To think living this rurally would be creepy?

[Blewbird]

We went to see a plot of land today with the potential to build a house. Absolutely beautiful land BUT you can't see another house. It's a "no one would hear you scream scenario." We have young DC and DH often travels. We have always lived in urban areas. Would this be bizarre or do you get used to it?

Backwoods, that’s why I’ve always appreciated the rural US. You have space for serious wilderness. And wildlife that can kill you. Though skunk, rather than bear, is my most vivid memory of rural Vermont...

You get used to it. But we did get a dog.

It wouldn’t be for me. I grew up in a very rural community and when I go back it takes a wee while to get back into the swing of things, like always making sure you have milk, fill the car up before leaving the town, knowing where the matches and candles are for the power cuts, making sure your phone is charged, due to said power cuts.

As kids we always got bussed to school so missed out on the going to a mates afterwards. Some of my friends had to spend the week away from home in order to attend school so if your really rural you may have that to consider.

I was brought up on a farm - no street lights, no nearby neighbours, lots of empty fields and forest between us and anywhere.

Honestly, I never found it creepy or felt scared. Crime in that area was basically non-existent - I think someone stole some tools from a shed once in the 20 years we lived there, and then his mum made him bring them back. We knew everyone, there were no strangers to commit crimes. As for being snowed in - that happened sometimes, but we always had a big freezer full of food and supplies so we were never at risk of starving. I do remember walking through the snow to the pub once though and being unsure if we'd get home and would have to sleep under a table.

Actual issues - zero public transport. If you have kids, they will curse you all through their teen years and you'll need to do a lot of driving and giving of lifts. Total lack of anything to do at the weekend - we didn't even have a cinema within reasonable distance. If you need an ambulance, it will take longer to come which is an actual worry for older folk. Visitors will get lost as SatNav doesn't work so well with very rural places. If you're like us, you'll have at least one neighbour who keeps an eye on everything and it'll be less private than you think - he used to phone my dad to say 'she's on her way - she just drove past the ford outside my place' when I came down to visit at the weekend from university.

But it is quiet, the air is nicer, there is a lovely sense of community in some of those places and I wouldn't change my upbringing for the world.

I'm afraid I'd have no time for juicy fat dick sucking if I was living on the edge of a ruined village, on an island, making fuel from seals and dandelions.

Schmoople;

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the longest I have gone without seeing someone outside of the 4of us is 7 months

Whoa! And you all came out of it alive?

Yes, does that mean you didn’t go to the shops for 7 months too?!

You can tell the Easter break has started...anyway back to the thread, I'm just wondering if Savernake forest has any witch activity going on because the ancient forest not too far from me certainly has, dogs act strange when walking through it apparently..sorry OP, I know it's slightly OT.

I love it, but I know people who hate it and never get used to it. Honestly, OP, I would try to find somewhere you can try it for a while before pouring so much money and energy into buying a plot and building a house which you might find you just can't bear to live in.

My DH grew up in a very remote cottage, He hated parts of it as school was his whole social life as a child. Lots of space to play though. It used to take him 2 hours each way to get to secondary school. The gossip also was something else. And that has not changed - we still have family there. Although there are no houses very nearby, there is lots of gossip in the nearest village and shops. And as a result the service can be very slow.
And it is not true if you are in England that there is no crime. Yes you will not get opportunist crime. But there are gangs that travel around sussing out whether remote houses have lots of valuables. If you have all IKEA furniture you will be fine. If your house is full of antiques you are at risk of being burgled.

Love the forest story.

I wouldn’t want to live remotely, no matter how lovely the property. I’m not hugely social but I do like knowing people are pretty nearby. And we are really used to walking to nearby shops/school.

I’d really hate living in such an isolated place.
I like privacy but also like to be able to walk to local shops.
I have friends who live where they have to get the car out to do anything, not for me

No from me too.
I would be freaked out at night when winter came (and it was dark and rainy from 3 onwards).

It was the best thing we ever did moving to a rural house! I absolutely love it. I love getting out of the car after a hectic day at work and not hearing a single sound! I used to be more scared when I lived in a village as I never knew who could be skulking around

I grew up in big city centres. Moved to a village (pop 1000ish) when I was 30+ and fitted right in. (Worked hard at fitting right into the community and not being another FEB / White Settler but fitted right in. Scotland IS open!) Sometimes wish I'd moved somewhere more remote. The only thing I would advise is knowing how to drive. I didn't learn how to drive when I lived in the city because I didn't have need to. Out here I have to have a vehicle.

I would personally find it a bit creepy as I’m used to living in large, fast paced cities ie London and having everything I need at my fingertips. I don’t particularly like insular and gossipy communities found in more rural villages where everyone knows each other. In large cities you may be constantly surrounded by strangers, but those people aren’t necessarily invested in your personal life as those in close knit communities may be.

I would find it creepy if a serious incident occurred as I would feel vulnerable living so remote. It may not be sinister on a day to day basis but may be quite lonely and isolating if there will be periods of you and your young children alone whilst he’s travelling.

For me it would be a no as it would be an absolute culture shock. I’m not the most social person myself but I would hate to live so far people in general let alone from friends/family

As for the crime thing. A friend in the village never locks his doors because if he did, "People wouldn't be able to borrow things they needed when he was out.... or bring them back."

Not a chance.
More likely to be broken into.
And the way things are these days,burglars wouldn’t care if the house was occupied or not.

I grew up rurally and have brought my kids up in a similar location.wild horses wouldn't be able to drag me to live in a town

I would absolutely love that. You'd need to beef up your security to feel safe though,

Also fine when you are healthy and mobile. But terrible if you get ill and need frequent hospital appointments and/or can no longer drive. I once met someone who was working with elderly people in isolated rural areas and she said most of them were unable to go anywhere as they could not drive any longer, and taxis were very expensive - if they could even get a taxi where they were.
It is better for those whose families have always lived in a remote area because the chances are high that you will have family around who can help.