To ask how old you were?

[HarrysOwl]

When you got married? (If you're married!)

I was reading a BBC article about a woman talking about the judgement and negativity she encountered when she announced her engagement aged 22.

I was 32 when I married DH. We were together for 3 years, got engaged then lived together for another 4 years before having our wedding. I wanted to be as sure as I could be and felt no rush.

Is there a general judgement with feminist overtones about getting married so young? Are they doomed to divorce?

24 first time, ended in divorce. 30 the second time, all good!

Met at 26, moved in a month later, married at 29...still going strong after 25 years (He'd been married at 19, divorced as soon as legally possible)

Met my husband when I was 23 and we moved in together 1 month later. We got married when I was 26. Still together after nearly 10 years of marriage (and 2 kids later). We've had our ups and downs but I feel we are mostly a strong couple. I don't think it really matters what age - just sometimes it doesn't work out and sometimes it does

Married at 35. Two DC together after marriage. Been together almost 10yrs.

Met at 28, engaged at 30, married at 31 (DH was 37). We have been married for nearly 8 years and have one DD.

27, engaged at just turned 26. Kids at 28,30,32 and possibly one more on the cards but don't want to be over 35 ideally. Was the first out of the majority of my friends.

I was 34, we’d been together 10 years and already had 2 DCs. We went on to have 2 more. We celebrate our silver wedding anniversary this year. My younger brother got married when he was 23, the same age as his wife. They’re still together too & have 3 DCs.

Met when I was 23, married at 27. Still going. (45 years ago!)

Married when I was 18 and dh was 20 after a whirlwind romance. We will have been married 22 years in September.

Met at 18, moved in together after 6 months, engaged at 19, married at 21. I’m now 30, my husband is 32 and we have two children, will of been married happily for 10 years next year. We had a couple of comments about getting married young but didn’t put us off!

31. Husband was 29. We had been together for 3 years beforehand. I had 3 marriage proposals before him .

Dh and I married at 27 after being together 3.5 years. We had a 9 month engagement.

A friend of mine met her now ex h at 15, engaged at 18 and married at 21. She left him after meeting someone else.

Another friend was married early 20's and it was all over three years later after he cheated.

Another friend met her dh at 15, engaged at 18 but split. Eventually got back together and still are nearly 30 years later.

Age isn't always relevant imo.

I met my husband when I was 17 and he was 19.We got married when I was 18 and I had our 1st child 3 weeks before I turned 20.Our second child I had at 22 and our last at 24.We just had our 20th anniversary in December.I was meant to be a wife and mother.

29, had been together 10 months.

Met at 20 (both of us) married at 21 still together aged 60. I am 2 months younger and never let it be forgotten! One child at 29 when my biological clock was ticking lol

39

Dd at 41

Met at 22, not sure when we got engaged we knew we were going to get married quite early on so was never official! Married at 26, he's just under 2 years older and we're still happily married after 11 years.

I had a few comments about being too young to be married but it was mainly my friends as I was the first in our circle, my family wasn't surprised.

I think you're ready to get married when you want a marriage not a wedding day and you're prepared to work at it as it's not always easy. We're both different from 15 years ago and we'll probably change again in another 15 but I find that exciting and happy I'm with him on the same journey.

I was 21 and there was a LOT of judgement. Older women I barely knew at work practically fell over themselves to tell me that it was a terrible mistake and that it would almost certainly end in divorce. Younger women at university told me it was “unfeminist” (some of them are now married themselves!) I think it was down to people having very old-fashioned and restrictive ideas about what marriage should be.

Married at 20, together 17 yrs 😳

16. And pregnant. We had been together a year beforehand. Marriage lasted 9 years. By 25 I was a single parent of 3 children. I didn't learn...married again at 39. We had been together 4 years before wedding, & lived together 2 of those. That marriage lasted 8 years. And I was s single parent of 1 child then. 2bf, 2nd hubby does bother with DD, on his terms. 1st hubby hardly bothered with kids. I have a wonderful partner now - but we are not getting married & live in our own houses.

Met at 18, married at 25. Married 18yrs now and v happy

I can’t remember who but a famous actor said the secret to his long marriage was that he and his wife never wanted to get divorced at the same time, which I think is quite true! I think as well as communication, trust, commitment, respect, etc., luck has an awful lot to do with it. Age is irrelevant.

met at 16, married at 17 ( not pregnant) have been married 42yrs. age has nothing to do with it, it depends on the people involved and their feelings. oh btw have 2 daughters and 4 grandsons.

Married at 23 after 4 yrs together. Split 11 yrs later. Everyone is different, my family were fine. I was quite mature, working and had a house. My youngest sister is 25 now and nowhere near ready to commit. It wasn't age that broke us up.