

That sounds so lovely, but I would absolutely hate this. I am a social person but not at home, I like to be left alone, it's my sanctuary. This would completely freak the hell out of me and I'd feel weirdly indebted to you!

Its a hamper, not an invite to a wife swap. FGS.

Querty
This is how it starts 😂

Seriously who on earth gives a bloody hamper !?

Oh wow people are actually getting insulting because the OP wanted to give her neighbours a welcome present? I despair for humanity

A hamper today.
It'll be a pampas grass seedling next time.

I know my postie's name too. And all the neighbours on both sides and across the street. Some of them have become good friends and we socialise with them. Others we just say hello when we see them. I'm always surprised at the number of people on here who don't just not want to socialise with their neighbours but also actively don't want to know them at all. And I say that as a very shy and very introverted person who likes her own space. But equally I find it a heck of a lot easier when there's a problem to be able to start a conversation with Hi Frank - can we talk about how to deal with the overflowing gutter rather than hello. You don't know me but I live next door and there's a problem with our joint gutter .
*All names and problems made up obviously

Is the postman your DH? I'm thinking that could explain why you want to tell them his name.

I've got neighbours moving in opposite me in June. Eeeek!! Exciting!!! This thread has inspired me to put together a welcome pack. Just a few basics. Do these items sound ok:

Toilet paper (quilted)
a selection of milk and dairy-free alternatives,
freshly churned butter
a loaf of local artisan bread
Truffle oil
naice ham
Bagels and smoked salmon (for their first breakfast)
Biscuits (M&S)
Champagne

A file of info about the area, bus timetables, maps etc, how often we like the pavement to be swept, and where the local car wash can be found

A file of background information about me and my family, plus a
brief summary of local residents, names, age categories etc (I shall of course get them to sign off for GDPR purposes)

What else should I provide? Some nice new bedding? I just feel like I'm not doing enough.

(I wouldn't normally make fun but it's OK, the OP really isn't listening anyway 😂 and this thread is hilarious)

How nice, you’ve spent all day moving etc and some lovely person comes over with a welcoming basket of goodies. 🥰

@CherryPlum Do you bully people in real life or just on the internet?

I actually do know our postman's name, but only because he was in my class at school.

Good luck, OP!! Hope they are nice new neighbors.

Cherry Sounds fine but you need to add regular items too. Our neighbour, an elderly man, comes once a week with tomatoes (non of us eat tomatoes). Am worried now whether this progresses to wife swapping as we did inherit pampas grass too. 😱

I've moved three times in the last three years and just about to move again and I can say without a shadow of a doubt I would be moved to tears by this sort of thoughtfulness and friendliness. The most we have had recently is someone coming round to say hello on the move day and then never speaking again.

Lots of us didn’t assassinate your character, simply questioned your motives. I’m sure you are perfectly lovely but a hamper of the things you’re giving to them is very full on. I am not anti social either, I know and like my neighbours and we do various things to help one another.

^ This

Is it just me that wouldn't like to be given a home made cake/biscuits? I always worry about the standards of hygiene of whoever made it, but I'm willing to admit I'm a bit ott about these things

There’s no character assassination, OP. You just can’t seem to understand not everyone will appreciate your “kindness”.

Also there’s little point in an update. They will smile and say thank you, but you’ll never know how they really feel. For me, I would politely accept and then make a mental note to avoid you at all costs, and most of it would probably go in the bin.

This is getting a bit mean, especially as the OP has taken the ribbing in good humour.

Moving your car first thing was very thoughtful OP.

It's a lovely idea but the way you keep pushing it as being no big deal makes it seem like it is a big deal.