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To ask how old you were?

586 replies

HarrysOwl · 12/04/2019 07:35

When you got married? (If you're married!)

I was reading a BBC article about a woman talking about the judgement and negativity she encountered when she announced her engagement aged 22.

I was 32 when I married DH. We were together for 3 years, got engaged then lived together for another 4 years before having our wedding. I wanted to be as sure as I could be and felt no rush.

Is there a general judgement with feminist overtones about getting married so young? Are they doomed to divorce?

OP posts:
Milkn0sugar · 12/04/2019 16:54
  1. Met when we were 20 at university. Both 35 now.
ALongHardWinter · 12/04/2019 16:56
  1. I've been divorced for 20 years. Marry in haste,repent at leisure.....
squirrelnutkins1 · 12/04/2019 16:56
  1. Been married 10 years Smile
PH03b3 · 12/04/2019 16:58

26

edgen2019 · 12/04/2019 16:58

20 - just celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary.

BeTheHokeyMan · 12/04/2019 17:00

Married at 26 and ten years married this year

Lolly49 · 12/04/2019 17:02

Married at 26 still with the old fart 26 years later.

IAmAPersonToo · 12/04/2019 17:04

Got together at 17.
Married at 27.

Cliffdonville · 12/04/2019 17:05

Met when I was 22, married 3 months later. Have been together 15 years so far.

PissOffPeppa · 12/04/2019 17:07

Met at 19, engaged at 20, married at 26. Still very happy

WeTookVows · 12/04/2019 17:11

Married the week after my 21st birthday in 2009. We'd been together 2 years. I didn't want to live together without commitment and didn't feel frightened or tied down by the idea of marriage. As it happens we did move in to our house 4 months before the wedding. We are very happy together.

No negativity from friends or family (to our faces anyway!)

Singlebutmarried · 12/04/2019 17:11

Met DH at 25, married 29, been together 17 years.

Calixtine · 12/04/2019 17:18

Engaged at 20, married at 21.

Yellowpolkadot · 12/04/2019 17:18

Together at 15, married at 27, baby at 28... we didn’t really see the point until kids were in our thoughts, really it was just to make us a unit with the same name 😂 bloody expensive way to do it I guess!

CammieKennaway · 12/04/2019 17:27

I met my husband at 21 (moved in within 4 months) - married at 23 - still very happily married 19 years and counting

JazzersMaw · 12/04/2019 17:28
  1. 30 years ago this August!
justjuggling · 12/04/2019 17:28

Married 3 weeks before I turned 30. He was 34. He left 2 weeks before my 40th, to go live with his secretary, after years of being unfaithful with a number of women. Don’t think it would have made any difference if we’d married 10 years earlier or later.

Lozz22 · 12/04/2019 17:32

19 when I got engaged, married at 22 and separated at 32 I was in a controlled and abusive marriage but too scared to walk away.

Angel75 · 12/04/2019 17:35

43 never married, never will.

itsbetterthanabox · 12/04/2019 17:35
  1. Had been together since we were 17.
Inferiorbeing · 12/04/2019 18:52

Got engaged at 19 and get married at 23 as we had to graduate and buy a house first. We got lots of comments which isn't really a surprise but after all this time together we've proven to a lot of people that we are ready to get married

ahtellthee · 12/04/2019 18:55

I was 24. 16 years happily married.
(My mum and sister were also 24. My best friend just got married aged 40).

Purpleartichoke · 12/04/2019 18:57

My first marriage I was 25. It did not last.

In my peer group, I am only aware of one couple that wed before their late twenties that is still married.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 12/04/2019 18:58
  1. Widowed at 35
crazypsychedelictrifle · 12/04/2019 18:59

I was 36. Still married.