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To get a welcome package for neighbour moving in tomorrow?

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Imfinallyhappy1 · 17/04/2019 17:32

We have a new neighbour moving in tomorrow, I’ve never met them but I used to live in the house until it was sold about 8 months ago.

I moved next door as it came up for rent when our landlord gave us notice.

I have a small hamper basket and was going to write the bin collection times, useful info like posties name, some tea, coffee, biscuits etc. Just some bits for moving in day.

Is there anything else that would be good? Or helpful?

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TheDogsMother · 18/04/2019 12:54

That sounds really kind and I'm sure they will feel very welcomed. On our moving in day our neighbour came round with flowers and wine. I was really touched and we've been friends ever since.

CurtainsOpen · 18/04/2019 13:16

"Listen to this thing which isn't a big deal but I'll keep going on about it, even if it isn't a big deal, aren't I great, but it's no big deal"

Hearthside · 18/04/2019 13:33

I live in a small village and i have put a New home card through the new neighbours door when they moved in .I think it is lovely idea and we always got on well until they moved .I suppose everyone is different some people like it some wouldn't .

dontgobaconmyheart · 18/04/2019 13:51

It's a nice gesture OP but only if it really is a small one. I live next door to a rental property and pop a card over usually, saying we love next door/names/not to worry about the noise unpacking/feel free to pop over if there's a problem. I honestly don't think anyone ever has 'popped over'.

At the end of the day they'll say its lovely regardless and I think you're overthinking it- who these days 'forgets' basics when they move anyway. Supermarkets are absolutely everywhere. We just pick up a few bits, and get a takeaway, i thought most people did. It is not as though the fridge will be on or the kettle unpacked. Within the context of the level of detail, it being 'your' house previously and the toilet roll/extent of the gift; I'd find it uncomfortable and sadly would probably think you were going to be a bit cloying going forward- not what you want to deal with when you're busy unpacking/excited to have moved/look like shit. I'd just leave them to it for a while and then pop round with a card and a bottle of you want to. You can be a nice person and mean well and also be over involved etc, they aren't mutually exclusive and the way you've presented it/the extent does sound bordering on a bit odd. Sorry.

I think the clearing your car out the way is very considerate though. Wish people had done this for us Grin.

LadyRannaldini · 18/04/2019 13:52

When we moved into our house the previous owners left us a lovely houseplant, a bottle of wine, a load of take-away leaflets and the phone number of the best chippy! We were very touched.

Hobbesmanc · 18/04/2019 14:12

Awww some of the posters on here are total mean girls.coming back repeatedly with their moaning and nitpicking.

I think its a lovely gesture. OP has made it clear she's just dropping and going. Posters picking on the specific contents are just churlish. Its a safe bet that 90% of people will drink tea and wine and that no one could seriously be insulted by a gift- really? Where is the basic kindness. It's Easter- and I don't want to be spiritual but this ids a wonderful example of Love thy Neighbour.

And its also obvious that the postman is just some cheeky in joke. But I certainly wouldn't find it weird if I was told on moving day that "postie comes at around 11am. He's called Bob and he's such a sweetie..."

I wish that there were more people like you in the world. Its sad when people dismiss kindness as neediness - huge hugs xxxx

storm11111 · 18/04/2019 14:15

Oh god, bless you OP, you sound lovely with good intentions! And its like everyone is trying to reign on your parade but i think they are right.

The thoughtfulness, time, effort, value put into the gift communicates an unspoken expectation of your future relationship.

You may know it's no strings attached one night stand kind of deal, but dear god the new neighbours think you've just proposed Grin

FrozenMargarita17 · 18/04/2019 14:18

That's so nice!!

Dongdingdong · 18/04/2019 14:25

Have you dropped it off yet OP?

standardaccount · 18/04/2019 14:32

Lovely idea, I would be delighted

KR30 · 18/04/2019 14:54

When we bought our house the girl left us a bunch of flowers and packet of biscuits and a letter with things like what days the bins went out, window cleaner details etc and thought it was a really nice touch

Normandy144 · 18/04/2019 16:48

Ignore the naysayers with miserable attitudes OP. I'm sure they are the first to moan about a lack of community spirit! It's a lovely gesture and more people should do it. A little kindness goes a long way.

ButterscupsRevenge · 18/04/2019 17:48

Wanna be by neighbour, what a lovely gesture

Purplegecko · 18/04/2019 17:49

Well I forgot to get loo roll when moving in so I'd have appreciated that Grin

pepperpot99 · 18/04/2019 17:54

Don't forget to buy sanpro as well; best get a range of towels, tampons and a mooncup to cover all bases.

Dana28 · 18/04/2019 17:59

I live in a small villagd and even to me that sounds cloying and worrying about the new neighbours.They won't have forgotten basics and if they have can pop to a petrol station. Just stick through a welcome card.

Dana28 · 18/04/2019 18:00

Gifts from the vendor are different to gifts from the neighbours

JudyDenchsBloomers · 18/04/2019 18:01

Agree, ignore the miserable people on here OP, I'd love you as a neighbour. Goodness, what's wrong with some community spirit?

When I moved in just before Christmas I gave my neighbours (all two of them) a bottle of champers each on New Year's Eve, en route to my new local pub. They were so thankful and I'm really good friends with both and we look out for each other without being in each other's pockets.

ItsAGo · 18/04/2019 18:01

OPim moving soon and would think this is absolutely lovely. It’s up to them whether they take it well or not but I think it’s great. They’ll soon see you’re not a nosy neighbour when you keep your usual lives going.
Thank you for being nice and bringing a smile into the world.

pepperpot99 · 18/04/2019 18:04

I'm with CherryPlum on this. Grin
You could ask the new neighbours for their NHS records while youre delivering their toiletries and sanpro sack . That way you could plan weekly delivery of appropriate medical supplies. Also enquire about their sexual habits for similar reasons . Love honey.com will be your ( and their) new friend. Halo

Original poster
Imfinallyhappy1 · 18/04/2019 18:29

Update:

Well neighbours were waiting g outside the house as no exchange as of yet. Had a chat, they are nice. Popped round about 15 mins ago with a card with bun timetable, bottle of Prosecco and the box of foxes biscuits only :)

See I do listen to people.

They said thanks and I said well if you need anything let me know.

All done :) now I’m doing a bbq

All very boring but I’m glad I reigned it in

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Imfinallyhappy1 · 18/04/2019 18:30

*bin timetable

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Imfinallyhappy1 · 18/04/2019 18:31

Oh and some of you like cherry and pepper, dfod Grin hth

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Cloudly · 18/04/2019 18:32

I had new neighbour moved in recently we gave flowers, cake and a card welcoming to the neighbourhood we are very small cul de sac and everyone looks out for each other, takes parcels in or letters. We have a great neighbourhood. We need this good friendly community brings the best out of humanity. Well done nice thought am sure they will be very grateful I would be.

TowerRavenSeven · 18/04/2019 18:36

I think it’s lovely. Maybe add a inexpensive night light (pound shop has them) for the hall so when they get up at night in an unfamiliar place they will have a comforting light?