AIBU - to think this is too much?

[Harveyrabbit76]

My MIL has offered to buy my DS (nearly 3) a micro scooter (about £60)for Easter as I don't let him have easter eggs (obviously they are comparable?! :-)). AIBU to have said no as I think its too much money and missing the point of Easter? I grew up going to church on Easter Sunday and maybe having a couple of chocolate eggs.
Easter for me is more about being with family having a meal with maybe an easter egg hunt (plastic ones or something similar), not making it into Christmas part 2.

I know I have probably hurt MIL's feelings but I have said this would be a very generous gift for his birthday in August. What do you think?

If she wants to buy him a scooter, let her. He’s not going to get spoilt by one gift and the micro scooters are brilliant. My dc have loved them since they were 2. Or just let him have an egg, the kids who aren’t allowed chocolate always seem to gorge themselves when they’re older.

It slows down, OP. By the time kids are older, gifts get smaller and less frequent. Easter becomes either an egg of their choice or a tenner in a card. He is still at a young and exciting age- Grandparents love an excuse to indulge. The scooter is a brilliant present and you could kindly say with gratitude that you are very very grateful and maybe a day our next year altogether for Easter would be lovely?

You do sound v controlling and I mean that in the gentlest of ways. Relax a little maybe and enjoy this stage!

Oh comoon! Let her give him the scooter! If it gives them both the pleasure, why ruin it?

I’d take the scooter! Great gift, encourages outdoor activity, will have use all through spring, summer and into autumn.

If you really can’t then maybe a craft egg, these are filled with colouring stuff etc, then you can reuse it to keep stuff in. We do have chocolate- Easter egg hunt but the eggs around the trail are put into a basket to share and at the end there’s a ‘big’ egg.

What does your DH think? It sounds as though you're trying to recreate your childhood easters but your DH presumably has different traditions. I wouldn't be grumpy about a grandparent wanting to spoil their grandchild. I'd have said thank you and accepted it.

I think a scooter is a great gift in time for summer! Let her buy it. Wether it's a brand new £60 scooter or a £6 one from a charity shop, price shouldn't matter. Your DS is 2, he has no idea how much it cost. All he knows is he got a great gift!

YANBU. My ds thinks Easter is like a second Xmas due to mil overbuying. Luckily he also accepts that the other grandparents, his aunt and uncle and also his parents just get him an egg or something small.

I'm with you @Harveyrabbit76

YANBU, and at all the posters saying aw poor kid, just let him have an egg.
If you don't really give him chocolate anyway, how exactly is he missing out? As he wouldn't really know about chocolate Easter eggs in the first place!
Your egg hunt sounds fun, kids like doing that sort of thing. I know I did.
I can see where MIL's coming from wanting to give a present instead, but a scooter's OTT and expensive as a random Easter gift.
Gifts nice of course but actual nice toddler Easter type craft things or games surely not a great big feckin scooter lol.
Say it'd be lovely for Christmas or birthday instead thank you MIL he'd love it then instead

I'd say thank you for the nice gift (scooter). Way more fun for longer than a choccie egg.
How thoughtful of her.

My DS is two and he's getting a scooter for Easter (granted, it's second-hand). He's also getting chocolate Easter eggs and an egg hunt with the family.
Why? Because he's 2. He doesn't understand the concept of presents, yet. As his parent, I'd like him to have a scooter now and he might get a balance bike later in the year. They aren't presents to be given for Christmas. (Who needs a bike or scooter in the middle of winter??) He's also a Christmas baby, so no point waiting for his birthday.

If you don't want your DS to have an Easter egg or a scooter then that's your choice but I'd personally think the scooter is a better gift for spring. Colouring books can be given when the weather is rubbish.

I hope she just buys the damned egg and gives it to him in front of you

Undermining OP's parenting decisions in front of her and the child? Hope you're not a MIL as that kind of thing feels shit.

In the nicest way possible, please don't be so joyless and controlling.

There’s a deeper back story here with your MIL she could treat him to a scooter anytime so saying she can’t for Easter is just spiteful

My kids are 5 and 7. They are allowed one small egg each over Easter. Nothing wrong with the op not giving her 2 year old chocolate.

One of the supermarkets was selling sugar free chocolate eggs. Wouldn't that be a reasonable compromise if you are concerned about the sugar rush? might have been Tesco but worth looking

Say no thanks to the scooter, yes to Easter Egg. Eat egg yourself. Job don't.

Or job done I should say...

When is his birthday? Can she wait until then to do the scooter.

Suggest some alternatives.

My DC3 will never be able to have chocolate (medical reasons) and I'm going to have to be very strict in overseeing this.

I am very transparent to people that my child has a condition, but if anyone was to slip my DC3 a mini Easter egg they'd be causing a great deal of difficulty (condition is metabolic but also involves food obsession and food seeking behaviours which are kept under control by strict routine and diet)

Not saying this is the OP's case but when I say my child cant have Easter eggs, she absolutely cannot have Easter eggs.

This condition has made us look at what our other children have and we're moving away from food based treats and rewards. It sounds a but joyless but its actually not a bad practice. Older kids can of course still have treats but it is out of the house (at parties and events youngest isn't at).....

It's lovely outside. Best time for a new outside toy.

If you really don't want DS to have any chocolate then I would suggest a Playmobil egg, which are quite nice.

However, reconsider the chocolate issue. A few small foil-wrapped eggs hidden round the garden will bring such joy to a three year old, an if you dole them out in small amounts, really won't cause any adverse effects.

My family have always celebrated Easter with the same importance as Christmas, which has always included feasting and gift giving. A scooter strikes me as a lovely gift as its not always practical at Christmas. We're having chocolate eggs too. Don't be the Easter equivalent of Scrooge. Lent is the time for abstinence; Easter is about rejoicing.

Ds was the same after any food.

Trying to get him to bed any night was a battle.

Ds has ADHD. I don’t think chocolate or sugar is to blame if this is a regular occurrence.

Honestly when I read some of the posts on here from pissed off daughter in laws who take themselves so seriously, I dread the day my young boy grows up, finds a partner and has kids. Jeez just let the grannies enjoy their grandchildren. They are just trying to express their love. For some older people the grandkids are all they have left / care about.

Nothing what you have said is wrong OP, yournccild your voice, however you cannot dictate what other people buy your child, you can refuse to bring said item home however.

Tbh he should be getting love, his needs met, family meals and get togethers as routine, so emphasising this as a better solution to you not giving him eggs is frankly just nonsense.

I respect your choice, I just don’t agree with it, children should be hyper on a few occasions and Easter is one of them.

He's nearly 3 - he doesn't even know what time of year it is or why - let him have it, why is it such a problem, particularly when he's not allowed chocolate either