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New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

374 replies

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 18:44

Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

OP posts:
rosinavera · 08/04/2019 21:11

I hear you OP!! You don't let just leave your JRT to bark because you're a responsible dog owner. I would also be upset if I heard a neighbour swear at my dog. Unfortunately you've posted in AIBU and that seems to be a free for all for everybody to lay into people! I suspect lots of these very intolerant posters have cats who defecate in other people's gardens and/or have kids that endlessly kick their footballs against walls. Jeez - live and let live!!

SmileEachDay · 08/04/2019 21:12

The house had been empty for months

I wonder why the house near you had been empty for so long 🤔

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 21:12

Well now you know he lives there you know not to let her out without being attached to a lead held by you.

starzig · 08/04/2019 21:12

Your lucky they didn't fling a brick at it

Justmuddlingalong · 08/04/2019 21:14

Instead of having to check if anyone is having the audacity to spend time in their garden, why not invest some time and money in training your dog? I'm sure as the weather improves, your neighbours will use their gardens more.

HarrysOwl · 08/04/2019 21:14

Those collars are awful.

There are so many positive reinforcement training techniques to stop a yappy dog.

The problem isn't the dog, it's the lazy owners who can't be fucked with proper training.

Sure, JR's are naturally yappier but they're also super bright and take well to training - it won't happen overnight but a responsible owner will put the work in.

SleepingSloth · 08/04/2019 21:15

So what did you mean by it?

Unreasonable, not very sensible, strange etc.

Raspberry88 · 08/04/2019 21:16

Instead of having to check if anyone is having the audacity to spend time in their garden, why not invest some time and money in training your dog?

Exactly. They would have every right to spend all day in their garden and then what would you do?

llangennith · 08/04/2019 21:17

He didn't intend you or your son to hear him. Next time your dog yaps go and get him back in and if your non I'd is the garden just apologise and say you know it must be annoying.
My Cav barks at birds and squirrels in the garden and gets called back in sharpish; ndn also has a little dog who does the same. We moan about our dogs but get on well because we don't let it go on and on and we don't take offence.

Sweetbabycheezits · 08/04/2019 21:17

Going to join the pp saying that a JR bark is annoying for any length of time, and their "voices" carry! We have a lovely JR, but she can get a bit barky when she's out sometimes, it drives us bonkers, and she's ours! Fortunately, we don't have neighbours, so we don't stress too much!

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 21:17

Unreasonable, not very sensible, strange etc.

Nah, none of those can be described as crazy. That’s not what you meant.

rosinavera · 08/04/2019 21:19

@starzig - well aren't you just a peach!

SleepingSloth · 08/04/2019 21:19

Nah, none of those can be described as crazy. That’s not what you meant.

Lol...look it up. Don't tell me what I meant. HTH Wink

Londongirl888 · 08/04/2019 21:20

Gosh OP you are like a dog with a bone on this, incredibly stubborn. Even if you keep repeating your version of events you are missing the point no one wants to hear your dog bark.

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 21:21

I’ve never said they can’t spend time in the garden 🤣😭I’ve always been considerate of my neighbours.

My neighbours cat on one side shits in our garden but still when they are outside I keep my dog in til they are in..

Funny SmileEachDay. 🤷‍♀️ Empty because an old tenant did thousands of pounds of damage having parties, domestics in the house, smashed windows, not cleaning it etc etc. And he’s been in there on and off for a while doing it up!

OP posts:
ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 21:21

Lol...look it up. Don't tell me what I meant. HTH

Be adult enough to own it. HTH. Lol.

StoneofDestiny · 08/04/2019 21:23

OP you can’t let her out by herself until you have reliably trained her not to bark. 20 seconds before bringing her in is far too long for training purposes. You have to be right beside her so as soon as she barks one yap you take her straight inside. The consequences have to be immediate, not 20 seconds later

Agree

SmileEachDay · 08/04/2019 21:23

Empty because an old tenant did thousands of pounds of damage having parties, domestics in the house, smashed windows, not cleaning it etc etc. And he’s been in there on and off for a while doing it up!

That sounds really annoying OP. It’s annoying when there is noise that’s not your fault in a neighbouring property, isn’t it?

Justmuddlingalong · 08/04/2019 21:25

I’ve never said they can’t spend time in the garden
No, but your barking dog, however cute/sweet/wouldn't hurt a fly, is disturbing them. They should be able to use their gardens in peace. Are you really not getting the issue her barking could be causing?

SleepingSloth · 08/04/2019 21:27

Be adult enough to own it. HTH. Lol.

I absolutely would if that's what I meant. But I didn't so I won't. Again, look it up. Keep being offended unnecessarily though if you wish. Yawn.

DistanceCall · 08/04/2019 21:27

You're annoyed because a neighbour was unfriendly to your dog? Because he said "fuck" to your dog?

It's a dog. An ANIMAL. It doesn't speak. It's not offended if people swear at him.

And yes, some people dislike dogs. Unfathomable though you seem to find the idea. You'll have to learn to live with that.

Wolfiefan · 08/04/2019 21:28

You’re not considerate if you leave your dog barking in the garden. What about that can’t you understand? Confused

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 21:29

SmileEachDay. I never actually heard a thing 😂 Bearing in mind our houses are quite far apart with two long gardens in between. This is what I was told by direct neighbours and the landlord himself. Never had any problems with them myself!

OP posts:
JK2012 · 08/04/2019 21:30

I don’t leave her in the garden for long. I call her straight in.

OP posts:
Oysterbabe · 08/04/2019 21:31

I've told next door's yappy little shitbag to shut the fuck up many a time.

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