Are WE the CFs here or neighbours??

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3 houses share our driveway (including ours). So you get the 1st house and then ours next to each other and then at the end you get the 3rd house. 3rd house is a big house and has a double driveway (prob enough room for 3 cars anyway). 1st and 2nd house have a tiny section of driveway each, ours been the smallest, barely big enough for one car.

Anyway, DH likes to faff with his car, our driveway is too small to do anything on so during the day when everyone is at work he pulls it into the shared bit. Occasionally he parks his work van on the shared bit but basically, if anything is on the shared bit, 3rd house can’t get to their driveway which is why DH does it when everyone is at work.

This worked well for ages, occasionally woman next door would come home early but would park at the top on the street and walk down. One time all of a sudden she came home at 11am (!) came storming down the driveway carrying a number of bags (she’s a nurse) and muttered something about so much for buying a house with a driveway”. DH was confused as she’s never mentioned it before but he moved his car straight away anyway.
A week or so later we had workmen at the house and they parked on the shared drive. She came home from worked, marched up to the workmen and told them they had to move. This meant packing up tools, ladders and various other stuff before reversing out of the drive just so she could park next to her house. As soon as she was in they moved everything back, low and behold they came out almost immediately and said they had to move as she was going out. They did, she went out and reappeared 15 minutes later again telling the workmen they had to move everything!!! Surely if she knew she was going back out she could have just parked at top of drive where there is tons of room??

Anyway she appears to be making a point of doing this now everytime DH has something on the shared driveway but has never actually spoken to him about it!

Last night we got an angry knock on the door. Her husband was stood there and he looked at our car and said “can you move it” in a really snappy tone. It’s a big car (Land Rover) and as our driveway is so small the arse of it sometimes sticks out into the shared bit. Unfortunately neighbour also has a Land Rover making getting past a bit of a squeeze. DH looked at the car and the space (as it was on our driveway) and the bloke snapped “I’m not scratching my car again trying to get past. Move it”. DH then had to move the car so it was practically touching our garage door. This bloke has always been very pleasant before so it seems so out of character!

AIBU to think his wife has started some kind of vendetta against us and roped him into it or is it our fault??

sounds a bit confusing, but I understand why your neighbour's are annoyed as it is their house and they need to get in! I would just stop doing it as much as possible now to avoid further complications x

God he sounds awful. An absolute selfish prick. I'm sorry for you trying to manage him and maintain reasonable neighbourly relations.

I'm not a housewife. Tell him he's a sad, boring bastard with nothing better to do than wash his stupid car. Sounds like he pays more attention to it than you.

In retrospect, it's your DH who is being unreasonable, and I think you already knew this and hoped posting this thread would help to change his behaviour. Selfish prick. And a sexist pig too.

Why didn't he move it for the Tesco guy? Why didn't you?

Lots of men wash their cars that way. Not me. Not my DH. But I know 2 men who absolutely do this. One is a NDN so I see him. The other is BF's DH.

He sounds like my mums old neighbour. Always washing his car. Always moving his car and parking it right on the boundary line etc. We thought he was a wanker.

Ah but methinks if all the housewives were in agreement with your DH's opinion then he would gleefully read the thread.

Ditch the husband, keep the house, you park your little car in the driveway and he lives in the Land Rover somewhere a long way away.

They can’t drive over it, the shared bit is narrow so when he’s washing stupid car he has it stuck right out so nothing could get past. A couple of days ago house 3 had a Tesco delivery and I actually heard the bloke say he had to carry all the crates down as “next door” had Land Rover arse stuck out. Woman next door said “sore subject”

I expect the only reason they haven't taken this further is that any dispute would have to be declared when they inevitably decide they've had enough and try and sell.

I don't understand.

How can your DH think it's OK that delivery vans can't deliver?

What does he say?

Thing is, even if they do try to sell, prospective buyers are going to turn up, see the dickhead parking all over the place and run a mile. If I was the neighbour I'd have thought 'fuck it' by now and kicked off big style.

Blimey OP! For what it's worth, if you are being totally honest on here then I personally don't think that you're to blame.
But if your DH has reacted as you say he has then he is an obnoxious prick and I'd hate him to be my neighbour!
You really need to let him know just what an awful person he is being.
I'd try my best to make his life hell like he's doing to house 3 🤷🏻‍♀️

He sounds like a total dickwad OP. I feel sorry for your neighbours and for you too.

It sounds like he is the biggest CF and you are having to put it up with all this hassle. I too would try to get him to read this thread, then he would see that his behaviour and attitude is just not acceptable to other people!

I suspect this is a last ditch effort to get her DH to realise just what a dickhead he’s being, because he’s refused to listen to her. But unfortunately, OP, I think you’re banging your head against a brick wall, there’s no arguing with stupid.

Your dh sounds like an utter, vile cunt.

A prince amongst men he's not.

He sounds like a selfish, misogynistic nightmare.

I think he enjoys annoying the poor neighbors. He seems to hold other people on contemin contempt.

And his car washing activities sound bizarre.

It’s so weird how your dh seems to know the exact thing to say and do to get MN frothing!

One time all of a sudden she came home at 11am (!) came storming down the driveway carrying a number of bags (she’s a nurse)

What relevance is it that shes a nurse?
And as for coming home at 11am!! is that not allowed?

Anyway, DH likes to faff with his car, our driveway is too small to do anything on so during the day when everyone is at work he pulls it into the shared bit. Occasionally he parks his work van on the shared bit but basically, if anything is on the shared bit, 3rd house can’t get to their driveway which is why DH does it when everyone is at work

Why isn’t your DH at work when everyone else is?

We have a very similar set up and are house No.2 however before we moved in No.3 had the driveway changed so the bit where they would drive past us was blocked off and they go straight out onto the road giving them a massive driveway. We then have by the side of our house plus the bit that went to No.3 giving is a massive driveway too

You are being really cheeky thinking it is okay to block them. It really isn't. They shouldn't have to ask to use the shared bit. It should always be clear. We very occasionally drive out to our shared bit with No.1 but would be very apologetic if they wanted to drive in (they only have one car and go away for months at a time).

Woman next door said “sore subject”

Your neighbours are saints, and your husband is nasty. And you don't seem worried by that, going by your weirdly judgemental comments on your neighbours.

I wonder how these sorts of bloke can spend hours hoovering and polishing their penis extensions cars but are incapable of running the hoover over the living room.
Does your husband have a very small penis OP?

I did tell DH I’d created the thread and he said he wasn’t interested in what a load of housewives think (his words, not mine) and that mumsnet hates all blokes anyway

I refer you to my post further up the thread.

Your DH will never admit he is wrong, and you will have unhappy neighbourly relationships for as long as you live there.

He'll never listen to reason - he's a bloke, and this is Mumsnet's opinion, and that's all just women.

Not only is he an entitled, sexist wankbadger, he's a very predictable entitled, sexist wankbadger.

Sympathies, OP. I'm glad he's not my DH or my neoghbour.

I can't add to anything more that's been said but I'm a bit confused as to why we needed to know she was a nurse because she had lots of bags it's not like people would say "why did she have bags?! Is she a nurse or something" (then again maybe they would this is MN)