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New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

374 replies

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 18:44

Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 08/04/2019 20:22

My dog doesn’t bark in the garden. If she did I would not let her out without supervision. It’s fucking annoying and anti social.

Brilliantidiot · 08/04/2019 20:23

Are they poodles? grin

No, the poodles are from a different direction! But they're actually lovely dogs and neighbours too. I'm not sure what these two are, they're small and furry, badly trained and yappy, but they bark at everything and everyone on their walk a few times a day, on those long leads and aren't really under control even then, it pisses me right off that he lets his dogs charge up to my gate barking and snarling at my dog in her own garden!

Cherrysherbet · 08/04/2019 20:25

You sound like a responsible dog owner op. Jeez, some of the posters on here! You didn’t let your dog bark excessively, you didnt do anything wrong. Your neighbour was unreasonable, and is probably a miserable git. I hate excessive barking, but he didn’t give you a chance to stop her. I’m sure she’s a lovely girl, I have too myself.

Don’t worry about him, just carry on as you are 💐

pouraglasshalffull · 08/04/2019 20:25

OP, what was the point in you posting this question?

You asked if you are being unreasonable. Everyone has said yes you are, and yet you are still insistent that you are in the right.

If you are so stubborn that you won't change your mind, then don't bother posting on a website asking for other peoples opinions.

For the record, I love Jack Russel's but they have the most annoying yapping noise ever. YABU. Give your bloody neighbour some peace

Cherrysherbet · 08/04/2019 20:26

*two, not too 🐶

HarrysOwl · 08/04/2019 20:29

OP: Aibu?
EVERYONE ON MN: Yabu.
OP: 😂

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 20:31

My dog has never kept anyone awake at night Hazlenutpie. She’s a good dog to sleep in her bed all night.

Fortunately I am a SAHM so she is never left for long periods and j am 99 percent sure she doesn’t bark when we are out. She is always asleep in the same spot I left her when we get back 😂

She wasn’t left unsupervised. I just let her out my patio door from my kitchen and I was right there and went out as soon as she barked and brought her in.

OP posts:
JK2012 · 08/04/2019 20:33

If my new neighbour couldn’t bear my dog barking for 20 seconds he must hate his direct neighbours. They have a jack Russell and it barks like crazy all the time. Mines an angel compared to some of them around here! 😂

OP posts:
userxx · 08/04/2019 20:33

@Hazlenutpie You won't allow your dog to bark? even when running around having a mad two minutes in their own garden for fear of one of the neighbours being irritated or upset. I find that so sad. Are people really that uptight.

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 20:35

Nothing stubborn about me. But I posted that the dog only barks for very short periods of time. I always get her in when she barks. She doesn’t bark indoors. But everyone on here assumes I leave her or barking for hours on end which I never have. I call her in straight away and she’s well trained to come in when she’s called!!

OP posts:
userxx · 08/04/2019 20:35

@Hazlenutpie You won't allow your dog to bark? even when running around having a mad two minutes in their own garden for fear of one of the neighbours being irritated or upset. I find that so sad. Are people really that uptight.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 20:37

I was right there

You said your gardens are quite long and she ran right up to the back fence, you were inside and had to get your shoes on to go and call her.

and went out as soon as she barked and brought her in.

No you didn’t, you put your shoes on and had to walk up the long garden which took at leas 20 seconds.

That is not straight away. Nor is it supervised wrt barking. You have to be right beside her, preferably with her on a lead and take her in as soon as the first bark escapes her lips.

CatWithARabbit · 08/04/2019 20:39

Our ndn have two small yappy dogs. They are SO annoying.... they are put out at 5.30am to bark and also put out on the hour every hour in the evening. It is so inconsiderate and really pisses me off. But they don't speak to us anyway so no point in complaining, they would love to know the barking annoys us. I hate them!

HarrysOwl · 08/04/2019 20:39

she’s never left outside barking for long

Which is it, now you say you call the dog in as soon as it barks, but first you said she's not left for long?

I think your dog has been allowed to bark and yap away and you don't care because it doesn't bother you.

applesarerroundandshiny · 08/04/2019 20:43

This thread has made me quite sad. I never realised there was such a dislike of Jack Russells. I admit the yappy bark is annoying but they can be such loving, loyal, friendly little dogs.

rachelfrost · 08/04/2019 20:43

Other people have dogs
My dog doesn’t bark when I’m resting
It wasn’t going to bite anyone
And it’s not barking ALL day long
Why would my neighbour hate me?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/04/2019 20:44

You'd hate me OP. I've told next door's bastard JR to shut the fuck up on numerous occasions. I've also threatened it with a tranquilliser dart, a one way trip to Scotland and swimming lessons in the river (obviously I wouldn't do any of those things). It sounds as yours is a yappy little fucker like the one next door to me - they are not cute, they are bloody annoying.

Rosehip10 · 08/04/2019 20:45

You sound like noisy, inconsiderate neighbors OP.

SleepingSloth · 08/04/2019 20:45

Exactly! And your neighbour's dog didn't even bark back - you should apologise to them and ask for training tips.

😂 I can't believe some of the answers on this thread. Apologise and ask for training tips...snort!

I'd take no notice of what the neighbour said, sounds like an arse. But the people on this thread that have an issue with a dog barking for 20 seconds sound utterly mad.

My personal favourite:

Doesn’t matter. Would you tolerate someone aggressively swearing at you over your garden fence for 20 seconds just because you dared to be in your own garden? I highly doubt it. I reckon you’d have something to say about that. Yapping dogs are the same.

There's some crazy people on here. Comparing a dog barking to someone swearing at you.....I have heard it all now. 😂

rwalker · 08/04/2019 20:46

I think you should just delete this thread everyone is say how annoying dogs barking are but you don't think so

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 20:46

I admit the yappy bark is annoying but they can be such loving, loyal, friendly little dogs.

So can quiet dogs.

BlueSkiesLies · 08/04/2019 20:47

He was out being all peaceful in his garden with his dog, and your annoying little happy poorly trained dog started barking at him. Fair dos telling your dog to shut the fuck up. Your dog can’t understand.

Maneandfeathers · 08/04/2019 20:47

I have told my ndn yappy little dog to shut the fuck up too Blush

It barks every time I let my own (very big but silent and well behaved!) dogs out to the toilet or go if I go anywhere near the bottom of my own garden. I don’t know how they haven’t murdered it themselves to be honest!

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 20:49

My personal favourite:

Glad you liked it Wink

There's some crazy people on here.

Mental health “jokes” aren’t funny.

Comparing a dog barking to someone swearing at you.....I have heard it all now.

Same level of irritation. Someone/thing yapping at you for standing in your own garden.

Slicedpineapple · 08/04/2019 20:50

If my new neighbour couldn’t bear my dog barking for 20 seconds he must hate his direct neighbours. They have a jack Russell and it barks like crazy all the time.

That's probably why he told yours to shut the fuck up, if he is getting it from somewhere else as well.

OP Zak George is a fab dog trainer who has free YouTube videos on basically everything. If you're that worried, search his videos for how to stop dogs barking.

This whole thread is a none issue.

I don't think anyone dislikes JRs but so many do stereotypically bark at everything. They are actually very intelligent, trainable dogs, working dogs in fact. They are very alert and if their brain isn't put to work then they can become highly strung and yappy or snappy. Or some are just happy life characters than others. Easy to train out of them and they focus well.

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