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justasking111 · 10/04/2019 13:47

Was quite shocked to see this. Will this be a test case? Mumsnet is such a tame well run site compared to the comments I see in the online press. Is the writing on the wall for free (cough) speech or is it a culling of trolling. Personally I think that something needs to be done, some folk have no filter or are just plain nasty.

news.yahoo.com/transgender-activist-wins-court-ruling-forcing-parenting-website-reveal-identity-alleged-online-abuser-121317596.html

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LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 18:18

Yes. It wasn't very good

See. There you go. People have seen others attempt really. They just don't want to listen to anything else. Like I said.

BarbieJellyBabyBrain · 15/04/2019 18:19

Again Lime.

Why do you think someone would 'accept' an argument that they believe is totally unsatisfactory?

It's like someone arguing, I don't know, that we should bring back the death penalty because they believe that if you murder someone you should die too. Me counter arguing with 'OK but what about miscarriages of justice' and then that person just replying with 'oh well there is no point in engaging with you because unless it's the right answer you won't listen anyway'.

It's nonsense.

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GirlDownUnder · 15/04/2019 18:21

See. There you go. People have seen others attempt really. They just don't want to listen to anything else. Like I said.

I am not 'people' - I am me, so my question please - define a trans woman. How do you define a trans woman having already ruled out

"Not biology
Not a GRC
Not surgery
Not self-ID
Not long hair"

Ereshkigal · 15/04/2019 18:22

See. There you go. People have seen others attempt really. They just don't want to listen to anything else. Like I said.

Feel free to link to it then. For the lurkers.

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 18:24

Feel free to link to it then. For the lurkers

If you'd read my earlier posts you'd know why not, and I know you really don't want any other answer.
For the lurkers.

GirlDownUnder · 15/04/2019 18:29

Lime are you just ignoring me now?

That seems very rude as I think I've been polite and tried to engage and asked a question that should be easier for you to answer. I believe you are pissed off trying to define women because reasons. So define trans women

having already ruled out

"Not biology
Not a GRC
Not surgery
Not self-ID
Not long hair"

SmileEachDay · 15/04/2019 18:31

Girl

Lime can’t. Lime is pretending it is won’t, but it’s can’t. Furthermore it’s everyone else’s fault.

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 18:34

Lime are you just ignoring me now?

Sorry Girl, didn't mean to - I don't know how many times I have to say that I'm not getting into "define woman" define transwoman" as there's a few on this thread who definitely aren't interested but are pretending they are.
Maybe someone else will have a go.
Somebody asked for a name and I gave one, RatRolyPoly, that definition should be easy enough to find as I saw her have a go a few times on threads.
Others have tried too but there's not much point linking if people aren't really interested.

GirlDownUnder · 15/04/2019 18:34

Thanks for the heads up Smile

Is this maybe why the go to is recipes?

Never know, maybe my answer will take a bit longer as Lime has a lot to say?!

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 18:35

And just to add you actually do seem genuine so sorry about that Girl

Ereshkigal · 15/04/2019 18:41

If you'd read my earlier posts you'd know why not, and I know you really don't want any other answer.

I know full well you don't have any coherent answer. For the lurkers, or anyone else.

GirlDownUnder · 15/04/2019 18:43

OK Lime as I said I will look up Rat

But I've got to be honest, if you're stating that you're comfortable accepting trans women as women and "Accept transwomen or don't. T'is up to you" I don't know how I can follow what you say when I have no idea what you mean by trans woman, specially if the rules are arbitrary?!

Unless there's going to be some central repository listing all the trans women who are actual trans women (with or without a GRC) and not 'scum' (with or without a GRC), how am I to know 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for your time.

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 18:44

People have engaged with you on the other threads and tried to discuss definitions.
For the lurkers.

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 18:45

Sorry, cross posted with you there Girl

BarbieJellyBabyBrain · 15/04/2019 18:52

If you Google 'Ratrolypoly definition of woman Mumsnet' you get this thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3296479-ALTERNATIVE-DEFINITIONS-OF-WOMAN

RatRolyPoly's definition of woman on that thread is

Woman = an adult human female, or one who identifies as such

Now, you can see why that might be an unacceptable definition for some. And in fact on that thread people go on to explain why they are not satisfied with it, with proper arguments. They are fully engaging without 'ridicule'.

Hopefully very helpful for the lurkers actually Smile

sanluca · 15/04/2019 18:52

I remember some of the answer from RatPolyPoly, it was a circular one that went something like a woman is an adult human female and anyone who feels like one. So that would include Karen White. So your opinion on who we should accept as a transwomen is different than theirs.

So for legal sake, for sports, awards, scholarships, prisons etc. do we use Rats or yours? And how do weed out the ones that are not genuine? If at all possible I would appreciate a definition that is externally verifiable.

sanluca · 15/04/2019 18:53

Crossposted, sorry!

BarbieJellyBabyBrain · 15/04/2019 18:55

Actually LimeKiwi it's interesting that you have referenced that poster's definition seeing as you have said that you are against self id?

SmileEachDay · 15/04/2019 18:56

Barbie I’d just found that one and was about to link. I think it demonstrates some of the issues with circular definitions well.

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 19:00

That was one name off the top of my head that has had a go with their definition.
Other posters have said there could be more to having biology too.
As I said - all you want to hear is woman = biology.
The whole discussion is circular. Somebody says different, the ROFL's start.

GirlDownUnder · 15/04/2019 19:03

Barbie arrrrrgh! But thanks for digging that up Grin

So exactly what's been said on this thread, and there I was still hopeful of a big reveal.

Lime is not fully against self ID as accepts India W and Lily M as trans women (no GRCs), but rejected Karen W as scum....

SmileEachDay · 15/04/2019 19:04

Somebody says different, the ROFL's start

Except they don’t, on the thread where Rat posted. Other posters disagreed and explained in a reasoned way. Rat responded with an argument based on pragmatism. Other posters responded.

Almost like a discussion forum or something.

GirlDownUnder · 15/04/2019 19:05

Hey Lime as we are failing here, maybe you could do a search here and find a definition? Only if you have time though.

LimeKiwi · 15/04/2019 19:06

Except they don’t, on the thread where Rat posted

Just been having a scroll through that seeing as someone's linked, not seen that one before - yeah you're right, that one seems a little bit more reasoned than some of the others I've seen Smile

BarbieJellyBabyBrain · 15/04/2019 19:08

The whole discussion is circular.Somebody says different, the ROFL's start.

To be clear (because ya just can't seem to let it go!):

I used the crying with laughter emoji when talking about the fact that you gave one definition of woman on some thread a long time ago and because people didn't find that definition satisfactory and therefore wouldn't 'accept' your definition, you have been going ever since about the fact that people 'won't engage and won't listen'. That is what is laughable.

Also, strange that you will reference other people's definitions, but still won't volunteer yours, even via Pm to someone who has specifically requested it.

Anyway, I think that thread I linked to will be helpful to anyone lurking, seeing as that is what you are apparently so concerned with.

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