Because I've said no to this....
Dsd should be coming tomorrow evening until Sunday. She broke up from school last week.
My 2 dcs have not broken up from school yet. They break up tomorrow.
Dsd Is 5. This morning dh had a phone call from dsd (not his mother) asking if she could sleep tonight.
It's not really possible for her to sleep tonight.
As I've said, my dcs are still at school and Thursdays are manic. We dont even come home after the school run due to after school activities. Thursday is known as 'pack up tea' as I make them a pack up for tea to eat while we are out. We don't usually get home until 7.45-8pm.
Dh always works late on Thursdays and gets in just after us usually. There is no way he can finish early either at such short notice.
So potentially dsd could be dropped off around 8pm....
But I cannot look after her tomorrow either and neither can dh. Again, dh cannot get the day off at such short notice and I have a million and one things on school related (last day of term) and also 2 baby groups (have a 6 month old).
As soon as school finishes, I'm driving 2.5 hours to drop my dcs off with their dad for a few days. And I would have to also take dsd with me and I cant fit her in my car.
So I have said that I cannot have dsd at such short notice. As I've said, I won't even be able to fit an extra car seat in my car.
We already had school holidays sorted, we have dsd next week and we are going on holiday. We are having her half the holidays as we always do.
I just feel it was so wrong of the ex to get dsd to ring and ask if she could stay. Now we look like the bad ones for saying no. The ex should of asked, not the child. Or Aibu to think this?
I also kind of feel I was expected to just have dsd and fit it around my plans. Dh went very quiet with me when I said no to looking after her.
Just to add - I do a lot for dsd. I always have and I always will but sometimes I just feel taken advantage of and this is the first time I've ever said no.