To move back to my home country

[MadgeMidgerson]

I live in the south east of England with dog and dc. I was born in another country, came here in my 20s and am now a U.K. citizen.

I have been wanting to go home for some time, especially now that my parents are aging.

I have been offered a job back home in a beautiful location which pays more and has better benefits than my current one in the U.K. but is in the same sector.

Dh is entitled to work in my country- we sought and obtained a permanent resident status for him which allows this. Our children are dual nationals.

There is more space in my home country and my extended family live there.

Aibu to leave the U.K.? Is going home unrealistic? I was reading another thread where a poster wanted to sell up and move elsewhere and many posters said she was BU and tearing her children from all they’ve ever known.

AIBU? What would you do?

Good lord there’s no dog, I love with DH and DC

Go for it, children are very adaptable.

Aibu to leave the U.K.? Is going home unrealistic? I was reading another thread where a poster wanted to sell up and move elsewhere and many posters said she was BU and tearing her children from all they’ve ever known

I think the crux of the other thread was the OP was BU due to the previous nature of their plan.

In your situation with a viable work prospect and good financial situation, then yes I would consider it.

Why on earth wouldn't you?

How old are the children? And what is the education system like?

Children are adaptable and from the sounds of your post there is a plan of action, you just need to start the motion as such. Go for it! You deserve to be happy and if both you and dh have jobs to go to like you've said, there is nothing keeping you here.
Good luck and be happy 😊

I guess it depends on children’s ages plus if education is as good or better than were they are at present.

I’m leaving on a jet plane don’t know when I’ll be back again !! That’s what I would be sing if I was you!! I love this country but even I’m in dispare about in shambles its in at the moment!!

Its not you, its your DH and your children. I speak as someone who moved from the Uk to DH's home country and I hate it. I am so miserable here. You also don't say how long it is since you have lived there.

Well it depends on the country but assuming it’s somewhere civilised I’d say you should. It sounds like your quality of life will be better there.

Not enough info.

What country?

How old are your kids?

It is a highly economically developed country with an educational system that outranks that of the U.K. - I appreciate that these standards are not accepted as the final word in assessing education quality by all, but I think by most objective standards it is at least as good as here

My eldest has started secondary school here; she would be in middle school there.

We go back and spend summers there at the moment; I feel like I have an appreciation of how my country has changed since I was resident.

Re education I meant in PISA rankings.

I think one of the big drivers of me wanting to leave are:

Opportunities for the children (growing up with more freedom, being able to be more independent, post secondary education is affordable and more accessible, less crowded, lower cost of living)

My parents are aging

All my family live there

I have lived in the U.K. for over 15 years and I have enjoyed it but I miss home and everything that has happened since around the referendum has made me feel that I will never really belong, my existence here is conditional (I appreciate that I am probably wrong here, and no one actually dislikes migrants as much as they are made to seem to by media but from my end of things it feels like crap)

DH has no close family here, only second cousins who live in another of the U.K. countries and who we never see- last ones were at his parents’ funerals years ago

Assuming you’re talking about the thread where the OP had little Spanish, few marketable skills, no economic rationale for moving to Spain other than a stubborn desire to, it’s a completely different scenario. Lots of long term UK residents have already gone back, or are planning to in the next year or two — we’ve been here over 20 years and are looking at jobs and houses in our home country. Yes, it will be a challenge for our seven year old, but he’ll adapt.

What country is it though? You didn't say.

Secondary school age. It's hard to say. Depends how the kids feel.

I don’t really want to say. Imagine it’s australia

I have discussed it in detail with both children and they seem happy to go. My eldest will be twelve this year.

We moved from UK to my mum's home country when my DB and I were 15 and 16. She was v similar to you - had lived in UK 20 years, missed her home country & wanted to be near aging parents, while we had no close relationships here with DF family. I'd done GCSE's and finished high school over there, DB went straight into equivalent of FE. Same situation of dual nationality for us, and DF had residency in new country. We were fine. I eventually moved back to the UK but my DB is still out there and v happy. Kids are adaptable and i've loved having the experience of 2 countries, and 2 homes.

Do it! The country sounds fab wherever it is, you have a solid plan, children are adaptable.

I think you'd regret not doing it in a few years once the job has gone away and Britain is having its 47th vote on May's deal.

If I was you I would jump at this opportunity. Sounds like you will have better quality of life there with your DH and children. We are looking to hopefully move overseas. All the best.

If your husband and children are happy with it, why ask us??!

it’s just soo stressful! The last time I did this I was single, no dependents and came to the U.K. with a job offer and work visa and a rucksack 😀

Is the language of your home country English? Will your children have access to an English-speaking school?

If not, do your husband and children speak your native language fluently?

If the language is English, or your family can speak the language fluently then go for it! Seems like a much better situation for you all - and you can always move back if you wish to!

I’d totally do it in your position.

I read and posted on the other “Spanish dream “ thread and I don’t think you can compare the situations. You are going to your family, to a country you have a passport for and speak the language of with a suitable way of making a living. Everything the other poster didn’t.

Go for it!!!