To think living this rurally would be creepy?

[Blewbird]

We went to see a plot of land today with the potential to build a house. Absolutely beautiful land BUT you can't see another house. It's a "no one would hear you scream scenario." We have young DC and DH often travels. We have always lived in urban areas. Would this be bizarre or do you get used to it?

I live on a residential street (end of terrace) and whenever dh goes away which isn't often I spend the whole night listening for burglars 😂 I would be a nervous wreck living in the middle of nowhere but it would be my Sisters idea of heaven!!

Bliss! This is us too.

My mother lives in a place like that and it frightens the hell out of me. No neighbours, street lights, no shop for 10 miles. Hideous. I could never get used to it.

I stayed with a friend who lived very remotely (as in up a mountain, several miles away from any road!). They didn’t lock their doors or anything overnight and I felt very unnerved and uncomfortable. Her partner had a gun license and several shotguns in case of intruders which freaked me out even more because he was quite mentally unstable and the entire family were heavy weed users. I stayed with them for a while and couldn’t wait to leave. Being that far removed from “reality” and not being able to nip to the shop or go anywhere without a car just felt very oppressive. Also, it was strange but the silence was deafening. I’m a city girl so found it quite intense and suffocating. I felt oddly quite low and depressed in the evenings there and wondered if this why my friend and her family also all struggled with various mental health illnesses and paralysing social anxiety.

I do love the countryside but I couldn’t live that rurally. A nice little village in the Lakes or Warwickshire would do me nicely but not literally the middle of nowhere ever again.

Not okay for me!

I always looked at a derelict house in the middle of a field when I was younger and hoped I would be the one the bring it back to life and live the good life there. I drove past it not long ago and thought how horrendous it would be in the dead of night if I was alone in there and something went bump! I'm too much of a scaredy cat for that!

Noise wise- bliss.
Terror wise- nope! Not ever.

My idea of heaven!

What I find odd is when you find two houses right next to each other in the middle of nowhere!

Nope. I would hate it. I hate not having people at least near by and driving everywhere all the time makes me depressed. Lived like this with my in-laws for a while... lasted 5 months. Hated all 5 of them

I’d hate this, there’s no where around if you need to get a pint of milk quickly. I’d feel isolated

@Seeingadistance usually it’s because they are family...so parents and then son or daughter. Here in Ireland most houses near to each other are some way related. Not always,but usually.

The driving bit wouldn't bother me. We have to drive DC to school now anyway. It's more the terror bit.... I think I'm quite a nervous Nelly really. A giant dog would help and we could build it to a high security spec but you can't keep the headless horseman out!

I'd love it

Sounds like my idea of heaven!

@Shmoople

Are you on nodding terms with the local headless horseman

I think I’m practically one of them!

As a teenager who grew up rurally I couldn’t do that to my kids

I do love it, we are very rural and it's bliss.
We have a 30 mile round trip to the nearest shop, but that's not a problem if you are organised. We don't lock our doors at night, and the keys to my car live in the ignition!

We once rented a big farmhouse on it's own a couple of miles from the nearest village. I thought it would be great but I grew to hate it. Although it wasn't that remote I felt so lonely. I knew no one in the village as I never saw anyone and felt like a complete outsider. The idea of bringing up my family out there was not a good one as I would have to drive them everywhere and have so few visitors as few people could be bothered to come out to see us. We built our own house but we did it on the edge of a village, the children could walk to the school and there's a shop and a pub. Plenty to do even for our now teens. It is completely silent where we live, especially at night and we love it.

Don’t watch Hush on Netflix then OP. My dream house is a one in the middle of the woods with no neighbours. However, that film has made me rethink, and even with living in the city I told DH we need a spare mobile with a sim in it charged, hidden and ready in the house in the event of an emergency. Also, I’m lazy and I’d hate to have to wake up early to drive the kids to school.

I lived very rurally for 12 years and I loved it, no visible neighbours until the steading next door was converted into a house. So there was just 4 houses then. It was fabulous, I did have to be organised if snow was forecast, always had to make sure that we had enough oil, coal, logs and diesel for the inevitable power cuts when we needed the generator. I just made sure that my food stocks didn't run low as well. It's something I got used to. My husband was away on business a lot and I had no children living at home. We did have three very noisy boxer dogs so I felt very safe, we had all wooden/tiled floors so the sound of their barking really echoed.
The dark skies were amazing, it's something you never see in a town. We also had a lot of wild life, deer lived in the glen and we used to see them running over the fields. In the pre dawn light that was incredible.
I'd never consider living that rurally with small or even teenage children. I've moved to the edge of a market town now, I miss the peace and especially the views but it's a time in my life that's over now. Sorry about the essay!

We lived in a remote-ish cottage for a year, then moved to the edge of a village, as despite the gorgeous views, wildlife etc the cottage just felt too isolated for us. Since the shop closed even the village is a pain as we have to drive (or cycle/long walk) just for a pint of milk or Sunday paper.

And the dire public transport means the kids became increasingly lift dependent as their social lives widened out - they both learned to drive as soon as they could - but it still a pain, as they ended up going to school 20 miles away (nearest decent 6th form) and making friends there. And at least when they were little they had primary school friends in the village they could walk round to, but where you are looking - not even that? I wouldn't; not with kids, anyway.

We’re probably half a mile from neighbours one side and less the other but with a woody hill and livery stables in between us
I often finish posts with ‘no one can hear me scream’ lol
Love it though and the stars! Oh the stars ...

My idea of hell. As much as my neighbours sometimes drive me mad, I do know if I screamed like I was being murdered, they would come running.

(I wouldn't come running if I thought they were being murdered as I'm not a big burly man, but I would at least call the police for them.)

Nope I like a few houses around.

I stayed in a holiday house on the edge of a forest with houses out of sight, I hated it. I went on holiday a day earlier than DH due to his work and stayed a night on my own with the DC. I ended up baracading the doors as I was so edgy! I didn't get a wink of sleep until the sun rose.

Absolutely no way. Wait til ypur young DC is a teen and it will be even more of a nightmare

Hate it! Grew up somewhere like this and when I got older I could never stay at home on my own as I was too scared. As an adult now and with dh travel I often get a bit scared and we live in a city, so being in the middle of nowhere would be a big no no for me!