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To ask how old you were?

586 replies

HarrysOwl · 12/04/2019 07:35

When you got married? (If you're married!)

I was reading a BBC article about a woman talking about the judgement and negativity she encountered when she announced her engagement aged 22.

I was 32 when I married DH. We were together for 3 years, got engaged then lived together for another 4 years before having our wedding. I wanted to be as sure as I could be and felt no rush.

Is there a general judgement with feminist overtones about getting married so young? Are they doomed to divorce?

OP posts:
quizqueen · 13/04/2019 18:05

Met at 17, married at 24, first child at 30, second at 33, separated at 44, divorced at 48!!

mummyhaschangedhername · 13/04/2019 18:05

23, people did make comments. I probably looked a lot younger than I wasn't which probably didn't help and we were married VERY quickly, but still together 12 years on.

Breathingfire · 13/04/2019 18:09

Got together aged 19, married at 27 after a 6m engagement. Been together 10 years this autumn

clareken260 · 13/04/2019 18:09

Got married at 19, will celebrate our 32 anniversary in June.

pumpkinpie01 · 13/04/2019 18:11

21 had been together year and a half , can’t believe our parents thought it was a good idea ! Divorced at 28 and remarried at 43 after being together 13 years. Bonus of first marriage apart from my lovely DC was getting on the housing ladder at a relatively young age .

resipsa · 13/04/2019 18:13

I was 29, DH was 23. Still together (just 😂) after 20 years!!!

jaseyraex · 13/04/2019 18:16

Engaged at 21 and married at 25. We were going to get married sooner but I fell pregnant with DS2 a year after our engagement. I'm 27 now (DH is 7 years older).
I do get the 'oh you're too young to be married!' a lot and then followed by 'you're too young to have two kids!'.
I don't get the "too young" for things reaction. Wether you're 18 or 80, surely if you're happy and feel ready then you go for it.

Youhadmeathello1 · 13/04/2019 18:17

Met at 18, married at 20. Next month is our 26th wedding anniversary.

Bozlem80 · 13/04/2019 18:18

Met when I was 15 & DH 17
Married at 18 & 20
Celebrating 20 yrs of marriage this year!

Streely · 13/04/2019 18:22

Met at 24, had first child at 27, married at 30...so a bit arse about face Grin.

We’ve been together for 18 years .

CamdenTownie · 13/04/2019 18:22

I was 26 my husband was 30.

NannyRed · 13/04/2019 18:23

22 first time, 50 second and last time.

Mary54 · 13/04/2019 18:23

Married at 19. will be 36 years this year

pamhill64 · 13/04/2019 18:41

Met at 19, married 18 months later just before I was 20, 1st baby at 21, 3 by 28 and 5 kids by 38. Been married 34 1/2 years now. Oh and DH is actually a year younger than me! No wonder no one thought we’d last lol

Liverpool52 · 13/04/2019 18:47

Met when I was 18 (he was 29). Got together when I was 21, married when I was 23. 12 years ago. Don't feel like I've missed anything getting married that young or to someone a bit older because we both mainly have the same hobbies and still do the same stuff now as before we got together.

DramaAlpaca · 13/04/2019 18:49

I was 26. We've been married 28 years now.

Happyralphymummy · 13/04/2019 18:52

Met aged 19, married when I was 24. Just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary and we're as blissfully happy as ever.

Mommaof2x · 13/04/2019 18:53

Met at 24, married at 26, now in thirties and still together

manicmij · 13/04/2019 18:56

When I married you were an old maid if single at 25. No living with anyone before marriage in those days. Been married 52 years. Didn't have children for 7 years after marrying as had to work for funds to scrape deposit for house. Nothing is new!

Maemae06 · 13/04/2019 18:57

Met at 19 married at 24 and 2 kids and 9 years later I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made!

lanbro · 13/04/2019 18:58

I was 31, now almost 39 and divorce almost through...in hindsight I rushed into it, but I wouldn't change it as have two wonderful dds

MTGGirl · 13/04/2019 18:58

met at 21.
married at 27.
been together for 23 yrs.
wow. never calculated it like this.
at least it's easy to remember when we met: same year as I got my driving licence

Seniorschoolmum · 13/04/2019 18:58

I sort of understand this. When I graduated after a gruelling four years, one of my course mates announced that she was getting married and trying for a baby immediately.
I was horrified. My 22yo self just didn’t get it. All that work to land a well paid job & she seemed to be chucking it all away.
My values changed about 15 years later than hers Grin

Pinkprincess1978 · 13/04/2019 18:58

I was 25. We had been together a year when we got engaged, then moved in together and got married that year (together almost 2.5 years when we got married). It worked for us, we celebrate 16 years of marriage this year.

JustineA · 13/04/2019 18:58

Met at 35. Married at 42 and divorced at 46.

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