Advice needed on a dating situation - go easy on me please.
I’ve been in a relationship with a guy since early December. For valentines I decided to do something nice and take us away for a spa weekend. The total cost of this was around £800. I didn’t mind paying as I had some money saved for a rainy day but a few things have bothered me.
On the way there he also let me buy the lunch. I thought given I’ve paid for the both of us to go away he could have at least paid for a lunch??!
I’ve just been looking at my bank statements online and I’ve noticed that I’ve also paid for 4 dates between valentines and the end of February. It’s only when I have sat down and gone through my finances that I’ve realised I’m paying for what I feel is way more than my fair share.
December was the same, and January too. I’ve been paying for 90% of the dates.
He also has me over to his house once a week but there is never any food in the fridge. Literally nothing apart from beer.
His answer to this is to always order takeaway or go out for food. Again, I seem to paying for a lot of it - I offer to pay as I’m his guest (in the hope he says it’s his turn) but he just respond with “ok” and then let’s me pay.
On a few occasions I’ve actually done a M&S shop for him and brought over ready meals and some of his favourite food. Again this has cost me around £40- 50 a time.
He never seems to cook and because there isn’t even basic ingredients to cook a meal, his answer is usually either to go out for food or order in a takeaway. It’s costing a fortune and I’m getting fed up.
I have raised it with him recently in as tactful a way as I can but nothing has really changed.
We are on a similar salary and both are 25.
He’s great in every other way, I have zero complaints.
Just the money, the lack of food, and the constant takeaways....
Thoughts please