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Are WE the CFs here or neighbours??

553 replies

TigersRoll · 16/04/2019 16:56

3 houses share our driveway (including ours). So you get the 1st house and then ours next to each other and then at the end you get the 3rd house. 3rd house is a big house and has a double driveway (prob enough room for 3 cars anyway). 1st and 2nd house have a tiny section of driveway each, ours been the smallest, barely big enough for one car.

Anyway, DH likes to faff with his car, our driveway is too small to do anything on so during the day when everyone is at work he pulls it into the shared bit. Occasionally he parks his work van on the shared bit but basically, if anything is on the shared bit, 3rd house can’t get to their driveway which is why DH does it when everyone is at work.

This worked well for ages, occasionally woman next door would come home early but would park at the top on the street and walk down. One time all of a sudden she came home at 11am (!) came storming down the driveway carrying a number of bags (she’s a nurse) and muttered something about so much for buying a house with a driveway”. DH was confused as she’s never mentioned it before but he moved his car straight away anyway.
A week or so later we had workmen at the house and they parked on the shared drive. She came home from worked, marched up to the workmen and told them they had to move. This meant packing up tools, ladders and various other stuff before reversing out of the drive just so she could park next to her house. As soon as she was in they moved everything back, low and behold they came out almost immediately and said they had to move as she was going out. They did, she went out and reappeared 15 minutes later again telling the workmen they had to move everything!!! Surely if she knew she was going back out she could have just parked at top of drive where there is tons of room??

Anyway she appears to be making a point of doing this now everytime DH has something on the shared driveway but has never actually spoken to him about it!

Last night we got an angry knock on the door. Her husband was stood there and he looked at our car and said “can you move it” in a really snappy tone. It’s a big car (Land Rover) and as our driveway is so small the arse of it sometimes sticks out into the shared bit. Unfortunately neighbour also has a Land Rover making getting past a bit of a squeeze. DH looked at the car and the space (as it was on our driveway) and the bloke snapped “I’m not scratching my car again trying to get past. Move it”. DH then had to move the car so it was practically touching our garage door. This bloke has always been very pleasant before so it seems so out of character!

AIBU to think his wife has started some kind of vendetta against us and roped him into it or is it our fault??

OP posts:
TheInvestigator · 17/04/2019 17:30

I'm not a housewife.

Your husband sounds like a peach.

BasinHaircut · 17/04/2019 17:45

I was going to type something else but I decided to sum it all up by just saying...

What a cunt

Guyliner · 17/04/2019 17:49

At the risk of asking you to cancel the cheque. Yabu

ambereeree · 17/04/2019 17:56

Wow if the neighbour actually said sore subject you've now become known as the cheeky fuckers. I would hate to have your husband as a neighbour- sounds like a total prick. If he's thst obsessed with cleaning the car he needs to buy a house with a bigger driveway.

FrancisCrawford · 17/04/2019 17:58

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Guyliner · 17/04/2019 18:02

God is this still raging on! I get it, we’re the problem. I did tell DH I’d created the thread and he said he wasn’t interested in what a load of housewives think (his words, not mine) and that mumsnet hates all blokes anyway. We’re not talking at the minute anyway so I’m probably not in the best frame of mind to talk about it. I feel like scratching his fucking car, smashing up the plant pot and splashing vinegar in his eyes at the minute, never mind the neighbor

I wonder why women who have kids and can't afford childcare have no opinions worth listening to . Sorry OP he sounds like a total shit.

But that's just one housewife's opinion. Grin

Notwiththeseknees · 17/04/2019 18:13

I'd be buying myself an air rifle by now if I lived in house 3....

LakieLady · 17/04/2019 18:18

He's not just a cheeky fucker, then, he's a misogynist arsehole as well.

Would it be an overreaction to say leave the bastard?

(PS: Not a housewife!)

FrancisCrawford · 17/04/2019 18:18

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crispysausagerolls · 17/04/2019 18:45

I’m a housewife but I still think my opinion that your DH is a wanking wanker is valid!

TheRollingCrone · 17/04/2019 18:50

Lol! -load of 'housewifes' - his names not Munroe is it? Grin

Rach182 · 17/04/2019 18:57

It seems a bit odd that in the OP you thought your NDN had started a vendetta against you and was being a CF, and now it's actually all your DH's fault and you're really embarrassed by it and furious with him.

@PCohle

She said earlier that she had written it from his perspective as she was getting fed up with the whole situation and thought they were in the wrong but wanted outside confirmation (if she's being honest). So a third party reverse I guess.

PCohle · 17/04/2019 19:09

Thanks Rach.

Yeah, I've seen OP's updates. It just strikes me as bit "classic AIBU drip feed" that OP gets her arse handed to her and then suddenly decides that she "basically posted DHs opinion on it but I kind of thought he was being a twat."

What was the benefit of not just explaining the situation and her actual thoughts on it in the OP?

winecigsandchoc · 17/04/2019 19:26

@TheRollingCrone Grinlet's hope not!

And I'm not a housewife either- and tell your DH that there's nothing wrong with being a bloody housewife anyway whilst we're at it!

Op totally scratch his car and blame it on seagulls or something

Pumpkintopf · 17/04/2019 20:53

Tiger you obviously have a lot in your plate at the moment judging by your other thread. I hope you're ok.

Notmorewashing · 17/04/2019 21:30

Why is the husband not at work? I don’t understand how the shared drive works if it blocks someone in

Nomoremrsnicelady · 17/04/2019 21:40

Yeap it’s your fault!!

whywhywhy6 · 17/04/2019 21:51

You are a CF.

itsbetterthanabox · 17/04/2019 22:56

If your driveway is too small for your huge off road vehicle then get a smaller car.
You could park in your garage surely too? Do they also have garages?

TheInvestigator · 17/04/2019 23:07

@Notmorewashing

It's basically a single track road off the main carriageway and it leads to their 3 drives. So it's not part of the public highway, it's a road just uses to access their driveways.

If someone parks halfway up the road, then no one can drive any further so the last house can't access their driveway.

CallMeRachel · 17/04/2019 23:40

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AutumnCrow · 18/04/2019 00:43

OP did you post also about your adult DS being abusive? They both sound awful to live with.

CocoCharlie83 · 18/04/2019 13:24

Your DH is an absolute see you next Tuesday, no wonder your DS has issues. I feel really sorry for your neighbours as it sounds like they have the neighbours from hell

MsRabbitRocks · 19/04/2019 21:18

OP’s DH is still being a delight to the neighbours it seems...Hmm

Are WE the CFs here or neighbours??
NicoAndTheNiners · 19/04/2019 21:45

I bet the neighbours fantasise about taking a sledgehammer to his car!

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