To ask how old you were?

[HarrysOwl]

When you got married? (If you're married!)

I was reading a BBC article about a woman talking about the judgement and negativity she encountered when she announced her engagement aged 22.

I was 32 when I married DH. We were together for 3 years, got engaged then lived together for another 4 years before having our wedding. I wanted to be as sure as I could be and felt no rush.

Is there a general judgement with feminist overtones about getting married so young? Are they doomed to divorce?

Engaged at 18 married at 19. No judgement from most people I know but my overtly ‘feminist’ friends repeatedly told me I was making a mistake, shouldn’t do it etc. Go figure 🤷‍♀️

Met at 18 at uni, got together are 23, married at 26, still married 10 years later. We were the first of our friends to get married but people soon followed suit. We never felt judged.

Why does marrying younger mean you can’t concentrate on your career? DH and I married fairly young. We met on a grad scheme for a large international bank at 24. Moved abroad together working for that bank, married at 27 after a couple of promotions each. Both had six figure salaries by the time we had children.

30

I was 22 when I met DH and he was 20. Moved in together after 10 months and engaged 9 months after that when DH was 21 and I was 24. Married when DH was 22 and I was 25 and celebrated five years last December. I didn't notice any judgement to be honest but marrying in 20s is the norm amongst our family and friends (despite being solidly middle class and university educated (most of us met our spouses at university).

Met at 19, started dating at 22, married at 29. We’ve been married for 3 years now. Most friends have got married in the last 4 years (so 28 onwards), regardless of how long they were in their relationships first. It seems to be more of an age/lifestage timing thing than how long they’ve been with their partners.

Been with DH 13 years in September. Took a while to get married bit lots in between meeting and marrying.

Met when I was 18 and he was 17
Moved in together 3 months later
Had DS1 at 21
Engaged at 22
Married at 27 (was 32 weeks pg with DS2)

According to my mother it does. Maternity leave, especially if repeated knocks promotion chances etc. She thinks its happenong to me. I don't think so but I'm not ambitious in the least. And I hate my job.

Sorry, i meant having children young. We married only because we were planning children.

Married at 28.

My first wedding I was only 18 and I knew it was a big mistake but I wasn't allowed to pull out of it,we'd been together for just over 2 years and we ended up having 2DS and were together for 9 years.

I'm glad I went through with it because it I've got my 2 gorgeous sons from that time.

My second marriage is still going strong we got married when I was 36 we'd been together for 5 years.

We got engaged after only 9 months and we were going to get married within 2 years but I fell pregnant with our DD and a year later I got seriouslly ill and disabled so the wedding had to wait untill I was well enough.

25, 23 years ago.isn't start a family for 4 years though.

Didn't not isn't.

It's funny I always think of early 20s being so young to get married but then I remember me and DP (unmarried) have been together since age 23! I actually think there's some advantages to being together from a young age, you kind of grow together and you have all those great memories of stuff you did in your 20s together. Obv it all depends on what the relationship is like though; there is no 'right' age, I just disagree when people say unilaterally that it's better to wait till you're older.

22 which was 33 years ago.

I think the personalities of people is so important too. DH and I married young but we are basically middle aged in our minds. We have no interest in partying, having casual relationships etc. All we have both ever wanted was a stable home life.

alittlesnow it’s not a class thing. That was a lot of the judgement me and DH faced. We were both university educated and have professional careers. I completed my degree with a baby. We got married when we were both still students.

Married at 26, separated at 31. Wouldn't bother doing it again.

Engaged at 21, married at 23.

Still happily married 16 years later, but I appreciate we're not really the same people in a way that we were, and it's been a lucky thing to have grown together rather than in different directions, I guess. Never say never, but I don't currently see us being doomed to divorce!

If we had any nastyness about getting married young, it must have gone straight over my head. I had some friends who married at 19 and 20, so maybe that had created a buffer for me, and my older DB and his wife also married young.

Met at 17, moved in together 4 years later, engaged about 2 years after that, married 10 years later, that was almost 2 years ago.

Married at 21, 5 years in and all is well so far!

Married at 23 DH was 28, we celebrate our Silver wedding anniversary next year. I'm seriously ill and I dont know what I'd have done without him.

I was 22. Married 16 years now, together for 20.

37. Went to the registry office, told parents after the fact. MIL was not amused (about the secret marriage, she likes me though).

I was 16 .Married for 40 years ,6 boys ,3 grandchildren