Believe what a medium has said?

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Has anyone had a reading from a psychic medium (or like) and had something exactly came true? Not something vague but something specific almost word for word?

@TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince

That the medium/the medium's parent/relative had known your Mum and, at best, she wanted to reassure/comfort you.

I've had people look shocked and ask 'how could you know that? You must have - The Gift'. Nope. I'm good at reading body language, though - whether you look anxious, sad, in pain, if you've just walked back into a place after I saw you leave it and are casting your eyes around for something, it's likely to be a jumper or scarf left under the table, if you're looking really anxious and keep on putting your hands on each pocket, it's keys or wallet - that kind of thing. And I will notice dog/cat hair on your tights and a perfect jumper, so I know you've been clothes shopping recently or you've looked at a dog walking past and sighed, suggesting you miss having a dog - that kind of thing.

The one who asked me in a shaky voice if I did readings after I'd directed her son towards the pale lemon cardigan under the table, insisting she could pay made me feel good and bad about myself though - I looked at her twisting her battered wedding ring, took a deep breath and said 'He's fine. You don't need to keep asking him'.

She looked so happy. She still tried to pay me - in the end, I told her to give it to charity or buy some bulbs with it. I meant flowers - Tulips, Daffodils, that kind of thing. She gasped and said 'OH! The kitchen light blew this morning! You're AMAZING!'.

If there's money changing hands, it's fake.

OP yes

I don't believe all this "cold reading" shite, you can't tell anything useful about anyone by that unless they are looking for non-specifics.

The one i went to that was accurate, I won't tell you too much because it would be outing. But here's the basics. The lady didn't ask any questions of any kind before telling me stuff.

1. "your father was recently told he would die soon, this is nonsense, he has at least another 17 years left". He died 19 years after she said this.

2. "you are about to be offered a job in a field you've never considered, probably in the next two weeks so have a think about what you'd do with a totally out of the blue offer" - offer came in a month later. I wasn't job hunting, and not remotely senior enough to be head hunted.

3. "your boyfriend - his real name isn't what you think it is. Well it is officially - but just ask him". I did. He was a bit pissed off at being asked, but he was adopted when he was a baby and his parents gave him a different name because they wanted a new start with him, sort of thing. I had only been seeing him about 3 weeks so he hadn't shared that info (he might never have shared it, which is fair enough).

Quite how anyone figures that out from someone walking in and sitting in a chair, I don't know.

before anyone asks - this was more than 20 years ago, I didn't give a name, I walked in and paid in cash etc. It wasn't in the UK.

When people keep recordings of readings and listen to them later, they are always much less specific than they thought the were. We really help the mediums because we want it to be true, or we wouldn’t have gone for the reading!

If anyone I know suggests going to a medium (I never have), I always say to record them secretly. I'd guarantee that there will only be a few hits among a load of generic crap.

I have an unusual name, so FB is locked down tight. I'm on other SM under anonymous names, and I don't do much SM anyway.

I google my own name every now and then and can see there's hardly anything about me.

So a medium would have to rely on cold reading, and I'd say that for me this would give away a lot. EG, I still have ring marks more than 2 years after I left my ex after 30 years, etc, etc.

And we all give ourselves away all the times, without realising it. The skill is being able to read people, not some psychic ability.

It's very patronising to tell people they have remembered a personal experience wrongly

Except I was there, I also know what she was told and I've heard her story subtly change on each retelling so that it no longer resembles the truth. She believes it though.

Human memory is deeply flawed. Faith and hope we cling to like life rafts.

RosaWaiting Cold reading is easy, you can gain a lot of information about someone just by observing them. It can be learned and there are guides to how to do cold reading online if you're interested.

And we humans are very good at deluding ourselves, by filling in the gaps.

"I don't believe all this "cold reading" shite, you can't tell anything useful about anyone by that unless they are looking for non-specifics.
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You can. It's really easy.

My aunt went to see a lot of mediums after her son died in his 20s. It was a horrific crash that left him smeared across a road. My aunt was looking for a specific thing that he had always carried on him. She kept going back to the crash site, looking for this item. The last medium she saw told my aunt that she knew what it was she was looking for, and exactly where to find it. It was exactly where she said it was.

I still don't believe in mediums though. But I can't explain how she knew this information.

Mophead

yes, I've read all about the cold reading

but really - how do you get the examples I've given from a cold reading?

I agree with a pp, it's patronising to say that about imagining things. I can't play the recording back unless I go to mum's - she still has a cassette player - but we all listened to the bit about dad having at least another 17 years, every member of my family and close friends all listened to that part of the tape.

There are a lot of cynics on here ,but unless you have been told something specific that whoever is reading for you it would seem unbelievable, no one can cold read anyone;s past or future,unless they are psychic ,
I have never told anyone or given anything away before i had a reading and always gone to someone who couldnt possibly know me or anything about me,
I have certainly been to fakes and knew at once they were, but i have seen more genuine ones in the past,its a long time since i had a reading

My DM had a close friend who can read cards but she hasn't done it for many years, she used to do it for free she read a friends cards 1 night and couldn't get anything through she thought it was because she had a couple of drinks and said she would re do it next time the person came round, they died on the way home in a car accident...

Another friend had a reading and was told she was going to have a hard fight in court for a little girl she said the person was of there head and fake, 2 years later she was fighting in court to adopt her now DD she wasn't even fostering yet at the time of the reading...

I do believe in it 100% but if your paying for it 99% of the time they are fake and really good at reading people.

I actually would like to see another one but I'm convinced they are mostly fake.

I also think the vast majority wouldn't give what they consider to be "bad" news, so they probably can't help with anything I want to know now.

Also, when I saw the good one, I had no agenda, just suddenly wanted to go. I tried a couple since and they were clearly crap and trying to interpret things from how I was dressed etc, fecking stupid really. Like every woman who has a ring on her wedding finger is married - er, no.

Have only ever seen one, and it was ridiculous. She was 'told' or whatever that I had 2 young kids, approx ages 7 and 5. And I had also just had a baby and might have got married.

I had no children at that time, however DH and I had stepkids out for the day, oddly enough who matched the things she was 'told'.

If it was true, there would have been a lot of proof by now tbh. But there never is and its almost always vague nonsense. My FIL was really sucked in by some scammer who tried to get him to have 'private' sessions as his ex wanted to speak to him. His ex was the love of his life and she died at 35 after having an epileptic fit in the bath. In his awe at them getting details right, poor man had utterly forgotten that the story was in a fair few local papers. The 'psychic' had been booked for the area where he lives, and they had clearly studied up in order to start with 'Is there a X in here, who has lost someone called Helen?'.

Horrible horrible twat, that person was..and I think many of them are too. Its not just harmless fun, some take it so seriously.

In short, once he came and told us about this miracle, he clicked on that someone had just been studying on his life story. He had rage about this for ages, and also felt embarassed for being sucked in

"no one can cold read anyone;s past or future,unless they are psychic"

Not true, at all. People give away a hell of a lot simply by the way they dress, how they talk and how they interact with people, and it's not hard to make informed guesses about a person's future based on this. It's a party trick, nothing more.

It's all a sham. Nobody, but nobody has ever proven they have psychic ability that outperforms guesswork and knowledge of social conventions. And they never will.

Mophead "If anyone I know suggests going to a medium (I never have), I always say to record them secretly. I'd guarantee that there will only be a few hits among a load of generic crap."

I haven't seen one in the modern age
but in the past, it was pretty standard to offer a recording and I think now they tell you to just record it on your phone.

no question of secrecy about recording it.

Kid "People give away a hell of a lot simply by the way they dress, how they talk and how they interact with people, and it's not hard to make informed guesses about a person's future based on this. It's a party trick, nothing more."

sorry to keep on about cold reading, but it really puzzles me and it's not something that often gets discussed.

the way you dress doesn't give anything away, nothing important. It might have done in a previous era I guess - giving away social clues - but now you could be wearing jeans and a T shirt and either be a SAHP or working for a tech company - neither of which might be relevant to what they tell you any way.

I've also noticed people talking about asking questions - what questions? The lady I mentioned basically just told me to sit down!! Whatever my body language response to that, it has nothing to do with when dad dies/died or when I get a random job offer.

My friend's aunt was taken to one of those magdelan laundries when she got pregnant and her younger sister took her good coat off her as her father and priest dragged her inside. Later my friend's mother felt very ashamed of her lack of solidarity with her sister, her lack of empathy and compassion.
Decades later my frien and his mother went to see a medium and the medium said "your sister Anne says you're to forgive yourself for taking her coat". My friend's mum was very upset and my friend was confused as he hadnt heard about the coat before and his mother was so ashamed telling him whst she had done... so not a nice one. But the man who told me that, he is very practical and organised and not the type to cling to supernatural stuff

I went to see a few in the first few years after my 16 year old son was killed in a road crash. The majority talked of people called Ethel or Harry trying to contact me. They assumed by my age at the time that Grandparents may be named something like this.....I didn't know any Ethels or Harrys. I was terribly, terribly disappointed to realise its all total bollocks. If it wasn't then one of them would have had some sort of 'message' from a young lad who adored me and who would have wanted to contact me. I do believe in the after life but now think that our loved ones are at peace wherever they are. They don't need to come back, it's only us left that feel the pain. I also went to see a few famous psychics in shows. Again, it was all cold reading, they'd pick an ordinary name, eg 'Harry', who had trouble with his chest, and liked a smoke and a pint and a flutter on the horses. Some middle aged woman would become all flustered and say that it sounded just like her old Dad. 'Harry' would then give her a 'message' about her dodgy back / hips / leg and to keep an eye on them and get herself to the doctor. The psychic would then announce that she kept a photo of Harry up on the mantelpiece above the fireplace and everyone would gasp......Honestly a load of bollocks

I went to see a few mediums in my youth. They were all charlatans - and I say that as someone who wanted to believe. The Derren Brown thing is spot on.

One even told me my dead mum was in the room with us and wanted me to know everything was going to be fine - problem was my mum wasn't dead she was at home watching Eastenders.

The thing is OP if they tell you nice things I think it's ok to have hope that it will come to fruition - positive thinking - just don't spend any cash you can't afford x

They pray on the vulnerable, it's a load of bollocks.

I totally accept there are a lot of things we can't understand, but I lost my non existent patience with these charlatans when a bereaved friend dragged me along to a large meeting

She was hoping to hear from her late father, and got very excited when the medium talked to someone else about the town of Cromer. It was nothing whatever to do with her, but this apparently proved the medium's total accuracy because she'd once visited Cromer as a kid with both parents and the reference "must have been a message from her father". Worse still, by the time we got home the story had morphed into this being a personal message, with the usual nonsense about how the medium "couldn't possibly have known"

Hot reading ... cold reading ... confirmation bias ... the whole thing stinks

I would like to say its a load of crap but I have had a couple of strange experiences if its total bollocks.
I saw one guy in Edinburgh and he was recommended by a colleague, he didn't advertise and mainly did readings for businesses. I never even knew they did that. Anyway, I made the appointment I was just given a time and date.When I went the guy knew my name, how when I didn't give it? Also he wrote down on a piece of paper prior to me going that my Dad had died of a heart attack and was diabetic. He said I don't want you to say anything I will just tell you.I had to hold my hands up towards him. He was really accurate.

The other was an old lady in her 80s who got on my train. She talked about her grandson and said she was spiritualist. O.K I said.She said O your gay and told your Mum at 23 didn't you? and she said I was planning to go to Australia by myself. All that's true. she said she read for the the Spiritualist church and to ask for the lady with the hearing aids.

All a bit strange really.

puzzled

some people do that though don't they. I mean, they want to hear everything as a message. I know a lady who is going to every spiritualist church in and around London to get a message from her sister who passed.

I wouldn't take your friend's comment seriously at all. but in addition to the experience I had, another friend had someone write down the name and the profession of the person they would marry. Completely accurate. No room for misinterpretation and the friend didn't know the person at the time.

There'll be a scientific explanation for this at some point, I'm sure.

I honestly think some people are psychic, based on my own experiences as a teenager and my daughter's now she is at that age. (Without any prior influence from me on the subject).

I'll tell you what i've told her: if it's real in any way shape or form, it's not something anyone can control or use for profit, so anyone asking you to cross their palm with silver is automatically a con artist, whether they realise it or not.

I don't believe it's something that can be switched on at will. I don't believe i had any agency in the experiences i had when younger and i don't believe it's a consistent or reliable enough phenomenon for us to base our lives around.

Dsis went to see a psychic yesterday. She were told that a friend would be in a car accident and suffer a broken hip.

This morning one of her friends called her from the hospital. She'd been in a crash that fractured her hip and been kept in overnight for observation.🤯

My auntie visited a medium last year, she purposely book one right across the other side of the city she lives in. She gave a false name and used a works phone to book app she was determined to show this medium up and be proved right that it is all bollocks. However the medium was spot on with certain things including names, she mentioned a skeleton in the family closet. She also was correct with names from Some long dead relatives from the Europe. She mentioned very specific games that these relatives like to play when they all got together. She described how one died and what caused his death. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ it was bizarre and it's left us all thinking WTF. I'm still not sure what to believe but I can't disregard it completely.